Post # 1
So we’ve had this free “wedding coordinator” aka one of my mom’s best friends from work “helping” us for us wedding. We’ve been engaged since last August and we had to chase this coordinator down (who lives over an hr away) all the way until January! We FINALLY got to meet face to face in January and she was actually really sweet and helpful. We hadn’t heard from her in a while, so we reached out to her in April to see if she could meet and go over everything. Her response was that she was busy every weekend in April and May (baking cakes, church functions, visiting grandchildren) and that the one weekend in could that she could meet was the one weekend we were out of town! She rescheduled for July 6th, cancelled, rescheduled for July 7th, cancelled, and asked us to meet July 20th Or August 3rd. We are getting married in August and she is clueless as to what is going on. She hasn’t asked us one detail about our wedding! She doesn’t even know our colors, who’s in our wedding party, location, order of events, nothing. We emailed her timelines, contracts, schedules, ideas, and she never responded.
My fiancé does Crossfit and he became close friends with this married couple- the woman happens to be a wedding planner and she volunteered to do EVERYTHING for FREE!!!!!! (Her normal pricing is $1,800). We talked to her for 3.5 hours. She has all of our contracts, has contacted our vendors to meet at our venue prior to the wedding, has everyone’s point of contact and ETA, has our entire bridal party’s contact info, has come up with excel spreadsheets with wedding details, has asked about a million questions, gave us so many ideas, and has been in constant communication via phone and email since we met with her on Saturday morning. I am so relieved!!!!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Glad you got it all figured out!
Post # 5
@Chelwilly: good idea not going with that original coordinator. she doesn’t seem like she even cared. recipe for disaster. the new one sounds totally together. it’s very generous of her to offer this for you for free.
Post # 6
@Chelwilly: Oh goodness. I was a little panicked reading the first part of your post, but so relieved the situation turned out for the better!!! Hope it’s not awkward for your mom now, but honestly her friend was just not up to par!
Post # 7
Wow, sounds like this new planner is worth way more than her regular fee of $1,850! That’s great it all worked out for you, and for FREE!
Post # 8
@Chelwilly: I’m sorry but I can’t help but laugh about you complaining about the free helper. Come on now. This lady is a friend of your mom and clearly didn’t want to really help all that much. I’m glad you have someone else, but keep in mind that when someone is doing you a (free) favor they don’t owe you anything.
Post # 9
You get what you pay for with anything in life. At the same time, if someone is OFFERING you the favor, volunteering of their own free will, then they should honor their commitment. I think it’s perfectly reasonable to expect someone to honor their word and commitment when they give it. If someone offers to help then the expectation is actual help. However, the OP was also responsible for laying out her expectations so that her mom’s friend could know whether or not it was a task she was truly up for. Sounds like the OP’s expectations were a little above and beyond what her mom’s friend was capable of, but that should’ve been addressed in the beginning before the commitment was fully made.
Post # 10
@Chelwilly: Although she’s not charging her, you are planning on paying her something right? Maybe $500-$1000
Post # 11
Right before you right a post there is a little saying that says “please avoid personal attacks and snarkiness”
Post # 14
@Chelwilly: you were chasing her since january! if you had to chase her for 7mts did you not get the hint! did you ask her? or did she just mention in passing she would help? maybe she does not want to offer her services for free, I know I would hope someone would not presue me for free services, i am a make up artist and would be pissed if people/friends wanted my services for nothing and presued me for them without a formal/financial agreement! I may do it at a reduced rate but no one should expect this for free! would you work for nothing! sorry im just saying!
Even though your new wedding planner is offering free services its still respectful to give some payment, this is just manners. :))
Post # 15
You have to remember, this is one of my mom’s best friends, so yes I got the hint, but I was also in a tough spot for a while, I don’t want to upset my mom’s friend or my mom. I wanted to give her chances..
YES I’m giving the new coordinator $$ for helping, I didn’t know I needed to put that in my story description, lol. We also have other “free” vendors but EVERYONE is getting compensated, of course!
Post # 16
and she was NOT pursued for free services?! She volunteered. I would never pursue someone to do something for me for free.