Post # 1
I’m just curious, to the Bees who are already married with kids. How long after you got married did you wait to start having children? To the Bees who are still engaged, how long do you plan to enjoy married life together before TTC?
I’m not asking for advice. Clearly everyone has their own timeline! Just curious 🙂
My Fiance and I plan to enjoy married life for at least a year or two before trying.
Post # 3
We will probably wait 2-3 years before trying. I think it’s important to enjoy married life before having a baby, because once there’s a little one, your life revolves around them for the next 18 years! Basically it’s wedding, finish grad school, honeymoon, buy a house, and big vacation before baby!
Post # 4
i think about 6 months ish, my Fiance is a fair bit older than me and has wanted children for the last couple of years. we’ve been together a long time and lived together and enjoyed being together with out the responsibilty that comes along with having children, so we are both pretty ready to jump straight into it!
Post # 5
We’re getting married in September (3 days before my 29th birthday) and I don’t see us TTC until I’m at least 31. We plan on spending the first year paying off debt and travelling and career stuff before we add a baby!
Post # 6
I don’t fall into either of the two categories you listed since I’m married and without children but we plan to start in about 2 years (been married for 7 months) which would make it 3+ years into marriage before a baby. Owning our own home and being settled is a prerequisite for us and we’re hoping that will happen in the next year or so. We want to do some traveling and bulk up our savings before we think about adding another mouth to feed.
Post # 7
i said 1-2 years. i always thought it would be longer, but when we really sat and talked it over, we realized that we dont really have that much time to play with (we will be 29/31 at our wedding). we didnt really have a start date in mind, but both agreed that the oldest we should have a kid is 37/39. since we want at least 2…
also we would like to have a couple years of TTC in case there is something that keeps us from getting pregnant, we will still have time to pursue adoption etc and stay on timeline.
he said he would be fine with going for it right after the wedding, but i turn 30 about 5 months after the wedding and i will definitely need to be drunk for that!
Post # 8
We got married last fall, and were “planning” on waiting till the New Year to begin trying (we were thinking that it would take 6 months – 1 year to become pregnant), that way we had a few months for “ourselves”. However, we celebrated our wedding a little too much, and became pregnant right away. It has changed our plans a little bit, but it has been a great journey so far!
Post # 9
Will have 2 stepsons living with us, so I get to be instant mom. We are not even sure we will have our own (ONE, SINGULAR!!!) child. If we do, we will be waiting at least a year… too much else going on.
Post # 10
Not yet married here (16 days and counting) but we plan to wait around 4 years, maybe 5 before we have children. People think we are nuts but we are not in any hurry and are enjoying life with just the two of us (and our four-legged children).
Post # 11
The plan is to wait until I’ve passed all four sections of the CPA exam before even THINKING about it. I know if I get pregnant, I’ll never finish and that’s a huge career goal of mine. We also want to be debt free (minus mortgage and student loans) and we’d like to get some traveling under our belts while we’re still young. Once all that clears out, I think we’ll start trying. Probably about 2-3 years if I had to take a guess. I’ll probably be 29-30 and he’ll be 34-35.
Post # 12
we started trying before we were married. Thank goodness we did because it took much longer than we had anticipated.
ETA: we are both in our 30s. We felt time wasn’t really on our side if multiple kids was what we wanted. I think if we were getting married in our mid 20s we would have waited a few years.
Post # 13
I agree. Our timeline is – Get settled in our new home, Wedding, Honeymoon, and enjoy our freedom together as newlyweds for a year or two before starting!
Post # 14
I was really adamant about having at least a year or so before trying to have a baby. I knew we could never get that time back and i really wanted to just enjoy being married without the added responsibility. 2 months after our 1st anniversary (to the day) we got pregnant 🙂 not planned but still a lovely surprise. I’m so so glad we had that year though!
Post # 15
well dh and I will have our 2 year anniversary coming up in about 3 months and I’m not pregnant, or even trying, so that puts us in the 2+ year camp. we will probably start trying in about a year. we wanted to start this summer, but it makes more sense for my career to wait another year…which is practical but doesn’t make me happy!
Post # 16
We started trying right away after the wedding. We’d been living together for 2 years prior, owned a home, both had good jobs, etc. Our 1 year anniversary is next month and I am currently 4 months pregnant.