(Closed) First Christmas away from family

posted 5 years ago in Holidays
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

This first Christmas not with my parents sucked.  But it gets better.  Celebrating early or later is never the same but it is better then nothing.  This year I won’t be seeing my parents at all over the Christmas holiday.  They came up for Thanksgiving but I won’t be seeing them again until February.  It sucks because I miss the food  (my Mom is a great cook) and I just miss being with them, but it is what it is.

I am sure you will have a great time with your H’s family, but it is okay to be bummed that you aren’t with yours as well.

Post # 3
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Honey bee

The first Christmas away is always tough! My husband and I alternate Christmas with each family, and we both had a hard time the first time. I facetimed with my family on Christmas which helped make me feel like I wasn’t totally missing out, but I also had a really good time with DH’s family. You’ll get through it, just try not to dwell on what you’re missing and have fun with what you’re gaining! This year is our first Christmas without either family as I am due 5 days after Christmas and can’t fly. It’s going to be tough on both of us, but I’m trying to combine as many of both our family’s traditions into the day as I can. Considering that mostly means listening to Christmas music, eating yummy stuff, and unwrapping presents, and hanging out in our pj’s…I think it will be an okay day! 😉

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

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morganc8:  Thanks.  I completely get how you are feeling.  There is no replacement for your family and even though I enjoy my H’s family immensely I would much prefer to be with my parents instead.  Ugh, the suckiness that comes with being an adult 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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morganc8:  my first Christmas away from my family was a couple of years ago. We woke up on Christmas morning and I had a little cry with my partner in our room but I video called everyone and spoke to them so it wasn’t too bad. My partners mother also went really out of her way to give me some of my traditions. Is there a tradition that you can take with you, even if you just partake in this tradition in your room with your husband. If you’re used to a quiet Christmas, you might find it very noisy with a big family (I’m from the noisy drama filled family, he’s the small quiet family, so my partner always finds it hard on Christmas Day with my family), video call your parents in your room by yourself or ask your husband if the two of you might be able to go for a walk. It’s ok to be bummed out and it’s ok to admit that you’ll miss your family but this is a point where you can really see which traditions you value and which you want to continue in the future. This is our first Christmas with no family (mine or his), I’m kinda scared if I’m honest because I just don’t know how it will go.  I’ve always thought we would wait to have a Christmas alone until we had kids but if we don’t like it this year, we don’t have to do it again next year.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I know how you feel. I love my FI’s family but if I had the choice I would rather spend Christmas with my own family. My mother lives in Canada (where I grew up) but I’ve been living in Europe for the past 13 years so I am used to not seeing her very often. Christmas is the one time of year that I really feel homesick. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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morganc8:  Make sure you have an arrangement set up where you alternate holidays, i.e. Christmas next year is with your family.

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