Post # 16
I would have never had them but our venue offers fireworks in their package. Our guests weren’t expecting It and they said they really enjoyed the show so I’m really glad we had them. Id say go for it! Here’s a shot from our wedding.
Post # 17
Who doesn’t love fireworks? If you want them and can afford them, who cares what others have to say?
Post # 18
julies1949 : as much as I’d absolutely love to not care what anyone thinks I’m only human.
Post # 19
pearfectprincess : The same people who criicize you having fireworks are probably copying other things off Pinterest, Style Me Pretty etc. This is not a decision that affects anyone else directly, like an issue of etiquette.
Post # 20
Is it over the top? Yeah. As a guest would I be overly concerned or be overly negative about it? Only if it was obvious that the fireworks display was made a priority over guest comfort or at the expense of your guests pocketbooks. It’s pretty much the same view I would take of anyone who prioritises any luxury item over what is actually a necessity when hosting people.
So if I saw a fireworks display but then you had a cash bar? Yeah I am rolling my eyes and will probably not have positive things to say the next day. If you have a reception during a meal time and skimp on food while having a fireworks display? I’m definitely going to think negatively about the whole experience. If you have a fireworks display but didn’t bother to make sure to have enough chairs for all of your guests or to protect them from the elements like having a tent for an outdoor wedding? I’m going to definitely say you had no business having fireworks. But as long as all of the elements of being a good host are taken care of without skimping? Then go ahead and do it.
Post # 21
annabananabee : they are over the top, but I guess Fiance and I are too. Thank you to everyone who responded, it’s nice hearing from objective strangers. I’m going to go ahead and do it, hopefully all of our guests have a lovely time and enjoy it.
I completely agree it would be ridiculous to do something like fireworks and skimp on guest comfort. I would be very embarrassed to do that. We don’t have a strict budget so it’s not like we have to spend less on another area to afford the fireworks. Our budget is what it is because that’s what we decided to work with, not because that’s all we have to work with. If it goes over it’s not the end of the world.
We are having passed hors d’ouvres during cocktail hour, and then dinner. Dessert will be wedding cake, sugar cookies and a bananas fosters station with a chef! Open bar. Plenty of food and drinks for everyone, and of course places for everyone to sit comfortably.
I would also never dream of doing a cash bar, they are not common where I’m from and I’ve never been to a wedding with one. I have no judgment for other people doing that, i understand there are different norms in different areas and social groups. Fiance mom would flip if we even brought that up🤣 She’s hyper aware of etiquette and an excellent hostess, she’s been a great guide whenever I’ve had questions about anything.
Post # 22
The only thing I would make sure to do, is mention it to any veterans so they can duck out before they go off if neccesary. Fireworks can be a trigger for PTSD. We stopped having fireworks on the 4th of July because a family member who actually defended the freedom we were celebrating, could no longer attend events with fireworks.
Post # 23
Agreed with kmjkh about giving everyone a heads up. I know the suprise element is really special, but you never know who will have a terrible reaction. It is not just vetrans who can’t tolerate them. And, be sure to give a heads up to your photographer so they have camera settings perfected in advance! Firework photos may need different settings than normal outdoor night photos.
I LOVE fireworks and would look forward to them at someone else’s wedding. We aren’t even having sparklers because it makes my partner super nervous, but c’est la vie. I hope you and your guests have a blast and get some gorgeous photos.
Post # 24
I’d be judgy only if there was not enough food or a cash bar and a firework show – and I don’t care if a cash bar is the “norm”. I can assure you that for certain people everywhere it’s just not done.
I say enjoy the show and take photos! But I love fireworks and would be happy to see them at a wedding.
Post # 25
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
We had fireworks at our wedding and we also gave sparklers to our guests . It was spectacular and it didn’t feel over the top
Post # 26
- Wedding: December 2018 - City, State
Omg never thought of this even though my fiance always does firework shows at BBQs and events!!! Huge facepalm moment!!!!!
Post # 27
Dude, if I could afford fireworks, I would TOTALLY DO FIREWORKS! I don’t see how it would be tacky. I mean, I would enjoy seeing a fireworks show at a wedding, for sure.
Post # 28
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
I voted no, simply because I’ve seen soooo many mediocre firework shows at wedding. I’m just sick of it. If you can really go for a great firework show then yes, but they really need to be coordinated and not just fired to pass time. I guess it’s not as easy as it sounds.
But personally I’d love to experience a great firework show at the wedding I’m attending to.
Post # 29
sunburn : I’d be judgy only if there was not enough food or a cash bar and a firework show
Yes! If you are sacrificing guest comfort to afford fireworks, major side eye. If its just the cherry on top, I think it still sounds OTT, but who cares, fireworks are cool.