Post # 1
Fiance and I decided to do a first look. This took A LOT of thought and debate. We both wanted to first see each other walking down the isle, but in the grand-scheme of things it would work so much better for us to do pictures before the ceremony. We don’t want to be rushing around during cocktail hour to get everything done, and we want to be relaxed and enjoy ourselves.
I know the pictures will be worth it, but there is still that part of me that wants that moment when I walk down the isle and he sees me for the first time. Ugh, I am so torn. Did any of you bees feel this way? What were your experiences with your first look?
Post # 3
We didn’t regret it at all.
Post # 4
We went through that exact line of thought. And my husband felt particularly strongly that he didn’t want to see me until I was coming down the aisle. But in the end we kind of HAD to do a first look or we would not have had any time at all for pics of the two of us, which was important to me. In the end, we were BOTH so glad that we did it. What I don’t think I full realized before we did it is that it isn’t a good idea JUST for convenience. It was a great idea because we actually got a few minutes (mostly) alone! It was amazing to have the first time he saw me be a private moment between him and I. I really really enjoyed the time we spent together before the ceremony, and it actually made me feel so much calmer all day. How could I be nervous with my almost-husband by my side? Plus just spending more time with him in general on our wedding day was great. I mean you only have ONE wedding day, why wouldn’t you want to spend as much time with your husband as possible? Our ceremony wasn’t until 4:30 and I’m so glad that I didn’t have to go basically all day without seeing him!
Post # 5
I LOVED our first look, I just wish it would have lasted longer than 3 minutes (we were on a tight schedule, hahaha!!!). The main reason why I loved our first look, is becuase it was the only time we were able to be together and alone (aside from the photographer) for the next 14 hours.
Honestly, one of my favourite parts of the day!
Post # 6
I’m so torn on this issue too – have seen so many great points for both, and I hadn’t realized how traditional I would feel about some things…we have agreed on first look because the ceremony is not till 6pm(ish) but at the same time…I’m just not sure.
Post # 7
I’ve wanted one since I first heard the idea. Yet recently, watching some wedding shows I realize I do kind of want that moment when I walk down the aisle…
But I know me/us too well. I get the giggles like MAD when I’m nervous. He doesn’t cry and probably won’t in front of everyone – but he likely will if we do a first look together, and I want him to be able to experience those emotions. And I really don’t want to giggle like a loon walking down the aisle. So we’re definitely going for the first look, and I’m sure it’ll be marvelous 🙂
Post # 8
We are doing one… for sure! I love the alone time factor and great pictures (before the tears). Fresh face and full of excitement. I want to share that with him, and I’m glad he wants to share that with me too. He was all for it.
Post # 9
My fiance and I are currently trying to decide how to handle this. We haven’t started much planning, so we will discuss the options with our photographer when we get to that point. Did anyone opt not to do the first look? How long did it take to do pictures of just the two of you?
I don’t know how practical it would be, but if we decide to do the first look, I’m thinking I could walk down to the aisle to him? That way it has the same effect, but without all the observers. Also, I think I’d want the private moment to be truly private. If it’s just us, I would rather it be just us. No photographer. Thoughts?
Post # 10
Didn’t regret it at all, but neither of us were all about that “walk down the aisle”. But, even though we had spent all day together, the whole ceremony my heart was still fluttering and Darling Husband still had to try his hardest to hold back tears.
Post # 11
I don’t really see why it’s more special to see each other at one time than another. idgi.
We’re doing a first look because we want to get the pictures out of the way so we can mingle with guests more, and I think it will be awesome the first time I see my Fiance on that day, no matter the circumstance. 🙂
Also, I still think walking down the aisle will be awesome too.
Post # 12
I like the idea, but it’s not for us. Maybe I’m weird, but I don’t want to look back at my wedding photos and know that we weren’t even married in half of them!
Post # 13
I love the idea of a First Look but Fiance won’t even consider it. To the point where he gets angry if I bring it up.
“No! I want my first time seeing you that day to be when you are walking down the aisle!”
Kudos to those of you who did it!!
Post # 14
I’m going to throw it out there: We saved our first look for the walk down the aisle, and it was awesome. I never had, and still don’t have, any desire for “first look” photos. I was only nervous for about .2 seconds the entire morning and didn’t need to see Darling Husband to calm me down…I was just excited, and the anticipation building up to the walk was great. I’m certain we didn’t miss out on anything.
You can go either way, and it won’t change how special the day is to you. It’s not going to change much about your wedding, because it’s not that big of a deal! Just go with what feels right for you. 🙂
Post # 15
@Legallyblondiebride: I am having this very same problem! I always pictured my fiance getting teary seeing me for the first time as I walk down the aisle but as you said it makes SO much more sense for us to do pictures first. Ug!
Post # 16
I think we’re going to do a first look…my thing is I have a lot of anxiety issues and am dreading the walk down the aisle. I will be so nervous I’m not even sure I will remember anything. Seeing him first will calm my nerves (because he is the only person who can calm me down), plus he isn’t very emotional in front of people so I wouldn’t even get a reaction out of him when I walk down the aisle anyway. I would be very surprised if I regret it.