(Closed) First Date Tonight… Nervous! Help give me advice or calm my nerves

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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6262 posts
Bee Keeper

Yeah if you’re a huggy person then give him a hug when you meet him. You’re meeting somewhere safe so that’s good. Just hang out and have fun. You don’t have to make it a long date. You’ll either click or not and there’s not much you can do about it. If you feel like you want to then have a hug, little kiss goodbye. If you enjoyed yourself then let him know. If he’s keen on you then he’ll be keen to get another date. 

I met my husband via tinder. Had some good relationships over many years online dating. Also made a couple of really good friends. Also plenty of dates that were a bit boring or just not feeling it.  

Post # 3
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1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Have fun!! It’s nerve wracking at first, but once you get there, just try to relax and enjoy the conversation. Bowling is a great first date!

I always looked at it more as a way to test the guy out and see if he was for me, rather than trying to focus on impressing him as much. You know?

Post # 4
Hostess
4227 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I met Fiance on Tinder and we’re getting married in 3 weeks! So I’m a big fan haha. We had dinner for our first date and talked for hours. Ended the evening with a hug. Kissed at the end of our 2nd date (which was like 16 hours long!) and have been inseparable ever since! I say don’t force anything and just go with the flow. If you click, awesome! If not, back to Tinder! I went on probably 9 dates before I met Fiance. Some were wretched! Some were nice but no *zing*. 

Wishing you luck and love and sending all my good dating juju! Keep us posted. 

Post # 5
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4242 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I became an expert at first dates before I met my husband.  It’s good that you are meeting in a public place and that you are meeting so soon after you started talking.  From experience it is far too easy to start talking to someone and “get to know” them before even meeting.  Meeting someone in person shows you the chemistry that you have whereas texting/talking to them too much can give a sense of false chemistry.

IF it works out the conversation will not feel forced.  I’ve been on both types of dates — those where the conversation was forced and dry and also those where we got along right away and the conversation was easy and flowed well.  The other part of this is keep on asking yourself if HE is a good match for YOU as opposed to wanting to make yourself a good match for him.  It sounds like this would be a long distance relationship and I know you say you don’t have any expectations, but don’t get your hopes up.  Just have fun — this is only date one.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2026

Congrats!! Sounds like it went really well!! Good luck. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

And thanks for the update!! It’s always nice to read a follow-up. Especially if it’s a successful one!! Woo!

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