(Closed) First Experience with Oral?!

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
557 posts
Busy bee

the best advice is watch your teeth. If you don’t want to gag get saliva on your hand and use your hand around the base and focus on the top with your mouth. good luck

Post # 3
1480 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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jomir:  Giving oral can be fun and sexy for both parties involved – however, not everyone likes doing it. Since you’ve never done it before, I would say stick to the basics until you get a little more comfortable.

– NO TEETH. Most important!

– Use your mouth and gently suck/lick/whatever on the head of his penis (kind of like a lollipop or popsicle)

– Use one or both hands – if they fit – on the shaft of his penis at the same time you are using your mouth on the head of his penis. This should alleviate any possible gagging issues as the head should be relatively far from your throat.

– If you’re not comfortable with him finishing in your mouth, let him know. Some people do not like the taste, texture, what have you of cum. 

– Don’t be afraid to use a decent amount of pressure when you’re using your hands. If it hurts, he’ll let you know.

My first real BJ experience was great, because I enjoy doing it and I think guys can tell. Fiance says I’ve given him the absolute best BJs he’s ever had. Good luck!

Post # 4
495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I LOVE performing oral sex so I think thats one of the BIGGEST reasons why Im so good at it. It should never be treated like a chore.

There are some obvious things to keep aware of, like teeth, thats a no no and mixing up with motions and what not. Using your hand off and on but honestly, lots of guys are different and what one guy may like, another may not. Thats where your man needs to tell you what HE likes and what he wants you to do and then go from there. Never be shy to correct each other during sexual activity.

Post # 5
8434 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I LOVE performing oral sex so I think thats one of the BIGGEST reasons why Im so good at it. It should never be treated like a chore.

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aka_nessa :  +100000, this!

Post # 6
4758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Start slow and see what works for you and him. You don’t have to take more than the head into your mouth right away (or at all, unless you want to), and it’s okay not to have him finish via BJ – you can use it as foreplay if you want.

I enjoy them, too, and I think one of the reasons I do is because I learned them at my own pace and did what I what I was comfortable with.

Post # 7
9124 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

In addition to the technical advice posted, your best bet is to be (or act) excited and into it. That is the sexiest thing you could possibly do in my experience. Don’t act grossed out or like its a chore. Good luck!

Post # 8
2843 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’d say read Cosmo. They always have articles with detailed instructions.  

Post # 9
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m not going to lie! I used this youtube channel a LOT when first getting intimate with my SO (I was highly inexperienced). It was helpful (and lighthearted) advice from a variety of women on what works.


NSFW at all though so consider yourself warned 🙂

Post # 10
3636 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

To help you get excited and get into it, which really is the MOST important thing, (if you are looking forward to it and enthusiastic then nothing else is really “wrong”, it’s all just learning) – have him dirty talk to you about it. About how much he wants his penis in your mouth, how hit you look doing it, how good it feels etc. It will really help both of you enjoy it.

Post # 11
969 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

don’t try to take the entire thing in your mouth at once!! Start out like you would eating a melting ice cream cone and then move into sucking a lollipop! focus on the tip and then slowly take more and more of him into your mouth (as much as is comfortable) moving up and down (like a handjob). If you get to a point where it makes you gag don’t go that far down on him. Most guys get off from rip to midway down the shaft action anyway so don’t worry about trying to deep throat or fit his entire penis in your mouth, esp not your first time. cover your teeth with your lips (warning this might hurt your lips a bit if you apply lots of pressure) Don’t suck to hard (like you have something stuck in a straw) that will be painful! And don’t actually blow lol as previous bees have said cumunication is key, have him tell you what feels good when you are doing it. Good luck and have fun! Ps: it might be a good idea to start just having fun with it use it as fore play before sex (don’t make him get off, just do it for a couple of minutes before sex -plus it’s great natural lube) and then as you get more comfortable you can focus on doing them to get him off. Good luck and have fun!

Ps: if he’s not doing it already oral sex should be 100% reciprocated.  

Post # 12
1789 posts
Buzzing bee

Run your tounge up the base too, and for some extra eye rolling on his part,  trace the alphabet on his shaft with your tounge.  You usually dont get past k before his leg is shaking. … little tip I learned from a friend

Post # 13
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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JustMe12182:  All pp are on point, but I should say…

Go at your own pace. Use oral sex maybe as a warm-up for sex. Tease him, get him worked up, but use it as a foray into intercourse. Do that several times over the period of a week, two weeks, when ever, and then when you feel comfortable, you may feel ready to “complete” things, so to speak. Then you’ll be mentally prepared for what happens after. That’s how I did things.

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