(Closed) First look

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hi Orchid12, it didn’t ruin it for me. If anything it made it better because we were both much more relaxed and could focus on the moment. The only thing I saw walking up the aisle was my husband and it was amazing. Obviously I can’t compare to the experience I would have had if we had chosen not to do a first look, but I’m so glad we did one. I was getting stressed and was literally shaking when I met my husband at our first look. It all melted away once I saw him. Also, it was very intimate to spend some time together (with just our photographers) before we said our ‘I do’s’

Post # 4
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2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You’ll probably get a mix of responses. For us, it didn’t ruin the moment at all. Just made it better. My husband didn’t want the pressure of having the “perfect” reaction in front of everyone. So he had the perfect reaction in front of just me. 🙂 Being together before the ceremony was great and made me so much calmer than I would have been without him.

And seriously, nothing will diminish that walk down the aisle. I mean, I was walking to marry the man of my dreams. If that isn’t special enough…I don’t know what is! My dad had to pretty much hold me back from sprinting down the aisle.

Post # 5
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@misspeanut:  Same thing! Really glad we did one! It made for a fun day of taking pictures and being with our friends and family.

Post # 6
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1426 posts
Bumble bee

Everyone is different.  For us, the “walk down the aisle” wasn’t that important, and DH is pretty private about his feelings/emotions, so it just made sense for us to do a first look.  We also had a later ceremony so we also took 90% of our pictures before-hand.  It was amazing to be able to have that time together to hug, kiss, and just revel in each other, which we wouldn’t have been able to do if not for the first look.

Post # 7
Hostess
14027 posts
Honey Beekeeper

For me, doing a first look actually made the walk down the aisle better. I was a bag of nerves all day, but getting to see my husband before the ceremony really calmed me down.

I mean, don’t get me wrong. I was still nervous, but I can’t imagine how much more nervous I would have been if I hadn’t seen him first. And there’s nothing that could take away how special that walk down the aisle is!

Plus, I really enjoyed getting to be able to hug and talk in private (or, as private as you can be with three photographers and two videographers lurking) for a few minutes before everything got started!

Post # 8
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m glad that I didn’t do a first look. I liked the suspense of him not seeing me until that moment- and he thought that it was important as well. I agree with Gemstone- “there’s nothing that could take away how special that walk down the aisle is,” but there’s something maybe just a little more magical about seeing each other for the first time as you are actually getting married. It’s also kind of fun to have that reaction in front of all your guests. They get to share that special moment and see the look on his face when he sees you in your wedding gown walking down the aisle to marry him. Just my two cents.

Post # 9
Hostess
14027 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@NowMarriedNotHarried:  You’re right — it’s totally personal preference, and I think it’s awesome that brides have the choice these days!

Post # 10
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I actually talked to my FI about this a couple of days ago and he did say that it was very untraditional.  I told him that the benefits of seeing each other first actually outweighs the bad.  I’m very emotional and get nervous easily and when I’m put on the spot when everyone is looking at me, it gets worse.  I figured that if we see each other before the ceremony it will actually calm some nerves and jitters and we can have  our moment with each other before we get married.

He was a little concern that it will ruin the walking down the aisle experience but honestly I don’t think it would.  

He is still deciding if he wants to do the first look and he understood my reasoning, so right now is up in the air. If it was solely his choice, it think he would rather just see me when everyone does as well, while walking down the aisle.

Post # 11
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184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

LOVED doing a first-look.

We got a ton of great pictures of us alone together that we simply wouldn’t have had the time to do after the ceremony.  As a result, our after-ceremony picture time was only an hour as opposed to two.   It allowed us to head over to the reception earlier and enjoy the party with our guests.

Post # 12
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We did a first look.

 

Then we walked into the ceremony together which is a Swedish custom (to honor H’s Scandinavian heritage). 

 

I thought it was perfect for us.  I did not like the idea of me coming down the stairs alone and him watching me.  We got to enter the space together and to hold on to each other. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

This has been a hot topic for years – since the first look became popular. I’ve never seen a bride regret the first look. We had a little photo session just the two of us before our ceremony, about an hour, and it was my favorite part of the day. So nice to have some quiet time in a beautiful place together before the craziness of the wedding!

Post # 14
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186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

The morning of the wedding all I wanted to do was see my groom. The sooner the better! There was so much going on around me — I just wanted to be with my best friend and share the moments. We also wanted to enjoy cocktail hour and not worry about any pictures after the ceremony. So we did opt for the first look and we are so happy we did!! (we also took family photos before so we didn’t have to take anyone away from the party)

Our photographers were also happy because we were able to take advantage of the beautiful day/weather. We ran around the city and took some amazing shots — something we would not have been able to do if we had waited to see each other. 

Our ceremony also wasn’t until 7PM – our first look was around 2PM. I know that for couples with an earlier start time – it’s less of an issue. But if we had waited – I would not have seen my husband ALL DAY!

The day was so much more special because we were able to spend it together. 

Post # 15
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22 posts
Newbee

Our photographer said almost all her brides opt to have a first look.

She also said those who opted not to have a first look have all regretted it.

Her reasons:

1.  it’s really the only alone time you will have with your groom all day. 

2.  Family photos get done quickly and efficiently. Its hard to corral all the family directly after    the ceremony.  

3.  More time for creative and fun poses.

4.  It helps to calm your nerves.

5.  Gets you to your reception faster.

Post # 16
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We did a first look because we wanted that alone time before the ceremony … but that’s not how it worked out.

Leading up to the wedding, I really stressed to family that this was supposed to be just the two of us and the photographer. It apparently didn’t sink in: All the family present went outside to watch before I was even ready to go out. 

Because of the added pressure of people, the moment — and therefore the photos — weren’t as intimate as we had wanted, but I’m still glad we did it for us. The photographer was super smooth in getting everyone to go inside after they saw the first look, so we were able to have a few minutes to ourselves anyway — with the photographer getting some shots from inside. 😉

It was just nice to see him and calm my nerves and then go back inside together as a team to face the day. (He would’ve seen me before the aisle anyway; Jewish weddings have a bit where the groom veils the bride before the ceremony — and all the guests are present for that one.)

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