Post # 1
Ok I’m like many brides who can’t decide to do a first look or not. Honestly we never thought or planned to do one, but having a Friday evening wedding there’s not a lot of time after the wedding to get pictures done afterwards. Now we kind of have a plan that makes our wedding party and parents run around for a couple of hours beforehand, or we could save ourselves a bit of a headache and do a first look and take care of all of our photos.
Now if we do do a first look we need to decide how we want to do it. Any suggestions? Anyone have pics I can see?
Post # 3
@MrsRose: We are a Friday evening too…we are utilizing a half hour out of our cocktail and the small gap between to have the pictures done after the ceremony.
I PERSONALLY, would not go for a first look session. That’s just me!
Did you take into account some cocktail hour time you can use for pics?
Post # 4
We’re doing a first look and I think they’re brilliant. I would recommend going somewhere private with just you and your fiance and the photographer. My favorite approach is to get you all set up and pretty somewhere and then have him either open a door or turn or corner or take of a blindfold…and then see you and melt at your sheet beauty. Then you two get to share a few romantic moments before the main event! Alternatively, I’ve seen picures where the guy is standing with his back to the entrance and the bride sneaks up behind him and when he turns he gets to see her.
Post # 5
I’d love to but Fiance refuses
If you search “first look” a ton of threads should come up with pics
Post # 6
Wedding scheduled for 6pm, so we are doing a first look (location 1) for 1 hour from 2:30-3:30. The wedding party, including our parents, will then join us for about an hour of bridal party pictures (location 2). Then we will head to the venue before the doors open and guests start arriving. I’m hoping that gives us at lesat 30 minutes to touch up hair and makeup and relax for a moment before “THE MOMENT”. After the wedding, only pictures with the extended family will need to be taking (during cocktail hour). Keep in mind that our wedding and reception are in the same building. You have to do what works best in your situation.
Post # 7
We have a Saturday wedding but regardless, we are so doing a first look. I love all the photos of first looks I see and they are so much more intimate IMO and the bride and groom can hug and exclaim over each other, versus waiting until you walk down the aisle in which it is hard to capture both of your faces/emotions in one neat, compact shot. Plus, I want to enjoy myself during cocktail hour and mingle and not worry about trying to get all the great shots of us and our families in in an hour.
Post # 8
What is a first look and what are the advantages?
I asked some of my real brides about the first look as a photographer, and here’s what Bethany K., September 2010, had to say:
“To me a first look was a way to make just one moment on our wedding day just ours. I could have waited for him to see me as I was walking down the aisle, but then I would have to share that moment with all of our guests. Some of them could see his expression better than I could, and I might miss that initial face. I didnt want to do that. I wanted to be the only one to see his face, and for him to see mine and I wanted to be able to hear what he first thought when he saw me, and not have him afraid to express those emotions infront of 150 of our closest friends and family. Kristen set it up so wonderfully, taking pictures of the anticipation on his face as I approached (with his back turned), then got the look on his face as he spun around to see me. Im so grateful to have that image on film so that I can never forget how excited he was. It was one of the best moments from our wedding day, and I will never regret doing a first look. “
Most brides and grooms today are opting for a first look. A first look is where the bride and groom, freshly dressed and prepped, have an intimate glance at each other prior to the ceremony. It’s your wedding day – you should spend it together! This allows you to get most photos done when you are at your freshest. It is essential for weddings taking place close to sunset, in the winter when the sun sets early, and a good idea for any couple for whom photography is a priority. We can fit in more locations, more poses, more creativity, and more fun with the first look!
Here’s this bride’s natural response-very emotional.
Post # 9
Even though we did very few “traditional” things for our wedding, everyone around us was incredibly insistent that we not see each other before the wedding. We live together so we ended up staying at home and then going over to set things up because it was supposed to rain the night before so we had a lot of work to do beforehand. At about noon (4 pm wedding) we split up and he stayed at his parents’ house (where we had the wedding) while I went to get my hair done and to a friends house to get ready. When I left to get my hair done, it was really hard to leave. And I’m not going to lie, I cried because things had been so stressful (we planned everything in a month). That was the moment I realized how much he grounded me and honestly had a good cry when I left (as did he…did I mention we were super stressed and it was our first moment to ourselves without adrenaline pushing us forward). I sat there while they were doing my hair and realized how much I wished we had planned a first look because I felt like that was what I needed at the time.
However, we stuck with tradition on this one and we didn’t see each other until we were walking down the aisle. And looking back now, I have to say I’m happy I had the support to make me wait it out because it was worth it. We actually got married in the driveway of his parents’ house so I had his surrogate father basically (ie very close family friend) drive me down the street in his car. My heart was literally pounding when I got in the car and we started to pull up. I was so nervous. But the moment I stepped out of the car and saw the look on his face, it was worth it. He started crying (and he does not cry easily). I don’t know if we could have ever captured that moment by doing a first look. The nervousness, the pressure, the build-up, the music sung by a colleague of mine who was there for one of our first dates, our families right there…it all would have been too hard to truly capture any other way. And part of it may be the artist in me, but I think music adds a huge element to that moment and would have been lacking in a first look photo session.
We don’t have our pro pics back yet, but I do have one of him wiping the tears from his eyes when I got up beside him which I love. It was one of the hardest things I had to do and I definitely questioned it, but I wouldn’t take it back now. So that’s just my experience–others might feel different or have a different story to tell.
Post # 10
We will also be doing a first look. Our venue is on a golf course and it starts at 5:30 in the evening. So we can get a different look we decided to have our first look at a hotel the girls and I are getting ready at. (in the city)It will be just us at the hotel and we will take pictures with the bridal party around the city for about an hour. (I wanted them to enjoy cocktail hour as well. We are planning to take family pictures about two hours before the start of the wedding at the venue. That way after the ceremony when we will be fighting with daylight, Fiance and I can get pictures around the golf course. I didnt’ want the feel rushed taking pictures with the bridal party and family right after being married for only 15 mins.
I liked the idea of all the group shots already being over with and the first hour as a married couple would be just the two of us minus the photographer.
Post # 11
We did a first look and it was perfect. We did it under the big oak tree at our wedding venue, and the looks on our faces was just priceless. Enjoy these photos!
Post # 12
We did one. We’d already lived together for over a year, we wanted to wake up together that morning, and see each other before the big moment. It didn’t seem natural to us to be forced apart all day when the entire point of the day was us coming together. My husband also didn’t want hundreds of eyes staring at him, judging him and his reaction, when I came down the aisle. He’d already seen me, so there was no pressure on HIM to have the “perfect reaction” for everyone. We just got to enjoy the moment of me coming down the aisle to him!
This is my favorite:
Post # 13
We’re not doing a first look and wouldn’t change that no matter how rushed things could be. Fiance wants to see me walking down the aisle for the first time that day and he says he’d feel robbed if we did a first look. I honestly didn’t know about the concept of a “first look” until I joined WB. To me, it takes away from the first time seeing each other in that moment at the ceremony.
Post # 14
We didn’t do a first look. but looking back it’s probably one of my regrets! So, I personally would choose to get the first look done! 🙂
Post # 15
You guys rock! Thanks so much for the feedback! I’m thinking just from talking to Fiance that we will probably end up doing one but I think I still needed some convincing.