(Closed) First Look?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
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    First look photo shoot


  • Post # 2
    264 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    My wedding is not until August, but we are planning on doing a first look. I love the idea of having a moment to ourselves when we first see each other, and really getting to bask in the emotion of that moment. Also, Fiance is extremely shy and I’m a big crybaby, so I think it will help both of us to have this moment for ourselves to shake off some of the nerves before being in front of all of our friends and family.

    One suggestion I’ve heard is to not be completely outfitted when you do your first look– for example, don’t put your veil on until after. That way, he’ll still be seeing your entire look as his bride for the first time when you walk down the aisle.

    Post # 3
    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I’m very traditional and refused to have him even get a glimpse of me before walking down the aisle. As in, I called his parents and his best man to make sure he wasn’t there before I went into the bridal suite and had my mom call him (again, very traditional – he isn’t allowed to talk to me either the day of) to make extra sure. I was very serious about it. I don’t regret it at all, it was worth it to see his face right before he married me and gave me such a rush. Plus our families got to see all of the emotion too. I had a cocktail hour just for photos so the guests could drink etc while we did photos. I’m happy with how I did it and wouldn’t change it. 

    Post # 5
    928 posts
    Busy bee

    I really don’t want to do one but my venue just chopped my time by an hour so now I’m extra concerned about things running over.  We might do one for the sake of efficiency but efficiency isn’t always romantic.

    Post # 8
    880 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    We’re doing one. There’s only going to be about 30 guests at our wedding so when our families are involved with all of the photos, there will be 10 guests (our friends) just hanging out at the cocktail hour. Just seems weird.

    So we’ll have our private moment, get a lot of the pictures out of the way, and then take a few after the ceremony as well.

    I should mention that I’m NOT traditional at all. Fiance and I will spend the night in our hotel the day before the wedding so he’ll technically see me on our wedding day as well.

    Post # 9
    1925 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We’re doing it. I don’t see how it lessens the walk down the aisle. That’s the moment before you’re married. It’s a crazy emotional moment regardless of anything. We like it because we get to have our moment privately. We are private people so I prefer that versus in front of 200 people. Also I am so far from traditional. 

    Post # 10
    928 posts
    Busy bee

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    msmeow13 :  Some new rule where employees can’t stay past a particular hour.  I have been too busy with work and other personal matters to devote energy to pushing back but maybe next week I will.

    Post # 11
    9436 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I loved our first look and don’t feel like it took away from walking down the aisle at all. Plus it helped our day run smoothly.

    This was my husband’s face at our first look:

    And his face as I walked down the aisle:

    Lots of love and happiness in both! 

    Post # 12
    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    At first I was against the first look, but in the end I really wanted to take a lot of pictures in the surrounding area we got married in which would have taken way too long to do between the ceremony and reception. We just did family photos during cocktail hour.

    I was a MESS walking into the ceremony. I had spent all morning with my FH, we only spent the hour of dead time before the ceremony apart, but when I walked down the aisle which was in a beautiful woodland grotto with the trio playing and everyone there, it was so surreal I lost it and almost started bawling looking at my husband-to-be (doesn’t make for great pics lol), who was almost in tears too. Luckily quickly got it together for the rest of the ceremony. I can’t imagine what would have gone down if we had all the pent up emotion of seeing each other for the first time that day.

    Post # 15
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    We’re doing a first look, both for practical timing reasons but I also like the intimacy. I want us to be able to smile, laugh, say a few words to each other etc. versus immediately stand side by side without speaking and begin a ceremony. I think my Dear Fiance will have a more tender touching response in private too than he would standing in front of 200 people. One thing I am also looking forward to since we are seeing each other before the ceremony is we will have a breif meditation time in the bridal suite just piror to the ceremony. It is something a friend suggested to me and it sounds really nice. A moment to step away from all the hustle of getting ready, refocus on what is important and what the day is about, and just take a deep breathe a connect before the whirl wind of the ceremony and reception begins. We may exchange small gift or letters in private at that time too. I like the idea of having a few moments alone together before it all starts.

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