(Closed) First Comes Marriage, then comes….

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Here’s a long discussion on the topic.

Anyone thinking about pregnancy during engagement?

We’re thinking about it, but are completely accepting of whatever happens.  For us it may not be such an easy road, so the sooner we start the better.  Some of our friends have been trying before their weddings, but for us that’s just not an option 🙂

Post # 4
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631 posts
Busy bee

That’s wonderful for you guys.  We’re waiting a few years to try, because we want to have a few years to be married without children.  But it’s a personal decision for everyone, there’s no wrong time I don’t think!

Post # 5
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

If it was up to my Fiance we would have been preggies already but I put on the brakes. I wanted to do this "right" and have our kids right after marriage. We came this far and we are so close so there is no need for us rush it.

We really aren’t planning either. It is more like whatever happens, happens. My only thing is that I would love to have a house before kids. Since our marriage will be ahead of its time (brought an in-law into our home early) we are Ok with having children without waiting years especially since we want as many as we can afford  and not have age against us.

Everyone’s situation is different and sometime waiting just isn’t an option for some.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I was also ovulating more or less on my wedding day. Unlike you, we decided we didn’t want a honeymoon baby and so we waited a few days into our honeymoon to have sex. I actually quite liked waiting until a little bit into the honeymoon. We were so busy leading up to the wedding that we barely got to see each other. By waiting, we got to reacclimate to being together again and savor the anticipation together.

Also, I think the best time to have sex if you’re trying to get pregnant is actually a few days before ovulation, not right on the day of or just after. So who knows what will happen? But congratulations on the upcoming nuptials and have fun on your honeymoon!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hmm, the fiance and I both know that we want to have a family, but we’ve decided to wait  … for us it’s about being completely stable – moving into a "real house" … cannot bring a baby to his bachelor pad blah blah blah.

Plus, it’s insanity once you have them. His brother has two and they started right after they married. 

I guess it is completely different for everyone. For me, I know that when I see a mom with a screaming baby, I am thanking god that it’s not me. I know I’m not ready. It is weird though, I looove the baby neice in our family, but I’m in no hurry to actually have my own. Plus, we have plenty of time on our side.

I’m secretly terrified of pregnancy and not knowing how to be a mom, shhhh… lol

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Not planning as of yet, but I congratulate you for doing so! I am preparing my body so to speak for us to try and conceive next year. I had surgery in Jan of 2008 which was suppose to be simply remove a couple cysts on my ovaries but ended up losing my right ovary, fallopian tube and produced alot of scar tissue from the Endometriosis. I was told not to get pregnant for a year, which we had no intentions of, but then had my checkup and was told my body is still not ready, nor were we mentally or financially. I am doing the same as you, taking prenatal vitamins, excersing, eating healthy, watching caffeine because I do feel it may be a difficult process to get pregnant but when I do I want to be in good health for the baby. Just give it time, it may take some time but it will happen when its suppose to. I still have the fear because I was told I may not be able to conceive as well so I need to be prepared for that, but I dont think about that right now. We do talk about it openly and well we are asked constantly to have a baby soon! All his neices and nephews are very young so it would be nice to have everyone so close in age. Just take your time and enjoy it! Try not to stress that can only hurt you.

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