(Closed) First in friends and family to get married?

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Me too!  I’m also the oldest of my siblings, and none of my friends have gotten married yet either (even couples who have been together way longer than Fiance and I).  Fiance is the youngest in his family and is older than me, so we’ve gone to some weddings for his friends and family, at least, but they were all so different (one was very 2009-trendy, one was laid back, and one was traditional) so we feel pretty comfortable in just picking what we want to do without worrying about what others are doing or what the old school etiquette books say.

I’m sure you’ve had this too as the oldest sibling, but I’m nervous about having to be a trailblazer.  My friends have no idea how much goes into a wedding and I expect them to do things like RSVP yes and then just not show up because they don’t think it’s a big deal.  And I’m already having issues with my parents and older relatives trying to explain to them what a wedding is like now, as opposed to when they got married.  Sometimes being first really stinks!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

ahh…i am also the first out of friends and family to get married. i am the youngest out of my sistes and i’ll probably be the only one that ever gets married or hav an actul wedding. i’ve only attended 3 wedddings in my life, so i don’t have much to go off of. either a $90K wedding or a 1K wedding….

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

The first out of our HS friends and families (and we are the youngest). Not the first out of our college friends.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I was the second out of HS friends to get married (but was engaged first).  I am basically the youngest cousin so I’m almost the last to get married in the cousin field.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m in the same boat, kind of.  I’ve only ever attended three weddings in my life, and am the second of my friends and second in my family to get married, so I definitely feel like it’s a bit of a trial by fire.  Thank goodness for google!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Me. I’m the oldest of my generation on my mom’s side (and we don’t have any contact with father’s side) so I was the first marriage in the family after my aunts. I had attended their weddings when I was younger, but I didn’t remember much about them. A couple of friends were married before me, but they didn’t do the whole wedding thing. The up side is I didn’t really have to “compete” with any other wedding (not that you have to anyway, but you know what I mean) and we were just kind of free to do as we pleased since I don’t think the family had any expections really since we were the first.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m the oldest of the cousins on my side, so our wedding was the first one in a long time.  And we were the first of our friends to also get married.  Now, there’s been a couple more and I’ve been loving it! 

Post # 10
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m the first on my mom’s side to get married, and the first in my groups of friends. It kind of stinks because basically no one knows what the heck I’m talking about half the time, or they have very outdated notions about wedding traditions – but hey, look on the bright side – you set the standard! you don’t have to live up to the glamor of or be compared to any other weddings.

Post # 11
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh, and, I’ve never been to ANY wedding!! NONE!

Post # 12
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599 posts
Busy bee

Same with me! First of friends to get married and the oldest child. So while I have attended 4 weddings, I wasn’t close to the people in any of them so I am trying to figure all of this out on my own. Super difficult. Luckily there are places like weddingbee for me to get tips <3

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am so the opposite. I only have one sibling married but FI’s family has an average of 3 weddings a year. I couldn’t imagine planning a wedding without have been to one! But the hive is the place to be for that. Good luck 🙂

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m the oldest, and the only girl, in my family, so yeah… I’m definintely the first to get married there. And in my group of friends. It’s weird.

Post # 15
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188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think the grass is always greener – I am the last person in my family and friends to get married. Its great that I’ve been to a ton of weddings and have lots of ideas, but I feel like it isn’t quite as special…Everybody always remembers their first wedding. No matter what, everything is new!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I’m the first one in my family/circle of friends to marry and have only been to one or two weddings before, and even those were when I was a kid so don’t remember much. It is a bit intimidating to be a trailblazer, but I actually prefer being first. I don’t have to worry about “copying” someone else’s wedding and my parents and friends trust my choices since they don’t have a million assumptions about what a wedding “should” be. 

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