(Closed) First dance worries!! Anybody not doing a first dance?

posted 9 years ago in Music
Post # 3
Hostess
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m not extremely fond of doing it either.. mainly because people staring at me makes me SUPER uncomfortable.

We ARE doing a first dance, but we are chopping it down to 1 minute.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@iestynsmummy:  Can you do something a bit different? In the Lebanese culture when the Bride and Groom enter, they enter to an upbeat song and everyone comes out onto the dance floor with them. Although typically they get lifted on shoulders as well, thats another story.

Could you either do an upbeat version and have the DJ get everyone up, or maybe have your whole Bridal Party out on the floor with you and dance to a slow song that way?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We are doing one. But it’s not a must, so many of the weddings I been too are foregoing things like first dance, father daughter dance, tossing bouquet, and garter toss.

While people might expect this things I don’t think they will be hugely disappoitned if you opt not to do it .Plus I can totally tell when the couple is uncomfortable or not into it.

Post # 6
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68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We didn’t do the first dance! You don’t have t. Do it if you feel uncomfortable. It’s your wedding after all. You call the shot! ๐Ÿ™‚

We had music band playing throughout the night to keep the guests entertained.

Post # 7
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2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We didn’t do one and I think only one person even noticed.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m totally with you on this!  I am self-conscious about dancing anyway (total lack of co-ordination) and hate people looking at me, so am also planning not to do a first dance.  Fiance thinks our friends will make us, but I am pretty sure I will be standing firm and not doing it!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@iestynsmummy:  You could do the same with a slow song. Have it start out with just you and him dancing and then invite others for the rest of the song. Also I think it’s terrible that you have to have people at your wedding who don’t like you :/ Would not inviting them have caused more problems?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@iestynsmummy:  We will be dancing to an upbeat song. We love to dance and have so much fun dancing together, I couldn’t imagine not having a first dance. No swaying for us though.

Post # 13
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265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I totally understand where you are coming from. I am dreading our first dance because I hate being the center of attention. However, I think if get over your fears a first dance with your husband will be something quite special. Many of my friends who are already married said in that moment you will be so happy that you forget all of the people around you. I like the idea of cutting the dance down to 1-2 minutes or inviting your bridal party to join in. Also, some of the best pictures of the bride & groom come from the first dance! And don’t worry about the sister in law…she sounds very childish and not everyone can get along! Don’t let it ruin your day Good luck! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

we weren’t going to do one, but our guests insisted.

someone said, who wants to see the couple dance? and of course everyone cheered.

so we ended up dancing.

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