(Closed) “First look” or first look as you came down the aisle?

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Did you do the "first look"?

    First look with photos before the ceremony

    First look only

    First look as you walked down the aisle then photos before the reception

    Other...please explain below

  • Post # 32
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’m glad someone has raised this topic because I’m considering whether to do a “first look” or not. 

    For me, I think @bananejaune best described what I’m thinking – doing it to get over nerves together.  I’ve actually been to (as a guest) a wedding that didn’t happen, and I think just having a few minutes to say “Ok, we’re both here, everything is going to go alright, we’re together” is important to me.  Then I can retreat to my bridal suite and relax and wait my turn to walk down the aisle.   That’s my reason for considering it.  Otherwise, I think I’ll just be in that room freaking out – if the whole point of the wedding is togetherness, maybe we can start working on it early?

    That said, I do like the idea of the real “first look” being with our family and friends.  So, I’m still undecided.

    Post # 33
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @luvmyDwight: I have a great compromise for you. We did a “First Touch” instead of a “First Look” because we, too, wanted to preserve the moment of him first seeing me walk down the aisle. This way, we had the magical moment captured of us connecting together privately without seeing each other, *and* the added bonus of some photos beforehand of just us, as well as each of us with our separate bridal party gang (me with my bridesmaids, him with his groomsmen.) This gave us a jump on our photos. We took photos post-ceremony, too. (My sweet husband was gently crying here. Awww! 🙂  )

    Post # 34
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    Newbee

    I love the idea of a first look photo before the ceremony. It’s definitely a more intimate moment (although you could argue that a moment between two people in a room full of others is just as or more intimate). I plan to do a first look photo before the ceremony and get all of the other pictures out of the way before the ceremony. I want to be able to enjoy my party!

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee

    My cousin had two photographers and one captured the expressions of the groom as my cousin walked down the aisle. The series of photos are wonderful and I think they would have been missed during a first look shoot. After seeing those pictures, I think I would rather wait to see each other walking down the aisle.

    Post # 37
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We are defintely doing a first look and I cannot wait!  🙂

    Post # 38
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think it will be even more special for my Fiance and I to see each other privately, when we can have a relaxed moment to kiss, hug and talk to each other. I think the walk down the aisle will also still be butterfly-inducing for the both of us too! Plus, having all the pictures taken before the ceremony means that we can actually relax and mingle with guests during our own cocktail hour and reception.

    I was worried people would harp on us about not avoiding each other until the ceremony, but actually his parents and even the pastor who are all very traditional love the idea of a first look, even though they’ve never heard of it! Also, a bunch of people told me they love that we’ll actually be at the cocktail hour instead of off taking pictures like they’re used to from most other weddings.

    Post # 39
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We went traditional, and I wouldn’t change it for anything, especially after seeing this pic:

    Post # 40
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @luvmyDwight: Like some others have stated, one of my very favorite moments during a wedding is to watch the groom’s face when he sees his bride for the first time. I, too, was torn about what to do because of this.

    In spite of this, my Fiance and I decided to do a first look so that we could have most of the pics finished before the ceremony, so that we’d be able to enjoy the party.  We also loved the idea of having time to really absorb the moment of first seeing each other privately, without anyone but the photographer and videographer there to capture the moment. (Unfortunately, due to a number of factors that put us behind schedule on the day of our wedding, we were not able to accomplish having most of the photos taken before the ceremony, and we missed the entire hors d’oeuvre hour and most of the reception taking pics.) 

    However, I am still glad we did the first look for a very practical reason: I walked down the aisle after 6 p.m. at my outdoor ceremony, and the sun was shining SOOO brightly into my soon-to-be-DH’s eyes that he couldnt really even see me! So, anyone who was looking at him to see his reaction to me would have only seen him squinting, and, if we had not done the first look, he really wouldn’t have had a good look at me at all until later in the ceremony when we turned to face each other for our vows. 

    Post # 41
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

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    @Cornflakegirl:  Oh my gosh! You looked amazing!! I love your dress and your “up do” as well as the look on your face. Gorgeous picture! 

    Post # 42
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Hadn’t heard of “first look” until I started wedding planning. Now I plan on doing a first look. I told him I wanted him to be the first person, outside parents/BMs, to see me vs everyone attending the ceremony and then him at the end of the walk. It just seemed more special to me. I want us to have a private, special moment to just take everything in. I also felt we would be more relaxed during the ceremony if we did a first look.

    Post # 43
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    And now to contradict what I posted a month ago…  we ARE doing a first look & the majority of our photos before the ceremony.

    My FH was talking to another firefighter who was married last year, she did a first look and all their photos before the wedding, then they didn’t have to miss out on all the party or be worried about time.

    FH was sold on the idea after that, and finally convinced me too.

     

     

    Post # 44
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

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    @luvmyDwight: Yay! Oh, resisting looking at each other wasn’t even an issue for us because it was really important to both of us to savor when we saw each other as I walked down the aisle. So, as we held hands, it was just about connecting sweetly. I wasn’t even planning on speaking, but when he said, “I love you so much…” I of course answered with, “I love you, too!” Our photographer and cinematographer were so great about helping us orchestrate and capture the First Touch, so I think that made a difference in having it all work out so smoothly.

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    @Brielle: Thank you!! I am so touched by your compliments! Makes me feel good after all those months pining away deciding which dress, hairstyle, makeup, etc. Eep! I really appreciate it. 🙂

    Post # 45
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Our venue only gives us 4 hours for ceremony & reception, so we are kinda of forced into the First Look; but I think it worksf or us both. 

    We both already live together, and agreed to not spend the night together the night before, so that first look is going to be OOBER special for us. Just a he & I moment, without everyone there. I need that. As the days get closer, I cant imagine not seeing him the entire day leading up to the wedding. 

    But to each their own. I honestly go back and forth about him seeing me in my dress, but I know that first shot of Patron together will be well worth it too! hahah! 

    Post # 46
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’m totally torn about this too. I know it would save a lot of time and there wouldn’t have to be a huge break between the ceremony and reception, but I can just imagine seeing my future hubby for the first time while standing at the end of the aisle. I think we won’t end up doing a first look, but it’s a tough decision!

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