Post # 1
My Fiance and I are very traditional, and have always said that we didn’t want a first look… but now I’m not so sure. I’m looking at the wedding timeline and I’m struggling to fit in pictures!
We are having a 2pm ceremony, and we aren’t having a cocktail hour (we don’t drink/we are saving money) so we are going right into the reception.
The ceremony and the reception are at the same place, so I don’t know how much of a gap I can fit in between the ceremony and reception so we could fit in pictures then.
Would it be totally rude to schedule a full hour between the ceremony and reception without providing entertainment for the guests so we can take pictures then? Do you think everyone will just wander out and watch us take out pictures?
Arghh, anyways. Who is doing a first look, and who isn’t and how are your day-of timelines looking?
Post # 3
We are in the same boat and getting married outside except I am not traditional. We are having our first look photos on Monday as I am worried the weather will not stay nice and I want outdoor photos. I don’t want to rush on our day and spend tons of time away from our guests so this way I can feel relaxed… take my time with photos to ensure I get the ones I want. And I get to wear my dress twice 🙂
Post # 4
It depends on where your venue is, but I’ve been to weddings where the ceremony and reception are at the same venue and they’ve had a 2-3 hour gap in between for photos. This is very common here and I’ve actually never met a couple who had a first look or photos before the ceremony (but obviously nothing against people who do). It’s just not something that’s caught on here in Australia.
Usually guests take the opportunity to go for a drink/coffee in between and catch up with eachother before heading back for the reception. In my experience a lot of people actually look forward to this time for an informal gathering. I’ve certainly never heard of any guests following the bridal party while they take their photos. It’s respected as your time together. As I said though, depends on your venue and if there’s somewhere nearby for guests to go.
I’m sure if it’s what you decide to do, your guests would want you to have the opportunity to get some beautiful photos in a way that suits you. My experience seems quite different to what’s commonly done in the US, but still thought it might be useful for you. Good luck!
Post # 5
I personally don’t think it rude. I would say more of an inconvenice for the guest. Maybe you can hire a panio player. I found one for $100 an hour to hep kill the time. But we are also having drinks during this hour. Also, we are doing first touch. Have you considered doing a first touch instead of first look?
Post # 6
I am reconsidering doing a first look because we will only have a photographer for a short amount of time. My Future Mother-In-Law is paying for the wedding, but for some reason didn’t think that a photographer was important. She baffles me. Anyways, I decided to pay on CC and don’t have too much money and only got 3 hours worth. I decided that as long as I have pictures from ceremony and the pictures during cocktail hour that I’ll be content. So, now I’m thinking that because I won’t have any (professional) reception photos that Fiance and I will do a quick first look.
Post # 7
Our ceremony and reception are at the same venue. We are going to do first look photos and family photos prior to the ceremony. We decided this for a couple different reason: we wanted to enjoy our cocktail hour, my hair and make-up will be fresh, our nieces/nephews shouldn’t be too crazy from sitting around, it could be weird to have our whole wedding (even if small) all there watching us get photos done, etc.
For your wedding, will there be anything for your guests to do during that hour? Food, drinks, music, games, etc.? Is your venue near the hotel or anything for them to do within that timeframe? I think it could be a little bit weird for guests to be hanging around with nothing going on but you taking photos.
Post # 8
I was thinking of setting up some lawn games – we are from a rural, extremely religious place so we aren’t serving any alcohol (plus our venue is a church), but there is a field adjacent to the church where we could set up some games like croquet, giant jenga, bean bag toss – just little simple things to keep people occupied with maybe some lemonade? And instead of taking pictures there we could go down the street to another local for pictures?
Post # 9
We are doing a fake first look because I like the idea of having some contact with Fiance before the wedding but we’re both pretty adamant about not actually seeing each other. So basically, he’ll be on one side of the door to my bridal suite and I’ll be on the other.
We’re hoping we can get groom/groomsmen and groom/family photos before and I know we’re for sure getting pictures of me and the bridesmaids and hopefully me and my family before so then after the ceremony we just have to get some quick shots of us and then us and the bridal party together. We’ll only have about 30 minutes to get photos done after before we need to head to the reception venue.
Post # 10
Im currently in the planning stages but I plan on getting a photograpgr who is willing to do a shoot after the wedding of me and my (then husband, eek!) in our dress/tux. I have a friend who did this in a random location, very low key, and the pictures are some of the best. That way we can worry about all of the traditional group photos and not worry about taking a long time with our guests waiting.
Post # 11
I’m still trying to decide on a first look or not. At first I was totally against it, then the idea grew on me and Fiance. I thought we had decided to do it so that we could have more time with our guests at cocktail hour and be less stressed about pictures after the ceremony, but then Fiance dad made a big deal about how Fiance should not do one. He said that seeing me walk down the aisle after not seeing me all day would be one of the most important moments of his life. (I feel like seeing me an hour before the ceremony all dressed in my wedding dress and veil would be the same feeling except without all the people watching) What I’m saying is, I think first looks are a great idea and I would totally do it, but I’m not sure that I will be able to convince Fiance to do it. I guess we’ll just try and get bridesmaid/bride pics and groomsman and grooms pics out of the way before and do the rest after…. : (