(Closed) "fire" my bridesmaid

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow I would quit if I were your bridesmaid. 

Post # 4
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1211 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If someone sent me a message like that, I’d just step down as a bridesmaid. 

Post # 5
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805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Hang out? Does this mean she has to go out with you every day, or every weekend or what? And you want a load of children with you for a whole day from early morning breakfast onwards? That would be chaos!

And doesn’t matter if they have family stuff to attend to or any thing?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think it’s a little over the top.  None of my bridesmaids were available to try on dresses with me and only two of them made it to my bridal shower.  I didn’t hold it against them.  They were there on the wedding day and that’s what counts.

Post # 10
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

A bridesmaid has one job: buy the dress and stand with you at the wedding. She is not required to attend fittings, or showers, or bachelorettes, or plan anything, or help with DIY or do anything else at all. If you have other ideas, be sure to communicate that now our your BMs can judge whether they care enough to bother. To be honest, your post sounds like ou expect a lot of these ladies and demand perfection. Your Bridesmaid or Best Man potentially might not show up and that ruins your wedding??? You realize the weddings to celebrate your union, not the party, right? 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Which is true?

 

1. If you ask your bridesmaids to be somewhere, and they cannot attend due to other committments.  This is unacceptable so you fire them.

 

2. If you ask your bridesmaids to be somewhere, and they say they will attend but then do not.  This is unacceptable so you fire them.

 

 

Post # 14
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805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Children get sick, cars breakdown, babysitters don’t show up. Certain things happen that are unavoidable and maybe the problem is she finds it difficult to talk to you so she just doesn’t bother calling to say she can’t be there. 

She doesn’t “hang out”, that just makes me think that’s what teenagers do. You are getting married and her life does not revolve around what you want to do for the next 12 months or however long it is until your wedding day. Someone else said they would step down if it were them, and I think I would too. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

The way you wrote your original post that was not clear.  In that post, it sounds like you are upset because your bridesmaids are not doing everything you asked them to.  Really, I think you are upset because they SAID they would be somewhere and then did not show up.  

I think it’s fine to be upset when people fail to keep their promises, but remember that they don’t HAVE to do anything but wear the dress you ask at the wedding.  

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