(Closed) First Christmas as husband and wife, and I am totally lost

posted 5 years ago in Holidays
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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MSNDBride:  Whatever you do, I highly recommend spending it with your husband. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

What about you and your husband and not the dog? 

Just to clarify. ๐Ÿ™‚ Is the dog’s ticket expensive? Could anyone watch it for you while you are away? Is just a thought, obviously I don’t know your situation. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

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truthah:  I was thinking the same thing.  Board the dog?

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Such a sucky situation, I’m sorry!! I second PP, your husband is your most immediate family now, so you two should spend the holiday together. Skype your family and try to make the best of an awful situation!! 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

I think that it’s too bad it didn’t work out with your family, but go later in 2016. Spend your first Christmas with your husband even if it is just the two of you. No one is at fault that it didn’t work out with your family, things just didn’t fall into place. I do not think you should board a plane without your husband for Christmas, risk your safety to travel, or put yourself in financial stress since your parents financial situation has changed. Don’t feel badly, you made the best decisions you could with the information you had at the time (and winter tires are a responsible purchase). They shouldn’t feel badly either, it just didn’t come together this time.

This is so much simpler than I thought it would be. Deciding on Christmas plans was disasterous the first couple of years DH and I lived together. Our families live in opposite directions and we both imagined we would be going to our respective family. We fought about it for three months straight, it was awful.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I would go later in the year when tickets are less expensive! Who knows, you might really enjoy having Christmas be just the two of you.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Oh!  A service dog!  That’s different.  We’re staying home just the two of us this year because it will be the last one for our 15 year old dog. Sometimes holidays spent together are the sweetest. 

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would stay home and have a wonderful Christmas together. I have spent many a Christmas not being able to afford to go home and still had a wonderful time. It’s all about your attitiude. Do all the things that make Christmas special to you: bake cookies, go carolling, go to church, visit with lonely elderly at a nursing home, buy gifs for people who have nothing, go sledding or skating- enjoy each others’ company.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Family guilt is so hard for me to face too. I know that they will be disappointed, but they will also live. You should not make a long drive with an unreliable vehicle, especially if you cannot take over for DH if he gets too tired. This would be a great opportunity for you and DH to start some traditions of your own. If you are planning on having kids, you might not consider this trip with very small children. So in the coming years it might work to have a holiday routine with you and DH. Also, celebrations are whenever you can get together. If it happens December 27th, instead of the 25th, not a big deal. 

Is it possible that they could come to you? Or you could split the cost and meet in the middle, which would lessen the drive for you?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

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MSNDBride:  

Oh goodness, don’t leave the dog then!

I agree with PP; it’s a celebration and a special day when you get together with the people you love, it doesn’t have to be on a named day. Maybe meet up for somebody’s birthday when everyone’s financial situations have settled of you want a good excuse. 

Our Christmas plans all fell through when my grandmother died last week; ultimately we’re going to have the happiest time we can in the circumstances together as a family. Maybe this Christmas is not going to be what we hoped, but we will pull through. 

Chin up. x

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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MSNDBride:  are you sure you have to pay for your dog’s flight? It may be different where you live, but I’m fairly certain in the U.S. service animals fly for free with their handlers in the cabin. 

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