(Closed) First Look – Do you regret having one?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I was like you, I didn’t want a first look. But we got married outside in October and to have picutres outside when it was light, we had to do a first look. So, I gave in.

I have no regrets. They are some of my favorite pictures. And even though the photographer and our wedding party (which was mostly family) were around, it was nice to have a couple minutes “alone”. It was great to have the pictures done and then after the ceremony we were able to be with our guests becuase all the formal pictures were done.

I don’t think it takes away anything from the ceremony at all – my DH said that he was about to cry when I came down the aisle, but my dad forgot about my veil and said something funny that kept him from crying.

When we did the first look pictures, I did it without my veil and then put the veil on for the ceremony. That way there was somewhat of a change. In hindsight, I wish I would have done my first look with my veil, becuase I took it off pretty fast after the ceremony becuase it kept getting pulled when people were hugging me.

Post # 3
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Helper bee

We had a first look and no regrets! We both had tears in our eyes the entire ceremony, and walking down the aisle felt very emotional to me. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m not quite the response you asked for since I chose not to do a first look and didn’t regret it. However, I will say that the one consistent thing I’ve seen on these boards is that whatever a bride chooses, she tends not to regret her decision. In fact the few times I HAVE seen a bride express regret about her first look/no first look choice was when she chose NOT to have a first look and wished she had, never the other way around. 

So, that’s all to say- it’s quite likely that whatever you choose you’ll be happy with your decision!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

No regreat at all. We got all our pics done before the ceremony (which was good since it started raining literally when I began walking down the aisle and it humidity ramped up and my hair went POUF). The whole bridal party got to hang out and have lunch. It made a lovely relaxed morning/early afternoon. And the best part? The picture of my husband when I actually walked down the aisle. Because even though we did a first look and spent the early afternoon together, he STILL got emotional. No tears at all at our first look – but walking down the aisle was the moment it hit him. So you can have it both ways (:

Post # 6
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Helper bee

I don’t think I could have survived another 2 hours not seeing my groom the day of the wedding if we hadn’t done a first look. I was so nervous, it was great to have a few minutes of just us time, but without the pressure of 120 of our friends and family staring at us too. The moment at the aisle was still amazing because it was the “for real” one. I don’t know anyone who regrets doing their first look. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I’m on the opposite end. I decided against a first look, and I regret it.

Walking down the aisle, there’s so much going on, seeing everybody and everything I missed his face when he first caught sight of me. Also, I’m pretty sure he saw me before I was able to see him while I was walking.

Yes, for pictures. We live down south and it’s hot and humid here. So, even with getting married in October in the evening, after the ceremony we were so hot while taking our pictures. Our photographer was wanting to take more, but at that point DH and I were sweaty, hungry, and just done. I wish I had had a first look to get some of those pictures done beforehand, to have a private moment for just DH and I before the ceremony, and to allow us more time (which I would have used for a meet and greet).

Post # 8
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Helper bee

Same as knotyet. I didn’t have one and I regret it (but not really cause we didn’t work out.)

It would have helped ease my nerves and gave us a little bit of alone time before the ceremony.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I always envisioned walking down the aisle and my DH seeing me for the first time & just bursting into tears. I was vehemently against first looks. But we were having a shorter reception (no dancing, just brunch), so I felt like we needed that time after the ceremony to be with our guests and not be gone over an hour taking pictures. While we ended up taking most pictures after the ceremony anyway because my photographer was late, deciding to do a first look was perfect. DH & I were both REALLY nervous & anxious and after seeing each other it really alleviated the stress. We both discussed afterward that we were really glad we did one because it calmed us down being able to see each other.

He still got teary when I walked down the aisle, so it was just as special.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I loved our first look! It was one of my favorite parts of the day and logistically it makes things run more smoothly/less rushed. I absolutely don’t regret doing one.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I enjoyed doing the first look. I didn’t really have an opinion either way on whether or not I wanted to do it, it just worked out the best logistically. We got some really sweet pictures and I don’t think it took away from the excitement of walking down the aisle at all.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion

We had a first look and it was one of the best moments of the entire day. There was more time for photos before the ceremony, and I was so much less nervous during the cermony. Absolutely no regrets. #teamfirstlook

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

No regrets. We were able to get a99% of our pics out of the way before the ceremony too, leaving us all the time to celebrate with our family and friends.

and don’t worry, we were still emotional during the ceremony. 🙂

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

My Fiance does not want the First Look. He wants it more traditional. So I decdied to do a first look with my Dad instead. I can’t wait! 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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fourthnoel :  no regrets. It was amazing. I personally think people have the whole “groom cries when he sees me walking down the aisle” fantasy because of tv/movies/media. It doesn’t happen for everyone and the personally I think the logistics of a first look so heavily outweigh that “aisle moment”. 

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