Post # 1
I love the Brian Adams song, Have you ever really loved a woman, and want to use it for our first dance. We are getting married in a spanish mission style resort so if fits our theme perfectly. I asked my fiance about using the song and he told me it was the first dance song for him and his first wife. They were married 15 years ago and have been divorced for 10 years. Most people attending did not attend his first wedding so they don’t know but is it too werid? He does not care and said he would be fine with it if I really want to use that song. I love it but am a little worried that it might be too weird….. Thoughts?
Post # 3
I think if you and your fi are ok with it then do it. I doubt anyone would remember so its between you and him.
Personally, I would be way too weirded and want to create a new memory with Fiance. I guess I think there would be no way for that song to not remind him of his last wedding and last wife and I would not want those thoughts in my husbands head when we danced.
Post # 4
I doubt anyone would pick up on it that the song was also his with his ex wife, but I would just be concerned that every time you hear or think of your wedding so you will think of his ex. I personally would pick another song.
Post # 5
i am like Snowy, i couldnt do it. but if you don’t care and your Fiance doesn’t, those are the only opinions that matter
Post # 7
I agree with the others, you might think about that every time you hear the song instead of the happy feelings you should have when you hear your first dance song. Maybe you could use it in another way? Wedding party dance or recessional or something?
Post # 8
If your both okay with it than go for it. But, personally i don’t even want to hear any songs i had dedicated to me by past boyfriends at our wedding. To me it is weird and i want it to be our day and our song.
Post # 9
Play it later on in the night, and pick a song that’s come out within the last 10 years!
Post # 10
if you & he (and his family) honestly don’t care, then it’s not weird.
I (and my family) would be cool about it, but not so cool enough to make it a first dance. We, personally, would save it for cake cutting or elsewhere in the night.
Post # 11
I agree with the majority. You can play it some other time during your wedding. I think it’d be better to choose something else to create a new memory for your husband. I know how hard it is to change something you thought you really wanted.