(Closed) “First look” or first look as you came down the aisle?

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Did you do the "first look"?

    First look with photos before the ceremony

    First look only

    First look as you walked down the aisle then photos before the reception

    Other...please explain below

  • Post # 17
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We did’t see eachother until we walked down the aisle. We got some pictures after the ceremony and then a bunch in our Day After session. I did do a first look with my dad that was simply priceless!

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    No first look for us. Kept it “ole school”.

     

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I never heard of “the first look” before the actual ceremony until I started planning for my wedding. I did like the idea of doing “the first look” because it will just be my Fiance and I and I would love to see the look on his face. Plus, I like the advantage of getting some pics out of the way. However, when I told my Fiance about this idea he gave me this look as if saying “are you crazy?”, lol! My Fiance is VERY superstitious and said he really wants to experience seeing me for the first time as I walk down the aisle.

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    We’re not doing a first look either. I don’t get it. To me, it’s miss 45 minutes of a party, or miss the only time I’ll get to see that look on my soon-to-be husband’s face. And I think it’ll be different during the ceremony than it would be anywhere else. Anyway, we’re taking our pictures with just the two of us after the reception, so the first look wouldn’t help in that respect.

    Plus, I want him to cry when I come down the aisle, so I need everything to hit him at once – how pretty I look *and* the fact that we’re getting married. 🙂

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We won’t be doing a first look.  I am so happy as this is one of the few things we’ve agreed on from the start! haha.  I can’t wait to see his face when he sees me for the first time.  I know it will make me cry.  Not that I’m looking forward to crying…

    Post # 22
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I LOVE the pictures of me walking down the aisle and DH seeing me…. I’m SO glad we didn’t do the first look, even though we didn’t get “as many” pics b/c we had less time.. the ones we did, IMO, are so much more emotion filled.

     

    Post # 23
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

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    @LGenz: I like that explanation very much.

    We’re not spending a lot of money on photos nor do we want a huge amount of good photos, but my anxiety over walking down the aisle and being the centre of attention will floor me if I don’t see Fiance first. Of course we’ll take photos during our first look, but we’re private people and it’s more about getting our loveydoveycraziness/my anxiety out of the way where and when we feel free to express the greatness of the whole event. I wish it wasn’t so, but I won’t feel free to express all my emotions in front of everyone on the walk down the aisle, no matter how much I feel it. I bet I would hold it back and so would he. So first look it is, for us.

    Post # 24
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We did a first look and I loved it. DH didn’t want to do it at first but he lost a bet so we did. (In the end he said he was glad we did.) It gave us a chance to relax and talk to each other. We then took a bunch of group pictures plus we had the chance to spend 30 minutes at a location about 5 minutes away. If we hadn’t done the first look we wouldn’t have gotten nearly as many pictures because we still missed about 3/4 of the cocktail hour taking family pictures and pictures around the venue.

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m glad to read so many Bees aren’t doing / didn’t do first looks.

    It seems so common in wedding these days (my photographer asked when, not if we are doing one), but FH and I are dead set against it.

    Post # 26
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I wanted to take pics @ my fav beach so we did our first look and some of our couple of pictures @ that location. 

    Having our first look was very calming for me since our timeline was seriously shot and I was in a Bridezilla meltdown.  And our First Look didn’t take away from when we first saw each other while I was walking down the aisle.  It was an entirely different moment and soo precious.  We were getting married.  We were both soo happy and ready to get the show on the road.

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m doing a first look with pics before the ceremony. We’re going to get as many pics outta the way as we can beforehand. Our ceremony is at 4, then cocktail hour is right at 5 and it is in the same place (all in different hotel ballrooms), so we don’t want to miss out on everything! And by everything I mean the food and drinks in our private bridal party suite while everyone else is enjoying cocktail hour haha

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    More than convenience, unless you have a long drive to your reception in a private limo with your sweetie, your first look will be the only non-insane, just-about-the-two-of-you-and-not-your-guests time you get all night.

    I wasn’t sure if I wanted to give up the big down-the-aisle reveal either, but I’m glad that we did.  I was relaxed and more “present” for our ceremony.  It’s still such a BFD when you walk down the aisle that even though he’s seen you in your dress at this point, he’s still seeing you walk towards him to say “I do” which is really a bigger deal than just how you look in your dress…It’s still a breathtaking moment and way bigger than the first look.

    Our first look pics ended up being, for the most part, throw away crap, but I’m still glad that we had that time.

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Everybody likes it the way they did it. Nobody who did a first look will ever say they wish they hadn’t, and nobody who waited til they went down the aisle will say “I regret not doing a first look!” It’s a sweet moment regardless of when it happens. I was a maniac about my groom not seeing me before the second I walked into the chapel, because it was just my preference that we not see each other til then. Do whatever you’re most comfortable with; you will be very happy either way.

    Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

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    @ohheavenlyday: Very true!  No one regrets their way.

    Although, I have to say that if I hadn’t done a first look, I think the big reveal would have been spoiled b/c all of my guests saw me on my way into my waiting room.  It wasn’t really as much of a bummer as it sounds like it would be though.  It’s really all good on your wedding day.

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