(Closed) First Date, No Kiss. Second Date…?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Do what feels natural. Some guys warrent a kiss (or more) on the second date, some not. Just do what you feel is right. 

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

DH didn’t kiss me until after the first few dates because I moved my head too quickly for him to lean in. It’ll happen when it happens. If you really want it, there’s nothing wrong with making the move or communicating to him your desire. I think it’s a good sign that he wants to see you again. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This reminds me of my relationship when we started dating 10 years ago. My Fiance wasn’t a prude in any way but he liked me so much he wanted to be respectful and wouldn’t make a move. I finally, on like our 3rd or 4th date, after talking for a month or more, while in bed, in the dark,  watching a movie just turned and looked at him and asked “are you going to kiss me now?” He was like, “do you want me to?” And I said “ya,” & we laughed and that was that. Lol. We were 20 years old. I did wait until a kind of obvious moment though where kissing would almost be expected. I can’t say don’t force it,  because I sort of did,  but at least let the circumstances arise naturally. 🙂 Have fun! 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

It will happen when it feels right. Don’t stress. I’ve never kissed on the first date and am now married to a great guy. We didn’t have our first kiss until 4th date and we are super happy. Enjoy the fun and excitement while it lasts.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

When my now Fiance and I started dating I had never kissed anyone before and he wanted to make sure I was comfortable and that he was ready to be a committed partner, because he didn’t want to lead me on, he didn’t kiss me until we had been dating for two months! HAHA! All I can say is go with what feels right lol 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

 

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missm0392:  Third date for us.  I let him take the lead.  I kinda liked he didn’t go for it on the first date.  He was the first man I ever dated (and my first kiss was right around midnight!! :D).

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

third date for us too… It was supposed to be our second date but we had an unplanned but wonderful date 5 days after the first date and two days before the third. We went to the movies, then had a coffee (well peppermint tea for him, chai for me) and then he said he’d walk me to my car… I grinned like an idiot for every second of the 30. minute drive home. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

This thread brings back funny memories. It can be so awkward sometimes if one person is caught by surprise or if both want it but no one wants to initiate it. The worst for me was when a guy awkwardly asked my permission (from across the room…) rather than just going for it. Totally killed the mood for me! 

 

I agree with PP…it’s better if you don’t stress about it or try to plan it.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Be yourself.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My Fiance and I didn’t kiss until our 5th date (this is not what I was used to in my dating world) but it was so nice – the excitement, getting to know each other, flirting a lot. 

and that first kiss? WHOA fireworks. Just enjoy the dates!!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

3rd date kiss for us! It was worth the wait, too.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

DH and I didn’t kiss until our second or third date. Things obviously ended well for us 🙂

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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missm0392: We met online too. First day we shook hands (lol), second date lasted for like 6 hours just talking at the bar and he hugged me goodbye, third we kissed. Now that I know my husband better it would have been totaaaally out of character for him to kiss on the first or second meeting. 

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