Post # 1
Well Bees. I’m not going to lie, I’m a little nervous coming up to our first anniversary this weekend. I had suggested a weekend away at the spa/hotel where we spent our wedding night, and then a picnic at our venue, and he poo poo’ed my idea, so I put him in charge of our anniversary. I’ve asked him if he’s planned it, and that I’d like to do something really nice since it’s our first anniversary, and honestly, because romance isn’t his forte and I wanted to challenge him. I was a bit mad that he had shot down my idea, which wasn’t fancy, but was sentimental. Now I’m totally regretting leaving it in his hands because I’m terrified of being let down and I sort of feel like it’s inevitable, the guy just sucks at this stuff (and I mean that in the most lovingly way possible)!!! I mentioned something about going away for the night and he looked like a deer in the headlights. Ugh. I just want it to be good. I want him to put effort into it, but I have this gut feeling it’s just going to be a disaster.
I know that so long as he’s planned something I should be happy because he’s put time and thought and tried to do something special, but really…. Really… He’s never planned anything special for us before. Literally. Never. Six years. I have this daydream of him secretly planning a weekend away, and I come home and he puts me in the car and off we go! Or even just coming home to roses and candles and a beautiful meal. I think those things really only happen in the movies, but I’m a romantic, what can I say?! I’ve done those things for him before. I’m the planner out of the two of us. Plus I’m just such a girl and I read too much into these things. I want him to want to do these things for me/us. I’ve asked him before to be more romantic, even just to leave me little notes before he leaves in the morning (he leaves an hour or so before I wake up) and he’s only done it once or twice. How do you get a guy to be more romantic?! The kicker is that he’s told me he used to be super romantic with past girlfriends, just not with me. Well gee, thanks. Uggggggggghhhhhhhh just keep your fingers crossed for me this weekend bees!!! I totally know I’m overthinking things right now, maybe I’m PMS-ing, I’m just stressing about this today for no reason.
But on to the good news, I got word from our cinematographer and our feature from the wedding is ready!!! We can pick it up tomorrow!!! Which sort of shot down the idea I had in my head. Maybe he was planning a secret screening with our cinematographer’s on our anniversary in their big studio. I guess not. Ya I know, my head is too busy! But anyways, we’ll save it for our anniversary Sunday. So hooray for our wedding feature! I can hardly wait to see it!
Post # 3
I feel your pain! My guy is also horrible at being romantic. I mean..not at all. I hope he surprises you and pulls off something amazing!
Post # 4
I am sure it will be wonderful.
He will probably floor you with something from left field. Even if it isn’t super grand.
Have a good weekend.
Post # 5
Mine is horrible at these things too. And I always think of all these things and he never does any of them. But I love him anyway, I am just an over thinker. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you 🙂
Post # 6
Good luck this weekend! I can relate to this! My ex claimed to be uber romantic, and always complained that I’m not, but he never did anything romantic for me – no flowers or weekend trips or anything… So, I was always looking at those “books” at Chapters that contain sealed pages with romantic ideas, one for every week or every month. I always thought it was clever. My ex did not want to use those books, but I think my Fiance would not be opposed to do it in the future. It’s just an idea, but maybe your husband would like that?
Post # 7
@AnneTossy: Sigh. I hope so too. I just know with him, romantic is taking me for dinner at the Italian place at the end of our street. I love it there, but it’s not exactly the romantic first anniversary weekend I had envisioned that was a bit out of the “norm” for us… I’m trying to think of the most romantic thing he’s done, and I’m sort of pulling a blank… He didn’t even get to propose, my dad ruined it and let the cat out of the bag!!!!
@expecting rain: Thanks! I hope so too. Keep sending happy romantic thoughts my way please!!!
@pinkb: *high five for overthinkers* We just kill ourselves don’t we?!
Post # 8
@Imagelicious: Oh he’s totally fine if I plan something romantic, but if you ask him to do it, forget it. He likes date nights and whatnot, but he’s never the one who plans them when we make a point of doing them. I saw an idea on Pinterest where you make a date night envelope for each month of the year, maybe we should each come up with 6 ideas and pull one each month. That way he doesn’t have to plan it, but he has to at least come up with the idea… Thanks hon!
Post # 9
I have no words of wisdom to make him do more romantic things. Perhaps a book like @Imagelicious: suggested?
Post # 10
@bakerella: Yes, that’s why I thought that the book would be good because it already has pre-planned ideas, so your husband doesn’t really have to think about it, only personalize it and make it happen 🙂 Although, I’ve never really seen the inside of that book since the pages are sealed, so it may not be too good.
Post # 11
Happy Anniversary! I’m sure he will plan something that you will love! My Fiance is the same way, he’s not the most romantic guy out there but when he puts thought into it he comes up with the most surprising romantic things! Have fun this week-end!
Post # 12
I bet he comes up with something that you will love anyway:)
Post # 13
Okay my cinematographer just emailed me a sneak peek of our feature and I’m all warm and fuzzy now. I can’t share it with you until Darling Husband sees it though, I have to be fair 😉
Thanks for your kind words ladies, hopefully this weekend is awesome, and when it comes down to it, so long as we’re together and relaxed and our phones are off, the rest of it is just icing on the cake right? I have to keep in mind that my husband is that guy that always pulls something off by the skin of his teeth, it’s his marquis 😉
Post # 14
I hear you! I know I will feel the same way once our 1 year comes up…if I don’t plan something, he won’t do anything extra special.. He thinks he is romantic by asking me where I want to go out to eat and then telling me to make the dinner reservation..
…but I hate to tell you that I don’t think it’s just in movies.. My sister has had numerous boyfriends who have done such romantic things..one guy took her on the beach and surprised her with a candlelit dinner! The only time I had that was on my honeymoon at a Sandals..and that was because I was insisting we do it lol…
… I have a guy friend who told his girlfriend to take off for 5 days in October and and will then tell her to pack her bags closer to the day because he is taking her on a cruise to Bermuda!
…Now I’m not saying I need my husband to take me on fancy vacations to prove his romance..but even a rose every now and then just for the heck of it would be oh so nice 😉
Post # 15
@OhBeeHive84: Maybe we should tell those guys to stop it because they’re making the rest of the world’s husbands look bad?! LOL!!!!!!
Post # 16
First, happy anniversary! Second, I totally get this. My husband isn’t great at being romantic but because of this, it makes the smaller things that much better to me. He worries that getting me flowers any other day will make a special day seem less special. If you’re like me though, like others have said, if he puts effort into anything, even if it isn’t grand, it’ll be special. I think the fact that he’s planning it himself is special. I do over think everything too though.
To give you an idea of loving the little things, my husband was telling me last night that he has to go bowling as a team exercise at work. I told him it sounded fun and he said “Eh, I’d rather be going bowling with you,” and my heart just melted.