(Closed) first dance

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Could you do what a first dance is traditionally supposed to be, and dance together for only a short time (like a minute)? Then your dad cuts in, and he goes off to dance with his mum, and the bridal party joins in, encouraging everyone else to join.

A "first dance" wasn’t originally a performance where everyone stood around and watched you (let alone followed by father-daughter dance, bridal party dance etc), so I think you can avoid it 🙂 Do you have a supportive bridal party who will lead the way and join in?

(I have nothing against first dances etc, will for sure do one myself. They’ve just morphed over time, is all I’m saying!). 

Post # 4
2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

You can avoid it – your parents are thinking VERY conservatively.  Id speak to some friends beforehand and let them know you need them to rush the dancefloor as soon as the music starts.  You could announce that the party is beginning and there will be no first dance, but I feel like the wording of that could get awkward or confusing.  Id just have your friends and Bridal Party get to the dancing so nobody feels like "OH NO!  We have to wait for the first dance!!"

Post # 5
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I absolutely don’t think that’s strange, if it’s important to you stick to your guns! I honestly don’t even think I would notice if the couple didn’t have a first dance, as a guest I’m always just waitng for my chance to get on the dance floor. If you want to make a speech first explaining, that’s fine, otherwise ask some close friends to break the ice by getting out there.

Post # 6
2365 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Actually, fiances brother and his wife danced after dinner – and it was announced by the band, and before that everyone was dancing. I think it just all depends and if done right will flow. I watched their dvd and everyone danced the entire time.

Post # 7
3332 posts
Sugar bee

I say there’s no "tradition" that you *have* to do at your wedding.  It all depends on how you feel.  I definitely think it would be fine to announce to your guests that you’re not having a first dance.  Just let them know that instead of the First Dance, you want them to join you out on the dance floor to celebrate and then play something fun and upbeat.

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