Post # 1
We’ve been going back and forth on this issue. For those of you that have done it what were the pros and cons? Would you go back and not do it if you could? And if you waited until you walked down the aisle what were those pros and cons? Do you wish you had done a first look?
Post # 3
We did a first look and that was my favorite part of the day! The photographers did a really good job of making sure no one else was around. We have a few pictures of me walking up to my husband and you can see his face, and it’s priceless. I was really nervous about the day, prior to the first look. This calmed my nervous to the point where I wasn’t nervous for the ceremony at all. We did almost all of our pictures prior to the ceremony and just had a great time. It helped make the day about “us” instead of the anticipation of seeing each other (if that makes sense). I wouldn’t have changed it for the world!
Post # 4
This is a big decision for us too. I was set on a first look until I actually bought my dress. Now that I love my dress so much, I can see the appeal in waiting until I walk down the aisle.
FWIW, I’ve never heard a bride on here say she REGRETS doing a first look, but I have heard a couple say they regret NOT doing one.
Post # 5
About how long do the first look photos take? Or how much time should we allow for them?
Post # 6
We did one and have some of the best pictures because of it. Also hubby was insanely nervious about the ceremony and had been for weeks leading up to the wedding and this helped calm his nerves and have a few moments of quiet time together before the ceremony. Ours probably took about half an hour but honestly that seems like a short amount of time. I’d double check with your photographer for suggestions on a timeline including a first look. These are both from our first look- sorry they’re huge.
Post # 7
We did a first look and I wouldn’t have changed it for the world! Being able to see my handsome hubby before hand really helped me relax. We got to have a private moment, which was very important to my husband. He didn’t want to have to share that moment with our 150 guests. Plus, it didn’t make the walk down the aisle any less magical. Instead, my husband could enjoy the reactions of everyone else seeing me for the first time 🙂 I HIGHLY recommend it!
Post # 8
I wish I had been able to do a first look and take most of our pictures before the ceremony. Unfortunately too many other people (including the photographer) thought it was a better idea to keep me hidden telling me it would ‘ruin the magic’. So I don’t have very many photos of family with both the bride and the groom. From my point of view, it wouldnt have ruined the magic of the ceremony and I was disappointed I didn’t get the chance to do it.
Post # 9
I did not do a first look and I am so glad I did it this way. I hadnt seen my husband since saying goodbye to each other the night before after our after party for our rehearsal dinner. I talked to him the morning of our wedding and other than that there was no communication. THe anticipation was amazing and seeing him for the first time while walking down the aisle was just like I had always imagined and it was absolutely perfect. I feel like it made the charge between us very very intense. I was beaming the entire time! After our ceremony we didnt have any immediate alone time together because we were surrounded by family and friends and then it was time for family pictures and bridal party pictures. This went by fairly quickly. It didnt really affect much with our photography schedule because we had 2 photographers – so one of them was with me and my girls before and one with my husband and his guys. Thats when they did the majority of bridal party pictures and then we just did a few more with the outside setting by the lake. After our bridal party pictures my husband and I took pictures together and even though the photographers were there, this felt like our alone time and it was awesome. I guess the ONLY con would be that we were not able to attend our cocktail hour – but the only reason I cared about that was the food, not the extra time with people!! All of our guests came to our rehearsal dinner and many attended our day after brunch so the extra hour of time with guests wouldnt really have been that big of a deal – it was actually nice to be away and out of everyones eye for a little while! Then the first time we were truly alone together was after our wedding on the boat we took from our reception to our hotel. The boat ride ended up being an hour and a half but it is one of my favorite parts of the night and part of the reason why it was so special was because it was our first real time alone together ALL day AND we were husband and wife!! Good luck deciding – Im sure whatever you do will be right for you and in the end you wouldnt know what something feels like that you dont do so dont worry about it too much!
Post # 10
sorry that was so long i didnt mean for it to be!
Post # 11
We did a first look and I loved it. It allowed us to have alone time before the ceremony (because you won’t really have alone time the rest of the day), get some wonderful pictures, and the walk down the aisle was still so special. I only saw him as I was walking toward him.
We had our first look a little after 4 and the ceremony was at 6:30. We had to be back at the location before 6 so that I could stay hidden. It really helped us to get great pictures together and not feel rushed. We pretty much still missed most of the cocktail hour doing pictures with our families.
Post # 12
We did the first look, and there were no cons for me! All pros, I’m so glad I did it. It was an easier decision for me b/c it was a religious thing, I’m Jewish and we have to sign the ketubah before the wedding in the same room, so we were going to be seeing each other before the wedding anyway. We took advantage of that for some photo ops. We were able to take fun first look photos (which ended up being some of my faves!), and family pics before the wedding (which was good b/c we ended up needing even more time after). I was able to actually be calm before the wedding b/c I had my hubby there with me, and we had some much needed alone time (besides the photographer but he wasn’t intrusive at all) and really got to take each other in without a bunch of eyes looking at us.
Post # 13
I am not married yet but I just wanted to chime in that we are doing a first look. Not only do we want some alone time on our big day, but our ceremony is not until 6 PM. If we were to wait until 6 PM to see one another, we would both be a nervous wreck and miss most of our cocktail hour and reception getting photos together. I would rather be relaxed, spend some quiet time, do the photos and then move on to the ceremony.
Not only that but we are planning–and paying for–the wedding ourselves with lots of DIY projects. I think it would be nice if we got to enjoy them along with our guests. 🙂
Post # 14
I wanted to do a first look mostly because our ceremony/reception are all in one place and we won’t have much time between. I was worried about not having enough time to take pictures, and I also thought that if we were able to attend our cocktail hour it would be an extra hour we’d get to spend with guests. So logistically, a first look makes a whole lot of sense.
But? My fi doesn’t want to do one. There isn’t a whole lot about his wedding day that he’s been dreaming about his whole life, but seeing me for the first time as I walk down the aisle is one of those things. And it doesn’t matter to him if it makes more sense practically to do a first look… emotionally its not what he wants for his wedding day. He has offered to do it if it’ll make me less stressed out, but what I want for my wedding day is to give my Fiance what he’s always wanted for his.
Post # 15
We did one and I was so pleased! Our pastor came out a rehearsed our vows with us towards the end and I got SOOOOO choked up (like sobing, snot rockets, disgusting!). I’m glad I got those emotions out prior to the actual ceremony and was able to make my words intelligable for our family in friends (and I didn’t shoot anymore phlegm). Also because of the way our church is laid out and because we are shorter people my husband couldn’t see me until we were right next to each other. I highly recommend them and it only took about 30 minutes.
Post # 16
We did a first look and have no regrets.
We aren’t traditional people, but there was something appealing about having the ceremony be the first time we saw each other. But we later agreed that having this private moment would give us an opportunity to a) have some pretty awesome pictures taken, b) spend our cocktail hour taking family portraits at a leisurely pace, and c) see each other for the first time in private (with the exception of two photographers), where we would have a chance to spend time looking at each other and enjoying each other.
Doing this really did take some pressure off from the tension of the ceremony.
It was truly awesome. Neither of us regret it.