Post # 1
I know this sounds completely stupid!! But I don’t know if I want to do a first dance! Firstly we can’t compromise on a song to dance to plus also I kinda feel stupid dancing in front of 150 guests!! I’m really anxious about it. I know that family will expect us to do a first dance it doesn’t help that some of my fiances family don’t like me and I feel like they will be sniggering at me 🙁 anybody not do a first dance? Do you think it is important to do one? x
Post # 3
I’m not extremely fond of doing it either.. mainly because people staring at me makes me SUPER uncomfortable.
We ARE doing a first dance, but we are chopping it down to 1 minute.
Post # 4
@iestynsmummy: Can you do something a bit different? In the Lebanese culture when the Bride and Groom enter, they enter to an upbeat song and everyone comes out onto the dance floor with them. Although typically they get lifted on shoulders as well, thats another story.
Could you either do an upbeat version and have the DJ get everyone up, or maybe have your whole Bridal Party out on the floor with you and dance to a slow song that way?
Post # 5
We are doing one. But it’s not a must, so many of the weddings I been too are foregoing things like first dance, father daughter dance, tossing bouquet, and garter toss.
While people might expect this things I don’t think they will be hugely disappoitned if you opt not to do it .Plus I can totally tell when the couple is uncomfortable or not into it.
Post # 6
We didn’t do the first dance! You don’t have t. Do it if you feel uncomfortable. It’s your wedding after all. You call the shot! 🙂
We had music band playing throughout the night to keep the guests entertained.
Post # 7
We didn’t do one and I think only one person even noticed.
Post # 8
an upbeat song might be a better idea! I just cant imagine slow dancing to a slushy song 🙂 x
Post # 9
I’m totally with you on this! I am self-conscious about dancing anyway (total lack of co-ordination) and hate people looking at me, so am also planning not to do a first dance. Fiance thinks our friends will make us, but I am pretty sure I will be standing firm and not doing it!
Post # 10
@iestynsmummy: You could do the same with a slow song. Have it start out with just you and him dancing and then invite others for the rest of the song. Also I think it’s terrible that you have to have people at your wedding who don’t like you :/ Would not inviting them have caused more problems?
Post # 11
@iestynsmummy: We will be dancing to an upbeat song. We love to dance and have so much fun dancing together, I couldn’t imagine not having a first dance. No swaying for us though.
Post # 12
@Sb91: well it’s regards my sister in law! its a long story but basically she was in a relationship with one of my fiances best friends and when then they split he started dating her sister who she hasnt spoken to in years…well basically he told her secret stuff about my sister in law and when he was confronted about it he switched the blame on me so not to be caught dating her sister…who was the one who had spilled the secret about her!! Not me!! When I confronted him why he had said that he apologised and my fiancé told his sister about the confession from her ex an that it was not me and I said I wanted an apology for the way I had been treated which had gone on for nearly a year!! attacking me on Facebook, writing slander about me on status updates!! Turning family members against me ie my father in law! She is a dangerous woman who enjoys bullying people and making fun of other people’s misfortunes!! l personally did not want her at the wedding but its difficult cos she is my fiances sister and if I didn’t invite her them it would cause problems with other family members too!
We are on speaking terms at the moment, but only when we have to, we have no contact otherwise!! I hope that after the wedding I never have to see her again!! So I feel it just causes a bit of tension. To be honest I don’t know why she is even coming anyway!! But there is nothing I can do about it there is going to be plenty of other special people there than to worry about her!!
Post # 13
I totally understand where you are coming from. I am dreading our first dance because I hate being the center of attention. However, I think if get over your fears a first dance with your husband will be something quite special. Many of my friends who are already married said in that moment you will be so happy that you forget all of the people around you. I like the idea of cutting the dance down to 1-2 minutes or inviting your bridal party to join in. Also, some of the best pictures of the bride & groom come from the first dance! And don’t worry about the sister in law…she sounds very childish and not everyone can get along! Don’t let it ruin your day Good luck! 🙂
Post # 14
we weren’t going to do one, but our guests insisted.
someone said, who wants to see the couple dance? and of course everyone cheered.
so we ended up dancing.