- 2 years ago
- Wedding: April 2017
I was in a similar position to you accept that in our family both sides had a pretty strong preference for a girl. No one in my husband’s family has had a daughter in almost two generations and my own mum told me outright that girls are more fun and more special… Awkward because I have a brother. But I did feel quite a lot of pressure to have a certain gender even though I know we absolutely have no control over it, it caused me anxiety and it kinda sucked !
and to be honest if we had found out that it was a boy I would probably have not told anyone the gender until after birth because by then no one can at disappointed. I get it. Its shitty but I get it. It doesn’t matter to me at all.
We decided to go ginger neutral with our nursery regardless and one of my older relatives threw a fit because I wasn’t doing all pink or blue as if it was some life-altering problem.
We’re having the first grandchild on both sides and the coveted little girl that everyone wanted too. Everyone is elated.
Funny because the first thing that was said after we announced was ‘maybe you’ll make a boy next time…’
People are freaking idiots. Pay no mind. They’re outdated and their ideas will die with them