Post # 1
Hey Bees! I literally come to you with every silly question…You are all so wise : )
I have been looking up wedding pics of other peoples weddings at my venue to get some ideas and every single one of them has done a first look before the ceremony. I always thought I would be stepping into the aisle and that is where he would first see me and I would blow his mind yada yada yada. Any words of advice? Is it more common now to do a first look before hand then do a photo session pre-ceremony?
Some extra info about me/our wedding
Photos are not a huge prioirty for me. I am not one to go back and look at pictures often. My photographer budget is only $1300 and I am also considering doing only 4 hours coverage (getting ready/ceremony/coctail hour photo session).
My venue has a narrow aisle and I run the risk of people poking their heads out and my Fiance hardly seeing me….AHH! Also I want to request that guest dont take any photos during the ceremony.
I dont know what to do…Help please!!!
Post # 2
- Wedding: July 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview
We hired our photographer for 4 hours as well and did a first look. Honestly, it does save time by the time you get through all of the pictures, and then you can relax for the rest of the day. Also, it helps with the nerves. I was already nervous walking down the aisle as it was (I don’t like attention on me), but if I hadn’t seen him at all prior, I would have been a wreck!
This photo was just after he had seen me. I can’t find the actual one with his response at the moment though.
Post # 3
- Wedding: Stonehouse at Stirling Ridge
Honestly I would 100% recommend a first look! It honestly does save SOO much time plus you and your bridal party get to actually ENJOY your cocktail hour! Bonus any nerves you have before walking down the aisle seem to dissappear. In my case my husband was just as mind blown watching me walk down the aisle as he was when we had our first look.
Heres a little collage I put together of our first look:
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
I am waiting. We have alotted for time between ceremony and reception for photos. I love the traditional idea of him seeing me for the first time as I walk down the aisle towards him. I can’t wait for that moment!!!
Post # 5
We did a first look and I’m so glad we did. On my walk down the aisle, my husband was still going to tear up, but he was fighting it back. The look on his face was… not pretty. By having a first look, we have a picture with great emotion, and plus it has both of us reacting to eachother in the same picutre, something you can’t get walking up the aisle.
There is something about the walk down the aisle that still triggers emotion, even with a first look. My DH was trying not to cry, I was beaming, and my dad who had seen me all day was trying not to cry too.
Post # 6
Every photographer I talked to said it really helped the flow of the day to do first look and it’s way more common now. Every bride ive known who did it says it was totally worth it and everything was still just as special. That said some people like to keep it traditional. My mom had this philosophy that people who do first looks are robbing their guests of the ability to see the groom’s face when he sees the bride the first time. That didn’t stop my sister (although my mom insisted on being there so she could see it) and isn’t an really option for me since I’m getting married after dark so almost have to do a first look!
Post # 7
I REALLY wanted the first time my husband saw me to be walking down the aisle, but I also REALLY wanted to do pictures before hand and not have a big break between wedding/reception. So something had to give and we decided to do a first look.
I am so so glad we decided this! We were able to have our first look with just us and the wedding party peeking in- it was relaxed and special. We then were able to get all of our family and wedding party photos done before the ceremony and have the reception start right after the wedding. It also gave us time, as a wedding party, to head to a local bar and have a beer together before heading to the reception venue- which was so fun and we got some really great pictures there! The first look also washed all me and my grooms stress away that day and totally didnt make walking down the aisle any less special!
I’m really glad that we ended up going with a first look and were able to enjoy our time after the wedding without a huge break in between. =) Heres a pic of the wedding party grabbing a quick beer together before joining our guests at the reception…
Post # 8
I voted for a first look. It isn’t just the photos, it’s that precious time, just you and your Fiance, to see each other and to spend quiet moments together.
Post # 9
Beautiful first look pictures!!
Post # 10
Super helpful! Those photos are all beautiful! I do love the idea of catching his emotion and am afraid it will be missed if we do an aisle first look. I am not sure why I feel so stuck on him seeing me first when i’m walking down….one of those silly things!
Did your Fiance have an opinion on it???
Thanks Bees : )
Post # 11
We’re doing a first look and here’s why:
– takes a bit of the pressure of walking down the aisle (FI is shy)
– we can take as long as we want to do pics before while our makeup is still fresh
– we can enjoy the cocktail party with out guessts, that we’ve paid for
– We can great and mingle with guests before dinner so we have less up and down during the meal
– capture a quiet, private moment
Post # 12
I did a first look and I was very glad. For one- it was helpful for my husband and I to see each other first and semi-alone. It was calming and centering for me. Second- after the ceremony I was on kind of a high and the bridal party & family pictures were getting on my nerves because I was so emotional. I’m glad I got my pictures with my husband in before all that. Lastly- ESPECIALLY since you’re planning a short time with your photographer you really should do it before the ceremony. Everything can get hectic and you might feel rushed. The pictures with your husband are the most important ones ultimately… you want to get them done with plenty of time and when you can relax.
Post # 13
- Wedding: Stonehouse at Stirling Ridge
DH was super skeptical about a first look in the beginning but after thinking things through it just made the most sense since our ceremony and reception were held at the same location with only an hour for photos during cocktail hour so we opted to do a first look and after the ceremony he said having that time to ourselves helped him focus during his vows (DH stutters slightly when hes nervous) so having that alone time calmed his nerves enough to get through his vows flawlessly and confidently.
Post # 14
i’m team first look, but photography is also super important to me, and we’re hiring our photog for 10 hours – so that my advice for what you will
Post # 15
I LOVE first look photos. I think it also helps chill everyone down before the ceremony. You guys get to sit together and have some ‘quiet time’ before everything gets too crazy. I also like that the emotions are private.