Post # 1
I have a dillemma, ever since I was a little girl I was dreaming of my first dance at my wedding and now that the time has come – I’m torn !
First of all let me address that me and my fiance aren’t the best dancers out there. We love dancing, we’re just not good at learning choreographed dances or certain styles. We decided to just wing it on our wedding day and “sway” to the song.
Music is a big deal to us as it plays a huge part in our relationship, and I can’t help but place a lot of sentimental value to songs.
One of them is “Fields of Gold” by Sting. I may not be the biggest lovey-dovey song out there, but I think many people draw good memories to it, it’s so nostalgic. Whomever I play it to, they love it; however my mom and sister are saying this song is too beautiful not to have a choreographed dance to it, and in a way I agree.
Other ones I had in mind are : “I Love You” by Celine Dion, “Dancing in the Moonlight” by Toploader (TOTALLY not wedding-like, but so fun) and “Yellow” by Coldplay.
So bees, I need your thoughts! Should I go on with the song ? Any songs you recommend ? What song did you have for your first dance ?
Thanks for taking the time to read this ! 🙂 x
Post # 2
You definitely don’t need to choreograph anything– pick a song you and your fiance like, and dance however you want to it!
Post # 3
If I’m being totally honest, I’ve never seen a choregraphed first dance that didn’t seem completely awkward and uncomfortable to watch.
It should be a sweet moment between you and your new husband, something you should soak up and enjoy every moment of. I also loved having that time to look around the room at the large circle of people who loved, supported and we’re celebrating us.
You don’t get those moments if you’re counting steps and trying to remember the next move.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
I really dislike choreographed dances, I find them hard to watch.
DH CANNOT dance so he had to sway and he twirled me around slowly a couple of times.
I would say “Dancing in the Moonlight” might be quite hard to sway too. Just choose a song you both love and practice dancing to it a couple of times.
Post # 5
shortpockets : EllyAnne :
Thanks for your thoughts girls. I guess because my family are generally great dancers, their choreographed first dances were actually really natural and stunning and expected the same from us. Guess we’re not one of those people haha.
What were your first dance songs ?
Post # 6
We definitely were not those people either haha! Even if we were great dancers, the other points I mentioned would have still kept me from actually choregraphing anything. I wouldn’t want to be too focused on the dance and not the moment.
Our song was Ray LaMontagne’s You Are the Best Thing.
Post # 7
I’m a wedding photographer and I can assure that 99% of all my couples just “sway and spin” on the dance floor. Seriously. The handful that attempt dance lessons end up looking super awkward and force because they’re too busy counting steps. Just do what feels natural to you.
Post # 8
I definitely agree with PP’s, choreographed dances look very awkard (at least the ones I have seen). My husband and I just got up there and danced, no practice before either and it worked out perfectly (people actually thought we took lessons because we were in sync the whole time).
Post # 9
I agree with the PP’s, plus I think the sway and twirl is more meaningful. Those wedding pictures where it’s just you two on the dance floor, lost in each other. As opposed having to remember your choreography and trying to look good while doing it.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone, really appreciate your thoughts ! Can anyone give any advice on the songs ? So confused I have no clue what to choose. 🙁