(Closed) First Ever OB-GYN visit…

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have no tips either…because I’ve never been to one either! I’ve not had sex yet and I have no interest in hormonal BC, no family history of anything remotely bad in that department…so yeah, I never bothered to go. Don’t feel bad!

I’ve heard of some women wearing thigh-high socks…makes you feel less “naked” down there, I suppose. Maybe give that a try if you’re feeling weird about being so exposed!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Read this…  If you scroll down to “What happens during the exam?” It’s a pretty good description. 

I just had my first exam a few months ago.  It really wasn’t bad at all. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Hi ๐Ÿ™‚ I only have one tip really (I don’t think this is the same for everyone-but depends on your individual body), it may be wise to take a couple ibuprofen before you go. My first time, and every time I go for my annual, I have had to do this or else I end up cramping pretty bad afterwards. But honestly besides feeling bare in front of someone-that’s probably the worst case scenario I can think of! It isn’t that bad, but it can be slightly uncomfortable. Hope that helps!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I wouldn’t wear thigh-high socks, ’cause I would feel silly in them and a hospital gown.  lol.  I do leave my (regular) socks on though…keeps your feet a little warmer.

If you had any concerns, I think you would have gone before now, so not really any questions to ask unless you want to talk about birth control types.

Just relax.  It’s not comfortable or fun, but it only takes a couple minutes once a year.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Hey congrats for waiting… I am waiting on my wedding night to have sex for the first time as well. However, I have had an OB/GYN visit to get a pap smear. When I turned 21 I got my first one. I went alone and no one knew because I felt it they knew I would be weirded out…so, I told mom afterwards she was shocked I went through with it. Haha

1. First, congrats for making up your mind to go.

2 Second, take a good bath before you go{just to be comfortable with how you are donw there because someone else will be looking(there)}

3. Write down any and all questions you may have for the doctor and ask them (mine talked to me in her office before the procedure….this helped alot because I didn’t just feel like a statistic I felt important. Afterall, she was about to see MY GIFT…. girl, please! Don’t just tell me to lay back… tell me about you, what you will be doing, and what to expect first. She was awesome! The best OB/GYN ever- wouldn’t change her for the world. She talks to me like a human being, asks about work, tells me about her life, everything… down to earth. This helps me alot!

4. When you lay back relax, don’t tense your muscles one way I check to see if I am tense is if my shoulders are hiked up a lil bit like a shrug.  know I need to breath and relax. Your down there is a muscle… and you want it relaxed. The more relaxed you are the better the exam will be.

5. Breathing helps me too- she will let you know if you are tensing up. Quickly just breath and relax yourself. Relax your downstairs ๐Ÿ™‚

6. My exam was over so quickly I was shocked. I thought it would be longer and painful because I am a virgin, but both exams I have had since were awesome and did not hurt. I actually told the doctor when she was done ” is that all?” she was like “yes, did you expect more” haha Yeap, I did I expected to be in pain or something, but as long as I relaxed my muscles and breathed…. it went quickly and painless!

If you need or want to talk about anything more, feel free to message me! I don’t mind sharing my stories! God bless!

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve had to go more frequently than I’d like, so I have to say it really isn’t all that bad, and you’ll be fine as long as you follow the tips that PPs have written.  The other thing is to remember (you’re a nursing student so this should be easy), that to your examiner, you are just another patient and it is just another body part.  Try your best to relax, make small talk, etc, and it’ll be over before you know it.  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@chasesgirl – I totally understand feeling nervous.  I will still be a virgin on my wedding night. No one had ever been all up in my business either! ๐Ÿ˜‰  I went to a female midwife.  I think this may have been a big plus for me.  I wasn’t comfortable with a male dr or midwife.  She also spent a LOT of time talking to me before the exam so I was pretty comfortable with her. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Wow, this post has inspired me to finally get my act together and schedule, gulp, my first appointment.  Both my husband and I were virgins until we were married so I’m not worried about STD’s or anything, but I have had some pretty intense lower abdomen pain that is prompting me to get a check-up.  Yuck. ๐Ÿ™‚

Good luck!  I’ll try to be brave and get an exam as well!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

It’s really not bad at all.  You are actually totally covered by a gown, and the dr just feels your ovaries/uterus from the outside (I don’t like that part), then from the inside.  The Pap smear was the most uncomfortable part for me because it does hurt a little bit.  In all honesty, it takes 3 minutes, maybe?  It’s not long at all.

