(Closed) First Dress Fitting…. and no one is coming with me.

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I totally second the taking pictures…I’m way across the country from my entire Bridal Party and my Mom.  And since I’m having a custom dress, there’s a lot of fittings.  But to be honest, it was kind of fun to go alone to the first one (my mom may come out for the next one b/c she hasn’t seen the dress yet).  I would recommend seeing this as an opportunity to really soak in the experience in your own personal way rather than letting it get you down.  You really can just revel in the experience of feeling like a bride ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

I’m planning on going to mine by myself.  I think it will go much smoother without outside opinions.  I really trust my seamstress, so her input matters most to me and I’m glad that’s all I’ll be getting.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I went to mine by myself. There was no one to go with me. It was fine. You will be fine! I’m sorry you’re feeling upset ๐Ÿ™

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with DoctorGirl – take pictures and post them on weddingbee!  We’ll be happy to gush all over your dress and bustle with you!  The best thing is we’re also pretty much a 24/7 hive, since we’re all from different parts of the city/world! ๐Ÿ™‚

I’m sure you’ll look gorgeous, and just remember that we’ll all be thinking of you!

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Chela, do you have a camera phone?  If so, you can have your seamstress take pictures on the spot and send them to your bridesmaids and family.  That way they’ll still get the participate!  Heck, send it to us! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2020

I only had one person come to my second dress fitting with me.  I didn’t read into it.  My mom decided to see my dress for the first time on the wedding day.  The people who work in bridal salons are great and you will be fine!

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper

I went to my first dress shopping alone too!  Don’t worry, you’ll still get all teary and stuff.  I wish anyone could have been there, but I made the most of it on my own!

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My close friends and family are far, far away, so I went to some of my fittings alone, and some with my Fiance.  It wasn’t ideal, but it happens.  I just had a lot of pictures taken so I could email them to my mom!

Somewhat ironically, my fiance is actually going to have to help me dress on our wedding day, as he will be the only one who knows how to fasten the back of my dress, and bustle my train.  It wasn’t how I pictured getting ready on my wedding day, and we won’t get to have a big reveal kind of moment, but it will make for some cute pictures!  There’s always a bright side!

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Yes, I did, and it didn’t occur to me anyone should come, although it would have been nice.  The appointments were during the week, and my family is not local and my two BMs who are have jobs….I had my Maid/Matron of Honor come to the final one to learn the bustle though ๐Ÿ™‚  Can you borrow a digital camera from someone to take pics? I took pics and shared them with my mom who lives in MI (I also live in NYC!)

Oh and the seamstress who was with me was so cute and gushy when I put it on, so that was nice! 

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I will be!  I also bought the dress by myself… at first I was a little bummed, but i like shopping alone.  I can take my sweet time in looking through the racks and no one suggested anything that I would have to turn down.  Also!  I want to go to the fitting alone, because now the dress is a secret from all!!!  : D

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I went by myself the first time – although I completely understand how you feel.  Something about weddings makes you so overly emotional about things that would otherwise not bother you.  I think going by yourself at least once is very beneficial because it will give you your own perpective of the fit/dress/etc without even your most trusted friends’ & family’s opinion. 

Post # 31
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2009

You could always think of it this way… this is your chance to discuss with your seamstress what YOU want and not have other people trying to influence how the dress to fit.  Then, when it fits like a glove for the first time, you can share that moment with your Maid/Matron of Honor or someone else close to you!

I was with a so-so friend when I found my dress.  I always imagined that I would be with my mom and sisters and when I walked out in the dress, my sisters would scream, and my mom would start crying.  Unfortunately, I got a half smile followed by a, "Are you sure?  I liked the other one better.  And this one is twice the price."  But I love my dress, and I love the way I feel in it, and I know my fiance will love how I look in it and that’s all that really matters.

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