Post # 16
This is our first Christmas as a married couple and we are staying home , alone with no family. His mom is pretty upset but my side understands with the wedding it’s not feasible. we are going to a friends Christmas Eve for a party and then Christmas Day we will get up have breakfast, take the dogs for a walk and then have Christmas dinner! I plan on lots of bevvies 🙂 I do feel like it will be strange but at the same time I am very happy we get to spend our first Christmas as a married couple together by ourselves! Whatever you choose best of luck!
Post # 17
If you’re on Southwest, a dog’s RT is going to be $150, on any other airline it’ll be $250+. So I’d leave the dog at home and fly.
There won’t be any sales between now and Christmas on flights for Christmas- they’ll only get more and more expensive.
Post # 18
You are now Mr and Mrs and your DH should ALWAYS come first. I suggest spend it with him and save up and go visit your family after the holidays. Explain to them that it can’t be done and that you are sorry. I’m sure they will understand.
Post # 19
I would float the idea ofstaying home for Christmas, and then visiting your parents in a few months, when the weather is better and travel will be less stressful for all. Starting off a trip stressed out and potentially resentful is no way to spend the holidays.
Post # 20
Have you tried talking to the airline? I’m not sure they’re allowed to charge extra for your service dog, even indirectly. Just because the cabin has limited room that requires your carry-ons to be checked when the service dog is present, it doesn’t follow that they have to *charge* for checking the carry-ons.
Post # 21
I would stay home and have Christmas with you and your DH. Your parents will be disappointed, but if you go right after the holidays, that’ll just extend the holiday season. My sisters live in a different state than my parents and I and they can not always make it down for Christmas. Long ago, we gave up on stressing ourselves out or pressuring the others to spend the holidays with us. Instead, we do a small Christmas on the actual day and then we do “Fake Christmas” in January.
Post # 22
DH should definitely come first. could your parents come and visit you instead?
Post # 23
My first reaction is to say stay home with your DH, make new traditions together and have a lovely holiday.
But, you did accept the gift money from your parents which was given for the intention of you guys coming for Christmas. I personally wouldn’t think twice about an 11 hr car drive but I can see how it makes some people nervous, especially if there’s bad weather.
What about going to see your folks for new years eve? ring in the new year together? That way it’s still the holidays and you get a relaxing christmas?
Post # 24
- Wedding: November 2016 - Garden
It may sound a little harsh but number 4 sounds better. My Fiance wanted to travel across the country to visit his parents for Christmas but it’s just too many complications. At first his boss said no. But three weeks later after I anyway made plans with my mom he comes up to me saying his boss changed his mind. So now he has to sit back and spend it with my meditate family. Haha
Is actually going to be our second Christmas together asa couple!! Yaay!! But even more exciting it’ll be the first Christmas of being engaged!! Ahh!!
Sadly though I might not get my ering back in time for Christmas because of still getting it resized… :((
Post # 25
Kat14: MrsMeowton: princessbee1991:
Thank you for the advice ladies- you have no idea how helpful all the input is in helping me make and accept my decision. I got off the phone last night with my mom last night and got really emotional because I finally came to grips with the fact that it’s going to be another Christmas apart from them.
DH saw how upset I was and actually offered to chip in for any additional expenses involved with my flight to see them, and gave me his blessing to go alone (he’s not really into holidays, birthdays, etc. to begin with, and he kept saying how he’s already had the fortune of seeing his family throughout the year, so he wouldn’t have minded spending Christmas alone). I pretty much replied that I wasn’t ok with it, and I wanted to be with him no matter what.
With that said, although we are both hoping that by some miracle all of us will still be able to make the trip last-minute, I’m coming to terms with it just being the 3 of us again this year and getting pumped about keeping up the few traditions we started last year.
For their part, my family’s being very gracious about this change in plans; my resolution for 2016 is to make time (and contingency funds) to go and see them.
Post # 26
I wish they could- it would have been so much more ideal for everyone, because they have way more wiggle room in terms of timing, as well as paid time off (which I have, but DH doesn’t). Unfortunately, the drive for them would be equally as treacherous as it would be for us, and just like DH is the only driver right now in my household, my dad is the only one in my parents’ household, so it’s not like they can rotate driving duties. Flying isn’t an option at all for my parents, because my mom is petrified of flying and does it only for absolute emergencies.
After talking about it with my parents, although they are disappointed that we couldn’t use the funds to travel for Christmas like we all had hoped, they are on board with our plan to hold in it savings until we can travel at a more practical time- that really took a load off my mind to hear them say that.
As mush as I would love to visit them for New Years, because I have to be back in the classroom by the 4th of January (HS teacher), it’s a bit too much of a gamble to be out of province on January 1st- especially with the way our weather has been so far. The risk of delays is too high 🙁
At this point, I’m banking on being able to go and see them over Easter break- that’s the next time that I have an extended period of time off, and by then the weather should not be a factor unless we get another really late season winter storm. If that doesn’t pan out, we may wind up doing Christmas in July haha.
Post # 27
- Wedding: August 2017 - Bahamas
She mentioned that is a service dog. The doggy has to stay with her.
OP, I’m sorry that you’re having this dilemma. I don’t know what the right answer is, but my gut is telling me to spend Christmas with your husband. Explain it to your family just as you have here. They might be bummed out but it’ll pass. Enjoy your Christmas, whatever you decide to do!
Post # 28
Unfortunately, going without the dog isn’t really an option because she is my seizure-alert dog (and Lord knows with the chaos at the airports this time of year, I will likely need her services; stress tends to trigger my episodes). Her ‘seat’ in the cabin won’t cost anything, though I believe I may have to pay for the cost of checking one of my bags.
You raise a valid point, though- I recall paying extra last time I flew to check my 2 bags, but come to think of it, that may have been because there was an additional one and they were fairly large. This time I’d be bearing less stuff haha