- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
hi ladies, I have been reading the blogs for a while and decided to sign up after reason how much support there is on here for many types of delemas.
my boyfriend and I have had the “porn talk” before and it’s gotten pretty bad, he agreed to cut back on watching it. Well we ended up getting engaged this last April, and everythiwashes been going fine. He has gotten into a huge disagreement with my parents land they haven’t spoken since around April 13tH this year. He has a lot on his plate right now, money troubles, finding a place to live that he can afford, and he’s been waiting to hear back from the job he applied for. He has a good job now, but he’d be much happier with the one he’s waiting on.
Thats pretty much the background in short version. Well I know I can be over bearing and pushy at times and I’ve been trying to work on that, but I kept bringing up him talking things out with my parents. I had a twith with his mom last Thursday the 6th and I felt much better we talked about ways I can be his support system and be his rock when he needs me.
That night I told him all of what’s talked about with his mom and (I have a tendency to cry) told him I was going to drop the whole parents thing and just support him in getting his financials worked out.
On Friday night we drovwe down to his parents house and everything was fine.. Until we were five minutes from the house. I was looking through his YouTube history to find a song and saw some stupid videos of “sexy blond undresses” and two other similar ones, I just got quiet and then when we got to his parents place we got ready for bed this was at 11-12 something. I then got so mad all of the sudden and started scolding him and then I hit him in the sides few times. foam fully aware I was wrong to lay hands on him.. And I will never do that again.
After a few minutes of me crying and scolding, he said well if I cause you this much pain be done and you won’t have to worry about it. I asked if he was really breaking up with me and he said sometimes people change and don’t work out. I ran upstairs bawling to find his mom to talk to and
page few minutes later get old his dad he was going for a drive. Him removing himself from the situation is how he copes with arguments, and I understand that because I’m the type who wants to fix things right away and will keep on him.
I got a ride home from his mom the next day and later that night went to the ER for a peanut allergy. My friend texted him and said fighting or not I’d want to know if my fiancé were in the ER he replied to her and said thanks for letting me know. Later last night when I got home he texted me asking if I was ok. I told him what happened and what the dr said and askEd how he was. His response was eh so so. I then (againg jumped the gun) and told him I was still wearing my ring and with time and space I think we can work things out.. he said idk. I know he needs space but what do I do I’m a mess. Do I keep my ring on like his mom told me and just let things settle, or do you think he was serious and we are done for good?
Please help me out.
Also I’m 21 he’s 23 and we’ve been together since February 2012 and the wedding isn’t planned just a guesstimate that it will be on a weekend in October 2014. Then I’d be 22 for our wedding and he’d be 24. I know we are young but both of our dreams were to marry around those ages and start a family young.
June 9, 2013