Post # 1
So I decided to join Tinder about two weeks ago with no expectations except to get some practice talking to guys haha. I also just wanted to see what the app was all about after hearing that so many use it. Some guys on there obviously just want a hookup and that is not something I am interested in.
Thoughts on Tinder?
Yesterday, I “matched” with a guy and talked to him all throughout the day. I asked him why he was on Tinder and found out that he also recently got out of a serious relationship. We also added each other on Facebook as a way to learn more about each other. He seems very nice and asked me out on a date for the next day (TONIGHT!). It is so soon because I live out of town for college and he will be working long hours the next time I come home. So it was either meet right away or wait a month! I’ve heard it’s bad to talk too much before meeting, so I decided to go for it sooner rather than later.
I haven’t actually ever been on a first date.. let alone a blind date! My past relationships were people I was friends with first or went to school with.
I don’t have much time to prepare and need some help/advice!! The plan is to go bowling tonight and we are meeting there. I think I know what I’m wearing (leggings and a long sweater with a v-neck), but I’m nervous about being awkward, talking too little/too much, not connecting with him, what to do when greeting and saying goodbye (do I hug, wave, shake hands?), what to do if or when he goes for a kiss (small peck, makeout?). Sorry, I sound like a 16 year old girl!!
Help a bee out! Thanks in advance 🙂
Post # 2
Yeah if you’re a huggy person then give him a hug when you meet him. You’re meeting somewhere safe so that’s good. Just hang out and have fun. You don’t have to make it a long date. You’ll either click or not and there’s not much you can do about it. If you feel like you want to then have a hug, little kiss goodbye. If you enjoyed yourself then let him know. If he’s keen on you then he’ll be keen to get another date.
I met my husband via tinder. Had some good relationships over many years online dating. Also made a couple of really good friends. Also plenty of dates that were a bit boring or just not feeling it.
Post # 3
Have fun!! It’s nerve wracking at first, but once you get there, just try to relax and enjoy the conversation. Bowling is a great first date!
I always looked at it more as a way to test the guy out and see if he was for me, rather than trying to focus on impressing him as much. You know?
Post # 4
I met Fiance on Tinder and we’re getting married in 3 weeks! So I’m a big fan haha. We had dinner for our first date and talked for hours. Ended the evening with a hug. Kissed at the end of our 2nd date (which was like 16 hours long!) and have been inseparable ever since! I say don’t force anything and just go with the flow. If you click, awesome! If not, back to Tinder! I went on probably 9 dates before I met Fiance. Some were wretched! Some were nice but no *zing*.
Wishing you luck and love and sending all my good dating juju! Keep us posted.
Post # 5
I became an expert at first dates before I met my husband. It’s good that you are meeting in a public place and that you are meeting so soon after you started talking. From experience it is far too easy to start talking to someone and “get to know” them before even meeting. Meeting someone in person shows you the chemistry that you have whereas texting/talking to them too much can give a sense of false chemistry.
IF it works out the conversation will not feel forced. I’ve been on both types of dates — those where the conversation was forced and dry and also those where we got along right away and the conversation was easy and flowed well. The other part of this is keep on asking yourself if HE is a good match for YOU as opposed to wanting to make yourself a good match for him. It sounds like this would be a long distance relationship and I know you say you don’t have any expectations, but don’t get your hopes up. Just have fun — this is only date one.
Post # 6
That’s so awesome that you both met your fiance/husband on Tinder! I was worried I’d get some negative reactions about using it. Thanks for the luck and advice, I’ll let you know how it goes!
Post # 7
Yeah, if it works out it would have to be long distance for a while until I am done with school in May and move back to my hometown. We’ll see what happens! If anything, this date is just a way of getting myself out in the dating world 🙂
Post # 8
UPDATE: The date was really good! The bowling alley had too long of a wait, so we tried going to an adult arcade, but that was packed too! (That’s what we get for going in the cities!). Since everywhere in the cities was so crazy, we decided to meet up with some of my friends at a bar in the suburbs. I was kind of hesitant about him meeting my friends so early, but we both wanted to spend more time together and our other plans were failing! He was up for anything and was very easy to talk to. Him and my friends got along great!!
He was very talkative and open and super sweet. He kept mentioning us hanging out next time I’m home and that even though he has a busy work schedule, we’d find a time 🙂
Once I was home, I received a text from him saying how great of a time he had, that he is so happy to have gotten the chance to meet such an amazing person, and that he is excited for the next time we are together. **swoon** Who would have thought this guy came from Tinder?!
Today he texted asking me to come visit him at work before I go back up north for school. Guess he can’t wait 2 weeks to see me again 😉
For those interested, the greeting was a side hug haha. After getting to the bar, he pulled me close and we kissed (just a peck). At the end of the night, there was more kissing, but not necessarily making out if that makes sense.
We’ll see what happens!
Post # 9
Congrats!! Sounds like it went really well!! Good luck. 🙂
And thanks for the update!! It’s always nice to read a follow-up. Especially if it’s a successful one!! Woo!