Firing nanny again !!

posted 10 months ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
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Nanny here!

My first instinct is that you aren’t paying your nannies enough to WANT to come back and work. I know it was a bit rocky with my current family in the beginning, but I ALWAYS felt appreciated. 100% that was the ONLY reason I came to work some days. After a year of employment they gave me $1/hour raise, but I digress.

It is also possible that you are just bad at picking nannies. I found my current family on Facebook. I sent my resume, references, and was subject to a background check before being hired.

I think when it comes to a stranger in your home, you can never do too much homework. 

In what city do you live? Chances are, I will have connections to nannies seeking employment near you. Feel free to PM me if you’d like.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
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lilceeja124 :  I hate to seem like a know-it-all, but please do not ever under any circumstances pay your nanny under the table. No reputable nanny will accept this as a form of payment. 

Also, it’s illegal. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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lilceeja124 :  you say “short period” – does that mean you aren’t looking for a long term nanny? That might also be the problem if they need job security. Under the table means you aren’t paying employer taxes for them so they either (1) aren’t reporting their income or (2) are reporting it and paying both shares of the taxes themselves.  I’m a litigation paralegal so I have a different perspective, but not having reported income can really screw people who are injured (either on the job or off) and need to make a wage claim. Plus then they aren’t getting their quarters for social security down the line. Just something to consider. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

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kristin36890 :  The only legitimate emergency in which someone is unable to use a phone for 2 days is when they’re in jail. Or dead. Either way, neither makes for a good nanny.

Post # 22
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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lilceeja124 :  “I would think they would prefer under the table for a short period but who knows”

What do you mean by “short period?” Is this position only temporary? 

Post # 23
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Newbee
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lilceeja124 :  OMG! She slapped the baby?? 

I’d get this girl in so much trouble! I was a nanny for few years and actually, lived with a family for 3 years and had no problem whatsoever with them, I got to see the boys I used to nanny in 2017, (9 years later 😭😭😭😭 love them!). 

I also worked for a family for 2 years and looked after their 8 moths son, I was a live out and the only time I didn’t go to work was when we had a big out break of H1N1 here and I could not risk the baby.. I was fine of course.

ive always looked after the kids as they were my own, I’d spend a week with the boys I was a living for (I mean, both parents had a work trip so.. 24/7 and thank goodness everything went well, but also, I’m extremely responsible especially with kids ..).

I’m sorry you are having trouble with nannies, but don’t lose hope, there’s loads of amazing girls out there looking for a job. 

PS: I’d have fired my nanny too if her boyfriend was in my house with no permission, that’s so inappropriate. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

have you considered hosting an au pair?  my mom is our nanny but on all my mom groups other moms say hosting an au pair is less than paying full time daycare.

Post # 26
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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lilceeja124 :  Okay well honestly I think this is going to make things a lot more difficult then and I don’t really have any advice unfortunately. Most nannys want something full-time and long-term. So even if you are paying them well, they know it’s temporary so they’ll continue to look for a new job while working for you. 

Have you looked into daycare?

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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lilceeja124 :  if you need just the summer have you considered asking around for local school teachers who want a summer gig? Or a really responsible college student? Someone who will certainly only want a summer gig and not be looking for something longer term. 

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We have a nanny and I would strongly encourage you to stop paying a nanny under the table. Please pay her the legal wage, pay Into her insurance/social security/taxes,and abide by the rest of the laws in your country. I’m sorry to hear you are having trouble, but following employment laws is not only legal but respectful and dignifying to your employee.

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