(Closed) First Cousins with the Same Name?

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

SIL in what sense? Your brother’s wife, husband’s sister, or husband’s brother’s wife?

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Use the name.  My Darling Husband has a cousin in Michigan with the same name, nobody cares.  Sorry about your dad.  

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If it’s in the top 20 it’s common enough that your SIL will have to get used to many other kids having the name, and you have an excellent explanation of why the name is so important to you. I’m not sure anyone could fault you without coming off very callous to the desire you have for naming your son after your father. That is a very special namesake.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My sister and cousin have the same name and not for a meaningful reason. I say go for it.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Please use the name to honor your father. There is no reason you should not. I presume your son and hers will have different middle names, so that will be an important way to differentiate them.

In my DH’s immediate family, two girl first cousins have the same first name, and two boy first cousins have the same first name. The grandparents, aunts and uncles (and other cousins) differentiate between them by use of their middle names.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m one of two girls (out of 13 cousins) and we both have the same name, and are only three months apart in age. No biggie, especially now that we are older. 😊

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

baletrina:  With all the other possible choices, I would choose another name. You could always use that name as a middle name.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

baletrina:  OK, that’s the best possible scenario, in the sense that the child (a) is unrelated to your late father, and (b) has a different surname to your child.

Given the sentimental attachment, I think you should go ahead with it. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

I say if the name is in the top 20 and you want to use it, go for it. Also you don’t see them much anyway.  Plus the name has meaning to you because of your late father.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

baletrina:  my uncle stole my name from my mom.  There are two Summers in my family. But it’s OK. It’s not an issue. There’s big summer she’s older and little summer that’s me. So we see each other at the family functions and it’s fine. Go for it

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Totally fine. They have different surnames. You hardly see them and you have personal reasons, plus it’s a popular name. If they say anything just say that you planned that name since your father passed and its extremely special to you. 

It may be different if you were all close and hung out every week.

Post # 14
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Worker bee

I think it should be fine. My first cousin has the same name as me, and it’s never really bothered me. I think my parents may have thought it was a bit strange initially that out of all the names in the world, my father’s brother chose to give his daughter the same name as me. It’s not a name that has any particular significance to the family. However it’s never been a huge issue for any of us. 

I had 2 names in mind for future kids and my SIL used one of them for her latest child, so I probably won’t end up using it now. It was a bit disappointing. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I 100% say use the name! 🙂

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