(Closed) First Christmas As Husband And Wife

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’ve never been in your situation since DH and I live close to families. Since we don’t have kids yet (one on the way), we head over to my parents house first and then to his parents around lunhtime. We then have different family gatherings throughout the day.

I can see why you would be nervous , but I think there are tons of ways to make Christmas special with just the two of you. You can start your own family traditions by filling stockings for each other (this can be done cheaply) and making breakfast or brunch together. You can also watch Christmas movies or even go to see a matinee in your local cinema. I would also be tempted to go for a walk or drive Christmas even to take a look at Christmas lights. I know others who have volunteered together at their local soup kitchen; a way to help others and spread holiday spirit but also closen your bond as a couple. 

I found an article online with a really neat paragraph, ….

The next year, we moved from California to New York. Too poor for cross-country plane tickets, we made our own holiday: dollar-store decorations, a few presents. We sent our parents photos of our tiny tree and snowy fire escape, and they told us they were glad we had each other to share Christmas with in the big city. We were glad, too. Our private holiday was a revelation. We sipped Champagne before noon. We dorked out on British comedy (Blackadder’s Christmas Carol; The Office Christmas specials) and watched Home Alone (the irony!). We didn’t go near our car—hell, we didn’t go outside. Through the window we heard people piling their kids and gifts into taxis as we settled in for a long winter’s nap. It was indeed the Most Wonderful Time of the Year.

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Celebrating-Christmas-Alone-Avoiding-Large-Holiday-Gatherings#ixzz2nqJX5kzchttp://www.oprah.com/relationships/Celebrating-Christmas-Alone-Avoiding-Large-Holiday-Gatherings

Post # 6
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As with the previous two posters I havent been in the situation. I love both their ideas and I would love to spend christmas alone with my husband just once.

We would start christmas eve with champagne (well sparkling wine anyway) and nibbles, maybe home made sushi, dips, or mince pies! And an exchange of christmas cards. We love a romantic night in so would make the most of it.

Christmas morning would start with a lovely brunch, smoked salmon and scrambled eggs. My favorite. While we ate we woudl excange gifts. Then we would go out for a nice long walk maybe calling in at our favorite pub for a drink and a chat with the landlord and to wish some strangers a Merry Christmas.

Then home to cook our christmas dinner together, while listening to christmas music. We love to play cards together so we might do that while it cooks.

After a late dinner we would call our families to wish them a Merry Christmas and have a chat with everyone.

Later in the evening we might put on a favorite christmassy film (or a tv christmas special if there were any we were interested in) and sit in front of the fire eating cheese and drinking port!

Now I wish we were having Christmas just the two of us!


Post # 7
47436 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@ashxcaitlyn:  No matter how tight our budget is, there is always someone who is worse off. Buy some socks and give them to a homeless person or drop them off at a shelter.

Find something to do beyond the Christmas light tour etc. It will give you a warm glow and wonderful memories.

By all means, tour the lights, go to a Christmas service, make cookies together, plan a special Christmas breakfast, play Christmas carols, etc, but I also encourage you to find some small way to make Christmas more meaningful for someone else.

Post # 8
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

In our early years, we had a christmas picnic instead of trying to make an elaborate meal for just the two of us. We picked out a variety of our favourite goodies (brie, crackers, a deli chicken, fruits, chocolates) and paired it up with the bunches of baked goods we were gifted that year. Call up your families, put up a few decorations, and snuggle up together 🙂


Post # 9
36 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012


You can make this Christmas memorable by gifting him something which he will remember throughout his life. These moments would be really special .You can be his santa for the day and give him gifts like bracelets, pendent etc. At Jenny present jewelry collection you can design your own gift. If you order it today you’ll get it before Christmas eve. Just take a look here. Her collections are simply superb. I got this from there.


Post # 10
6114 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ashxcaitlyn:  H and I are 35 and 37 and this is our FIRST Christmas in our own home – or without any families.  Ever. 

Previously we always flew home to our families.  But frankly, we are really sick of doing all the flying so we just told everyone sorry we’re not going home.  Plus we were just home 2 weeks ago for my grandmother’s funeral so I’m glad we did not have to buy two sets of round trip plane tickets in one month!


H and I are not religious.  I am not a huge fan of Christmas honestly (bad childhood memories), so I don’t even know if I want to acknowledge the holiday or go on like it was a regular vacation day. We will definitely go skiing.  The resort is closed, but that means we can go hike to the top with no one else around and ski down by ourselves!

I put up a few Christmas decorations – this is the first time in my life I’ve done this in my home.  Usually we are gone for a week so I never bother with any decor or lights.  We did not get a tree.  I’ve never done a tree either.

We were just talking about what should we do?  Should we make a tradition?  Should we follow the typical outline for holidayness and do what everyone else does???  I’m not about to make a big meal for two people, but I’d make a nice meal with lots of hot drinks, maybe champagne.  I’m not sentimental enough to go seek out a family that can take us in for the day.  Let’s not go that far.

Really no clue.  We don’t do gifts either.  Being that I already have some sore feelings towards the holiday, makes it a bit more confusing regarding how I should acknowledge the holiday.

I do want to go see that Walter Mitty movie.  It’s out on Christmas.

Bottom line, H and I have no problem entertaining ourselves, in fact it’s one of the perks of not living near family.  We can be just the two of us for weeks and we’re happy with that.  You can do whatever you want just to two of you.

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