(Closed) First Christmas as husband and wife, and I am totally lost

posted 5 years ago in Holidays
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

This is our first Christmas as a married couple and we are staying home , alone with no family. His mom is pretty upset but my side understands with the wedding it’s not feasible.  we are going to a friends Christmas Eve for a party and then Christmas Day we will get up have breakfast, take the dogs for a walk and then have Christmas dinner! I plan on lots of bevvies 🙂 I do feel like it will be strange but at the same time I am very happy we get to spend our first Christmas as a married couple together by ourselves! Whatever you choose best of luck!

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

If you’re on Southwest, a dog’s RT is going to be $150, on any other airline it’ll be $250+. So I’d leave the dog at home and fly.

There won’t be any sales between now and Christmas on flights for Christmas- they’ll only get more and more expensive.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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MSNDBride:  You are now Mr and Mrs and your DH should ALWAYS come first.  I suggest spend it with him and save up and go visit your family after the holidays.  Explain to them that it can’t be done and that you are sorry.  I’m sure they will understand. 

Post # 19
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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MSNDBride:  I would float the idea ofstaying home for Christmas, and then visiting your parents in a few months, when the weather is better and travel will be less stressful for all. Starting off a trip stressed out and potentially resentful is no way to spend the holidays.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Have you tried talking to the airline? I’m not sure they’re allowed to charge extra for your service dog, even indirectly. Just because the cabin has limited room that requires your carry-ons to be checked when the service dog is present, it doesn’t follow that they have to *charge* for checking the carry-ons.

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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MSNDBride:  I would stay home and have Christmas with you and your DH. Your parents will be disappointed, but if you go right after the holidays, that’ll just extend the holiday season. My sisters live in a different state than my parents and I and they can not always make it down for Christmas. Long ago, we gave up on stressing ourselves out or pressuring the others to spend the holidays with us. Instead, we do a small Christmas on the actual day and then we do “Fake Christmas” in January.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

DH should definitely come first. could your parents come and visit you instead?

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

My first reaction is to say stay home with your DH, make new traditions together and have a lovely holiday.

But, you did accept the gift money from your parents which was given for the intention of you guys coming for Christmas. I personally wouldn’t think twice about an 11 hr car drive but I can see how it makes some people nervous, especially if there’s bad weather.

What about going to see your folks for new years eve? ring in the new year together? That way it’s still the holidays and you get a relaxing christmas?

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Garden

It may sound a little harsh but number 4 sounds better. My Fiance wanted to travel across the country to visit his parents for Christmas but it’s just too many complications. At first his boss said no. But three weeks later after I anyway made plans with my mom he comes up to me saying his boss changed his mind. So now he has to sit back and spend  it with my meditate family. Haha

Is actually going to be our second Christmas together asa couple!! Yaay!! But even more exciting it’ll be the first Christmas of being engaged!! Ahh!!

Sadly though I might not get my ering back in time for Christmas because of still getting it resized… :((

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Bahamas

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knickergold:  She mentioned that is a service dog. The doggy has to stay with her. 

 

OP, I’m sorry that you’re having this dilemma. I don’t know what the right answer is, but my gut is telling me to spend Christmas with your husband. Explain it to your family just as you have here. They might be bummed out but it’ll pass. Enjoy your Christmas, whatever you decide to do!

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