(Closed) Fired for getting married?!

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2017

This sounds like a company that you shouldnt even be working for. It really bugs me when companies dont take care of their people, ESPECIALLY during a big event like a wedding. You are giving them plenty of notice. More than most people would give. If you have vacation/personal days you are allowed to take them without explanantion of what you are doing/why you are taking them, Unless like somenone mentioned they have specific blackout dates due to a busy season. If its feasile to find another job pretty easily, I would quit right before the wedding, enjoy the time you need off and after your honeymoon start the job search.

 

Start your married life off right, by finding a job that better suits you.

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

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cb450k7:  all time requests off are just that… requests. They can be denied. However, more than a year ahead of time should not be an issue. Seems like you’re unhappy at this job anyways, I would just start looking for a new job. Once you find something, tell them of your planned days off upon hiring. Good luck.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

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cb450k7:  

You haven’t answered about blackout days…is it just 5 days you are taking off, or is there more…something here doesn’t add up…

My fiance has blackout days…there was literally one two week window ALL YEAR that we could get married this year…yup, it sucks, but it is what it is…my choices were to suck it up and roll with the dates, or get married next year and have more flexibility…we are choosing to work around his work schedule

 

Post # 19
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840 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Time to start looking for a new job. If youve been there over a year, just start interviewing. State your wedding dates after you get a new offer but before you accept it. Problem solved.

Post # 20
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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cb450k7:  If you have personal days, take them – you can go around your supervisor, directly to HR to get their policys regarding using those days. Or.. at least you have a year to look for another job you like more 😛 

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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cb450k7:  Sorry this is happening to you. Some employers/bosses are assholes and it seems nothing can be done about it. We have weird junk going on around here, but who to tell?? There’s nobody. They just get away with it. I’m with ya. Get a new job, even before the wedding if you want to.

Post # 22
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1203 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I agree with PPs on finding a new job… who wants to start a marriage off by having to deal with outside bullshit? I certainly wouldn’t!

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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LavenderMama89:  Bad advice.  It may be that the people who have been there longer have already requested time off.  We dont know.  Going around supervisor?  Only if you dont need the job.

Post # 24
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9481 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if this manager is know it be unreasonable, take it up with HR.  that is what they are there for.

Post # 25
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893 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

OK, so what ARE the days they’re wanting you to switch to and why?  You still haven’t answered if you’re trying to take time during a blackout.  

Also, your wedding is a YEAR away.  Just, you know, get a new job.  Why hang around?

Post # 26
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23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Did you submit your leave request in writing last year for approval? Cause if you have it in writing that you asked to take your vacation days during a blackout period and it was approved by your supervisor, than you can take that to the labour board.

 

However, if you just asked for 5 days off during a blackout peiord and your letter of offer indicates that vacation requests are denied during that time….you might not have a leg to stand on.

Your situation sounds awful. If it was me, I’d start updating my resume. Good luck.

Post # 27
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106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You said you needed 5 business days off becuase of DIY, so I take it that is before the wedding, are you asking for time off after the wedding too?  How much time total are you asking for?  How many days will you earn between now and then?  Right now, due to my years of service I earn 5 weeks a year, however I can only take 2 weeks maximum at a time (unless I work out something with my manager, but 2 weeks is the HR policy) and I have to make sure there is coverage for my job, and that it isn’t during a blackout time.  I don’t find the response you got completely out of line- and i agree with a pp that I probably would not have said i needed the time for my wedding, just you need to take xx days as vacation.

 

Post # 28
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17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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ajillity81:  I second this advice. I would also look for a new job too… Good luck!

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Post # 29
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1017 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

This is confusing, I assume you get vacation time in your job so there must be some missing information.  In my job, I can take vacation pretty much whenever I want because I have no cross shift etc.  I just am reasonable, if there is a big project I know about I will work around it.

 My husband though can’t take vacation during certain times – even though we work for the same company -and everyone on the crew gets rotating priority on vacation picks.  If it’s his year to be second in picking he might not get times off he prefers, that’s just life and no one’s reasons for wanting vacation is more valid… especially if it’s for DIY stuff and not the actual wedding.   So it depends on your job but it sounds like in your work environment telling them it’s for wedding diy stuff probably wasn’t the best choice as you don’t need to give a reason for vacation.

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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juanita.kelly.9:  I’m not so much as saying to “go around her supervisor and do it” as much as I am saying to ask HR about what their policies are regarding taking said vacation time. Most companys have an HR with open door policies, they cannot fire you for using your vacation time you earned. That is EXACTLY why companys have an HR department in the first place.

I hardly doubt enough coworkers planned their vacation over a year in advance for those exact same dates to where she cant take off for her wedding. Her supervisor is being unreasonable, and if she earned her vacation time they cannot fire her for using it. 

Either way, it sounds like she has a year to look for another job, especially if it’s not what she wants to be doing long term.

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