The dr should also check your boobs for cancer (mine does), one at a time.  Also, they use a little lube for the device to take the Pap smear, and I usually feel pretty gross down there afterwards from it, so I would suggest getting some feminine towelettes to freshen up afterwards, especially if you can’t go straight home.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

my first visit to the gyn, she didn’t use the speculum, not sure if that had to do with my age (i was on the younger side, but i’d had sex prior to that) or what. my second time she did, it’s uncomfortable, but not terrible, and pretty quick. one thing that i was shocked by, she put a finger in my bum while feeling things! nothing i had read told me that was a possibility, and my mom was surprised after when i told her, but my other friends that go to the same dr said she did the same thing to all of them. i don’t think most drs do it, but i figured i’d warn you it is a possibility (i wish THE DR had warned me prior to doing it, haha, it was alarming as a teenager who wasn’t very familiar with what was going to happen, i wanted to yell ‘WRONG HOLE!’).

i leave my socks on, putting my bare feet on those stirups would weird me out. i also bring a pantyliner with me, after there’s a lot of lube leftover & sometimes i spot a tiny bit. to distract myself the first few times while she was down there, i counted the ceiling tiles, just try to focus on something else and relax! good luck, you’ll be fine!

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Building a relationship and feeling comfortable talking to your OBGYN is also really important and makes a big difference in the exam portion. I just went to a new one the other day so I was nervous about that. We talked about birth control options for a while and then after building a rapport with me she did the exam. It made it a lot more comfortable since she set the tone for it.

Yes, it is awkward to have someone all up in you, but just remember they are professionals and do this all the time. Just try to relax. The exam portion should go pretty quickly. I always wear something comfortable to an appt because afterwards I feel kind of icky. I also do not feel like having sex for a day or two…youll see why.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

My GP is also an OB/GYN, and said that unless I had concerns or problems he wasn’t worried about me getting a pelvic until age 25 or sometime within a year after becoming sexually active, whichever came first.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@MrsE.ToBe:  i don’t think most drs do it, but i figured i’d warn you it is a possibility (i wish THE DR had warned me prior to doing it, haha, it was alarming as a teenager who wasn’t very familiar with what was going to happen, i wanted to yell ‘WRONG HOLE!’).

I don’t think the fact that she didn’t prepare you is funny, but it would have been hilarious if you HAD yelled “Wrong hole!”  Hehehe…makes me chuckle just thinking about it.

Mine has not done a rectal exam at this point, but I know some doctors do, especially as you get older.  Having a doctor who explains what she’s doing every step of the way, even after I have had the exam multiple times now, I guess it never occurred to me that there are some doctors who DON’T tell you what they are doing.  That sucks.  Especially if he or she knew it was your first exam.

Like I said, mine practically gives me a play-by-play.  We talk a few minutes first about what’s new, if there are any concerns about Save-The-Date Cards, (there better NOT be!  Hehe!), if we need to talk about birth control, (not this year, since we are going to start TTC soon)…then she’ll pull the stirrups out of the table and have me put my feet in them, tells me to slide down to the end of the table, tells me when/where she’ll touch me, when she will insert the speculum, there will be a slight pressure from it, might be a little discomfort as she collects the cervical cells, etc.  The exam doesn’t take long, like others have said…you will probably spend more time waiting in the waiting room/exam room and/or talking to the doctor than the actual physical exam.  Good luck!

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