(Closed) First Look

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@karavickery:  I thought about it, but I don’t think we’ll get around to it. I think it might be nice, but we’ve got a pretty strick timeline day of. I’ve seen a lot of bees that did and really loved them though.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I can take them or leave them.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

When I first mentioned it to Fiance, he did not want any part in it. After our church wedding coordinator and the photographers we interviewed…he was convinced it would be a good idea for us to do it. For one, we will not have enough sunlight on our wedding day due to daylight savings time and he likes the idea that it would be an intimate moment between him and I (it’s probably the only time we will be alone during the wedding). So we are doing the first look and we are both excited!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Fiance and I are planning to do a first look! I’m excited!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

We did it and I highly recommend it! It was amazing for both of us. It was a private, quiet moment where we could just hug, laugh and just soak in that fact that this was our wedding day (It was the only part of the day until we got back to our room at 1am where we could actually enjoy a moment like that)! We got great pictures from it, and everytime we look at them we get teary eyed lol! My husband gasped when he turned around to see me and we both shed tears… it was amazing!

Also, because we did a first look we were able to do all the photos before the ceremony! It was nice being able to relax and enjoy our own party and mingle with guests instead of having to go and take more pictures. Plus, many of our guests commented that they liked that we were present as well. 🙂

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Definitely having a first look and I can’t wait!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

we are doing one….we only have an hour between the ceremony and reception so to get all our pics in we have too…..luckily our ceremony is at 5:30 so we don’t have to get up too early for the first look pics 😀

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I didn’t want to do it at first but now I’m warming up to the idea. We are planning on doing one so we don’t have such a big gap between our ceremony and reception, and it sounds like it will be a really nice intimate moment between the two of us.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I’ve been going back and forth about this too, and this thread from a couple days ago really helped put things in perspective (especially the first reply):

Should we do a First Look?

🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are totally having a first look! I want to be able to take time with my Fiance and bridal party to get some amazing shots instead of feeling rushed during cocktail hour and keeping my guests waiting

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We have no choice as we are dead against making our guests wait longer than an hour between  the ceremony and reception… An hour is so not long enough to get the photos I want so we have to do them in advance. Personally, I prefer it this way. It will greatly reduce my anxiety levels and will hopefully prevent me ugly crying my way down the aisle lol

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@msfuturea:  This SAME thing happened to us! Now we both want to do it! However, I need advice!

My family, his family, our bridal party, are all VERY traditional and my mother, in particular, will probably FREAK when I tell her what we want to do b/c I guarantee she hasn’t heard of them.

Any suggestions on how to “EXPLAIN” the importance to parents, concerned people?

It’s going to have to be a “Hey~ This is what WE decided on and this is WHY!” type-o-deal!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@PardonMe: I COMPLETELY understand because I am in the same situation, lol! I’m hispanic and many of wedding aspects do not exist (e-rings, bridal showers, rehersal dinners, and etc) and especially not the “first look”. I think both of our moms will freak out and have a heart attack if we told them because the groom “shouldn’t” see the bride before the ceremony. However, I am not telling anyone anything until days before or day of the wedding. I think it will be best because I won’t hear lectures and they will be bound to accept it. Besides, once I think I tell them our reasons I strongly believe their concerns will subside. They wants us to have as many pictures as we can and doing the “first look” will help us have more pictures without rushing.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2003

I have posted this before, but it looks like some of you missed it… Hope it helps.

 

First Look

 

Wedding days should be full of emotion. Wedding days should not be stressful. But let’s face reality, they are. This is why I ask all my clients if they are interested in doing a first look. The first look adds so much beautiful emotion and happiness to a wedding day and alleviates SO much stress, it’s hard to know where to start raving about it!

Well let’s start from the beginning…from the ancient tradition of the bride and groom not seeing each other before the ceremony. Many people don’t realize the reason for this was because the bride and groom had NEVER seen each other before the ceremony! It was so the groom, quite frankly, wouldn’t split! Luckily we’ve progressed and in our modern society, marriages (for the most part) aren’t arranged. We CHOOSE to marry the one we love. And we can choose to see them before the ceremony!

Whenever I photograph a couple that chooses not to see each other before the ceremony I try to put myself in their shoes. The bride walks down the aisle to her soon to be husband. They are both completely nervous with all these guests staring at them. The bride reaches the front of the church. Her father is standing between her and her future husband. Her father gives her away and she moves to stand next to her husband. They don’t touch. They don’t talk. They can’t tell each other how amazingly beautiful the other looks. They can’t tell the other how incredibly excited they are to be getting married. They can’t hug, they can’t kiss, they can’t embrace. They can’t have a moment to themselves. After the ceremony is over they are immediately approached by all their loving relatives to be congratulated. This continues into the reception and throughout the night. They never have a moment just to themselves. I’ve been told by many people that your wedding day goes by in such a big blur, that sometimes it’s hard to remember everything. If you do a first look you have time scheduled to slow down and appreciate what this day is all about…being madly in love with the person you’re about to marry!

Some people are concerned that a first look takes away from the emotion of the bride walking down the aisle and being given away by her father. It doesn’t. The bride being escorted by her father creates a completely different kind of emotion. I see grooms choked up in a totally different way than they were when they saw their bride for the first time. Your groom is also prone to have a more natural reaction as you approach him – he’s calm because he has already seen you…instead of being nervous while seeing you for the first time with the stress of 200 guests staring at him!

So how does the first look work? After you are both all done up and dressed for the wedding, we position the groom facing away from where the bride will appear behind him. She approaches him while we capture the happy anticipation on his face. She usually touches (or grabs!) his arm and turns him around. And we the photographers capture, from a distance, all the emotion! You two get to hug, embrace, and savor this moment as long as you want…without the pressure of your guests watching you. You get to talk, laugh, cry (and reapply your makeup before the ceremony!) and we’re there to capture it all!

Another reason to do the first look is that it reduces stress so much! Not only will you be less nervous walking down the aisle, it makes the day run much more smoothly. After we do a first look we do portraits of the bride and groom together. We have plenty of time for creative portraits that you will treasure forever! Then we get the whole bridal party together and do all of the formal photos with them, and then formal photos with your immediate family. We stop taking photos at least 30 minuets before the ceremony starts so you can tuck yourselves away, usually separately, without being seen by guests. The only formal photos we have left after the ceremony are any large family photos, which take about 30 minutes. When you do a first look everyone gets to the reception quickly and your guests aren’t sitting there waiting for two hours because guess what, we did all the photos before the ceremony! Of course it is possible to do all the photos after the ceremony but they are always rushed, which means as a photographer I’m not as creative as I could be, and you’re not getting the photos you could be! You’d also be getting photos taken when you’d rather be celebrating with your guests, which stresses you out!

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