First day at new job didn't go well

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 16
4253 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Not trying to be harsh but if you thought things would just “work” and you would love it from the first minute you walk in the door your expectations were pretty skewed.  Honestly I would refrain from talking to your old coworkers as much as you are right now because obviously they are trying to “win” you back.  Give it time, get to know the people in your new office.  Put yourself out there, start conversations with people…you will get there.  I switched jobs in summer 2015 and it took me a full year to forge the relationships that I have now.  But now?  I’m very close with the majority of people on my staff and I am very happy with the friendships I have made.  Time will tell.

Post # 17
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

LittleButtons :  I have cried the first day (privately) of EVERY new job I have had in my adult life. I am also not good with change, but tomorrow marks the one year mark at my current job and although I was a mess the first day, I love my work environment now! Hang in there!

Post # 18
42 posts
  • Wedding: August 2017

Adjustment period definitely. I felt quite sad when I took my new job a year go, but now I am feeling great, lots of new friends! I do miss my old workmates, but I also love my new job and my new friends who helped me a lot! So you will feel better, trust me!

Post # 19
1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

LittleButtons :  i’ve just started a new job, and felt exactly the same way! It’s especially not fun when everyone has inside jokes you don’t know and its easy to feel left out.  It does get better! Hang in there.   I have been at my new place for a week and today was the first day i actually felt good about it.  My old work is also like family, and i will miss them so much, but they arent dead! I can still pop in and say hi

Post # 20
4232 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

You are going to be fine! What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Change can be a little scary and uncomfortable. You are allowed to be a little emotional! In two or three weeks when you are perfectly settled, you’ll see and feel all the good that your new job is offering you…and that feeling of comfort will start to grow again *hug*

Post # 21
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

This is totally normal! I would suggest that you stop talking to your old coworkers for a couple of weeks until you get adjusted and feel better at the new job. Starting a new job is super scary! However, I think the reality is that you needed this job to grow in your career. Not everyone has great relationships with coworkers at work – and thats OK! Work is not meant to be like that.

I would also suggest asking your old coworkers to STOP asking you to come back – that’s not fair. A simple text along the lines of “You know I totally miss you but these texts asking me to come back are making me super sad. Let’s get drinks together soon!” 

Post # 22
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Just wanted to say that I hope today was better!

Post # 23
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Maybe to ease the pain you can meet up with your old crew next week or two once you’re settled in? Hope things get better!

Post # 25
177 posts
Blushing bee

I hope things get better for you bee!

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