(Closed) Finish school or buy a house or have kids…

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

For me this is a very simple decision- Finish Your Degree.   Once you have a degree you have it forever, that means you are employable not matter what happens in your future.  I am all for the Stay-At-Home Mom thing but set yourself up for success in case you want or need to return to work after having babies. 

You never know what life will bring and it is important to have options. A degree gives you options.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

You didn’t mention your age which is sometimes a factor, but I think regardless I would recommend getting your degree. I also would love to be a Stay-At-Home Mom when we have kids – although most likely that will not happen – so I understand the desire and that you don’t think your degree will even be worth anything once you have kids and you aren’t working. Trust me, though, it will. You may want to realize career goals in the future once your kids are grown and the degree will probably put you in the direction you need to be. I also think it’s important to show your children how much you value education and the success it can bring, and having a degree can do this (among other things of course). 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Well…what do YOU want to do? Really… because people can tell you what the right thing to do is based on their perspective but if you really want to TTC then that is your decision and you should do what will make YOU happy. I do not see why you can not finish your degree now while you can, but it is up to you.

In my case, life also took a turn  when I wound up pregnant, but I most certainly do not see it as putting my life on hold. I fully plan on returning to school to complete my education while being a Stay-At-Home Mom and working part-time. For me, it will actually be a lot easier as before I had to work and it took me years just to get my associates. It is not impossible.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Finish your degree!

Post # 7
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Finish your degree.

Post # 8
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3766 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Finish your degree!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I think I need a bit more info before I can give any advice. What would you go back to school for and how long would it take you? Are you currently working? Would a degree greatly change your job opportunities? Or is it more of an “I need to finish school” kind of thing? You need to think of the big picture–we are always led to believe we have to have a degree, but if your goals include having children and staying home with them, I don’t see that there would be much reward. Could you possibly finish a degree in something general more quickly so that someday you could get a masters if you choose to?

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mnp:  How much of the degree do you have left? If it’s less than 2 years, I would finish it. People can NEVER take away your education. Even if you end up being a Stay-At-Home Mom forever, education is never bad IMO. You know the old saying “educate a woman, educate a home” (meaning the kids etc.).

Once you have kids it will be that much harder to finish.

Yeah if you don’t use the degree it might be harder to get employment, but I think if you don’t finish the degree it will be even more difficult.

You don’t want any regrets.

And this will sound very negative but it happened to my mom… if you’re a Stay-At-Home Mom and your husband leaves, and you have no education… you’re screwed. She did have an education but had to get further educated. It would have been even harder had she given up on her first degree before I was born.

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You won’t get the right answer from a bunch of random people on the internet, you need to decide on your own with Fiance.  I also agree that going back to get your degree is uber important but that doesn’t mean you can’t do it later down the road either.  For me, my plan falls like this: finish school, get married, buy a house, have kids but that’s what works for ME and may not work for someone else.

I think a house is a great investment but so is a degree.  Even if you finish than end up as a Stay-At-Home Mom (which major kudos to you, I don’t think I could do that) you still have that degree in the long run, even if you never work in a field that you graduated in.  My FI’s mother has been unemployed for almost 2 years and is having a heck of a time finding a job, just because she doesn’t have a degree. 

You could always have babies than go back online and finish up after a few years. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If you are nearly done with your degree. I would also advising finishing. While it isn’t impossible having kids and going back to school will be tough.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@BeeBiscuit:  Agree, +1, what she said, great advice, set yourself up to succeed in the future, who knows what other curveballs will come your way, have something to fall back on.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

How far left do you have in your degree, and what is it in? 

I would finish it, but I’m also going to school for a PhD so I’m a little school cray-cray to begin with.  

What if your future children’s daddy (your hubby) died and you had no way to support the kids, but this degree? 

Get the degree! 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree that you should finish your degree as well.

However, I too would like a little more information re: how old you are, how much longer you have left to earn your degree, etc. Also, why are you in a LDR and when are you planning on living together?

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