Post # 16
TaraMay_: Thanks! My fiancee is the same type. And let’s be honest, it is the perfect time to make some pictures, since the makeup and hair will look at their best, right? 🙂 I will be getting ready at my home, and him at his home, so we need to find a rather close stop. We both live in appartments so we can’t just do it around the blocks. We do have a nice small forest near but I am afraid people will be there(it is usually nice to walk there, since the zoo is near, and has all kind of stuff for kids to play,a nd eat and also a place for jogging there)… So I don’t know.
613wedding: Yey! I look forward too! Still, it is not very private, since I am thinking I will have the photographers and 2-3 friends(the drivers, hahaa)
MrsMore14: He wants whatever I want. Here is how usually it is done around here: the bride gets ready at her home, him at his. At one point some relatives come to the brides home, and we all wait for him and his parents and the godfathers. He comes with the bouquet and… they see each other for the first time like this, full of people and unnecessary jokes, and awkwardness. I don’t want this!
Post # 17
I loved the first look- it was such a special magical moment for us!
Post # 18
I’ve seen cute first look pictures and it can really help with your time line because you can get all of the family and wedding party pictures you need before the ceremony and go straight to the reception. BUT I’m traditional and refuse to do it. I think it would be better to wait until coming down the aisle. When I go to weddings I love seeing the grooms expression
Post # 19
mary90: My photographer talked to us about it and I am not for it. My sister in law is getting married before us and is doing it. She likes the idea of getting it out of the way and having us all take pictures before the wedding. Myself, I am traditional. Kind of like the movie 27 Dresses, I want to see his response when everyone is standing. Plus it make walking down the towards him just that more special. Do what feels right. I heard a lot of brides prefer the first look.
Post # 20
- Wedding: Stonehouse at Stirling Ridge
I was very anti first look at first but after putting some thought into it… Fiance and I’s greatest moments are always in private when we just get to be with one another. I wouldnt want it any other way on our wedding day, plus we are both sentimental and seeing each other before hand will help up get the nerves out of our system before the wedding. I have a feeling he will still have a great reaction as I come down the aisle just because that makes it all real…I’m sure I will still have a reaction. I cannot wait to do our first look 🙂
Post # 21
mary90: yup i will be doing It. At first i wanted him to cry when i walked down the aisle and the photo times just started stressing me out so i decided to go with a first look. we may not have the first look walking down the aisle but it will be great to hear what he thinks when he sees me for the first time. It’s special in a different way. Once i get that out the way, it will be the guest turn while i walk down the aisle. I won’t be as nervous either since he has already seen me.
Post # 22
I encourage all my clients to do a First Look. It makes the day SO much smoother….and the couples are always way more relaxed the rest of the day. I’ll be really honest, I get “pintrest reactions” out of MAYBE 1 out of 10 couples. For real. Don’t get me wrong, people are excited and happy and smiling, but those “OMG this is amazing” expressions really don’t happen as often as people think – so just don’t be dissapointed if you don’t get the recation you envision. I tell my couples the same thing for the shot of the groom’s face when the bride is coming down the isle. Many brides expect this grand reaction out of their groom, but more often than not nerves have taken over and it’s just not there (not from lack of enthusiasm for the marriage, but just being nervous).
More than just the First Look, being able to knock out formals prior the ceremony is a huge time saver. Traditionally the cocktail hour was dedicated to taking photos, and it was perfectly easy to get it all done within that time frame. Keep in mind that back then, photography was not as elaborate as it is now. You got a handful of different groupings, and a few shots of the bridal party & bride/groom – that was it. Brides have way bigger expectations now with their photography, and so the First Look was actually designed to be a solution to the problem we photographers face – a couple wanting tons of variation in their photos, but we just physically can’t fit it all into a cocktail hour. The added benefit is that we’ve found couples are just way more relaxed the rest of the day – because that stress/pressure is off.
I personally set up a private moment for my couples, and I don’t allow anyone else to be present except myself and my second shooter. I politely yet firmly let family (especially moms!!!) know that it’s going to be a private moment, and too many people distracts me and the couple from the moment. If they try to insist on coming, I just pull them aside and let them know it’s a really important moment for the bride/groom and it makes people very uncomfortable to be watched, and it makes it hard for me to do my job. I’ve never had anyone argue it past that.
Post # 23
I am doing the first look for my wedding and I’m so excited about it! I am definitely making sure it is private though. I’m putting our bridesmaids and groomsmen in charge of keeping the parents and prying eyes at bay. You definitely don’t want the distraction of all eyes on you in a deeply intimate and personal moment.
Post # 24
mary90: We did a first look for logistical reasons and I’m so glad we did it! I really loved that we were able to have a few moments alone together before the ceremony, plus I knew I would cry and I didn’t want to have my ugly-cry-face on when I walked down the aisle. 😉
Post # 25
I wanted to do a first look just because it’s more practical, but it’s actually not going to work out because of time constraints. My Fiance was actually relieved because he felt like the expectation and pressure of having a good reaction with just us and two cameras would make us both look awkward and act weird.
Post # 26
starfish0116: Hahhaa, that is a good one “I’ll be really honest, I get “pintrest reactions” out of MAYBE 1 out of 10 couples. For real.”
Yeah, I will have that in mind. I don’t think he will have that reaction so I am on the right track. If he will, that would be a plus, but not having it won’t be a minus.
SusanBeeAnthony: I think it is more that the reaction. It is about a moment with not so many people. As I said in my previous message we can’t have the aisle reaction, because we have the legal ceremony before the religious one, so it is a custom that the groom comes to the bride’s home, and with relatives, close friends and other people, they all go together to the city hall to be married, and after that to the place where they get married religious(we do it outside, near the reception tent)
And a plus is the fact they you get to have some pictures with you looking at your best! 🙂
Post # 27
We did it and loved it. We met at a country park near our house and had our first look in some ruins. It was lush plus we had an hour to get photos in other areas of the park so it added variety to our photos. We then drove to the ceremony together and walked in together. It helped us feel the day was about us not a “show” for our families. Highly recommend.
Post # 28
mary90: Okay. I wasn’t really arguing for or against it, just reiterating my FI’s reaction.