Post # 1
The title says it all. I don’t know what to do in terms of telling people. I have planned and planned for our upcoming wedding and I am so nervous/excited for it but now this feels like it is overshadowing things. It just happened. I will really really try to not let it but how can it not creep into my thoughts! My boss is just a ****. I’m thinking I could try to keep it from my parents, family and friends and not tell them until we get back from the honeymoon but I don’t know how doable that will be. My mom calls me at work a couple times a week just to chat and sends an email about once per week – she’ll figure something is up. My work phone and email will be disabled. I thought of saying I took vacation time early – but I’d be off more than I have vacation time. I know my parents are so proud of me and they will want to brag to relatives who are travelling long distances to the wedding with flights etc. about how successful I am and I just don’t know what to do. We are all under a lot of wedding stress anyways and I don’t know how my parents would deal with this much added stress. I also don’t want to let this get in the way of the most magical day of my life. Suggestions?
Post # 3
Honestly, I don’t think that anyone is going to look down on your or think that you are unsuccessful because you lost your job. Unfortunately, that is just what is happening right now to even the most talented people. I would just be honest about it but not dwell on it. Keeping this a secret will probably make you feel worse because it will be all bottled up inside you. I’m sorry you lost your job. I’m sure there is something better out there, you just have to find it!
Post # 4
I agree with missasb just be honest!! Because in the long run you will feel better with not keeping a secret
Post # 5
I agree, be honest. You’ll be much more torn up if you’re pretending everything is okay all weekend. I’m sorry you lost your job but it is happening to a lot of people, and I think your family will understand that!
Post # 6
sorry to hear you’ve lost your job. this is a recession in america, so it’s not weird/surprise companies let people go.
dont worry about not having a job – think of it as time off to prepare for wedding. maybe you can reflect on what you want to do and change/move on to another career
good luck and best wishes to you
Post # 7
Just wondering and you don’t have to tell me if you don’t want to, but did you get laid off or did you get fired?
Post # 8
i wouldn’t waste energy hiding this. if your parents would be the types to brag to relatives, it would be better if they knew beforehand otherwise it would make for some awkward conversations. better to be honest than hide it because you’re ashamed or worried about what people may think. i lost my job the week of my 10 year reunion and i was bummed but you know, it turned out okay.
just take advantage of the newly acquired free time to get things settled for the wedding and to relax.
Post # 9
I would be honest.. there is no need to hide this kinda stuff. Plus I would rather as an adult someone told me the truth. I sometimes feel like Im going to be in trouble or something if I tell something dissapointing to my parents.. and they say oh dear. You just need to be matter of fact. good luck with your new job hunt and also good luck with your wedding!
Post # 10
I don’t see what’s wrong with being honest. It seems like you are handling it very well. If you can handle it this well then everyone else should be able to too.
Post # 11
Its okay, I don’t think people will be hard on you. It’s been happening a lot during the past few years.
Personally, I would be thrilled about having that extra time off to plan more stuff before my wedding, but I’m a pretty carefree person and I always see the world as having more jobs out there.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry you lost your job. I would be honest about it though. It stinks, but in this economy it’s happening to tons of people. You don’t have anything to be ashamed of. People will follow your lead—if you keep your head up about it and keep the focus on your wedding, others will do the same.