(Closed) First look or no??.

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Post # 3
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d waite…

Post # 5
1438 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would wait

Post # 6
5787 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think one is better than the other. You’ll have a hard time finding a bride on either side that regrets her decision. We did a first look and loved it. Make sure to ask your Fiance because lots of guys feel really strongly about waiting for the aisle (my Darling Husband on the other hand is the one who brought up a first look)

Post # 8
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ll be honest, I wasn’t convinced about the idea of a first look before the wedding.  The traditional side of me kind of wanted the first time Darling Husband saw me to be when I walked down the aisle.  But due to planning and coordinating of the day purposes, I decided it would be better to do a first look, even if it wasn’t necessarily my first choice.

Now, having done it, I am SO GLAD we did a first look.  I love our pictures from it and it was so nice to have some quality alone time with Darling Husband before the ceremony.  It was pretty much the only alone time we got all day so it was really special.  Despite having been hesitant about it at first, I’d definitely recommend a first look!

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ETA: Oh – and the walk down the aisle to Darling Husband in front of everyone and on my father’s arm was still incredibly special!

Post # 9
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was super against it but finally changed my mind a few weeks before the wedding, and I’m glad we did.  I thought I’d be all weepy-faced and be able to get that out of my system, but I wasn’t.  It was just SO NICE to be able to see him!  We got to have a few moments and take a bunch of pictures beforhand (which, turned out, was a really good idea since we didn’t know how much time we didn’t have outdoors after). 

Walking down the aisle with my dad was still the most memorable moment.  Then I did tear up, just a little – and so did he!

As for him – he didn’t care.  He respected my choice either way, he was going for logistics more than anything. 

Post # 10
3501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2002

were not married yet but were opting for the first look. something we really love, is pictures. and thats probably the main decision! we cant wait to see how theyll turn out and be able to have that moment together to take in the day and breathe.

i do know that i dont plan on wearing my veil or etc for the first look – so that when i do go down the aisle ill be somewhat different? and itll still be special! certainly the WOWEE THIS IS REALLY HAPPENING moment!

Post # 11
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am so happy that we decided to do a first look!  I understand that it is not right for everyone, but we loved it for the following reasons:

  • Logistically, it made much more sense.  We only had 5 hours for ceremony and reception time but we had the use of the venue all day.  Our ceremony was at 6pm but we were able to start pictures at 3pm to get them out of the way.  So, we were able to maximize the amount of time spent with our guests and get all the pictures we wanted.


  • loved having the personal time with my husband before the ceremony.  The anticipation of walking up to him was incredible.  When he saw me he cried.  I love that we were able to get pictures of both of our reactions.  If I was walking down the aisle the first time he saw me, the photog would only really be able to capture his reaction.  We were also able to hug, kiss, talk, and just be in love.  It was really intimate and I loved every second of it.


  • It calmed my nerves for the ceremony itself.  It didn’t make me any less excited for the ceremony but i was definitely more calm and collected.


  • Initially, I was concerned that it would take away from the ceremony but it didn’t.  In fact, my husband still cried when I walked down the aisle.  It was still beautiful, emotional, and personal.


  • In the end, it was the perfect move for us.  Our wedding was not traditional in any sense though.  We even stayed the night together the night before.  So, I understand why more tradtional people would be against it.  We loved it though!

Post # 12
23607 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

First Look! We loved it.

Post # 13
1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m so glad we did a first look! It was so special to get that moment alone and to have the photos of it. I’m also glad that I was able to really take it all in as I walked down the aisle instead of being 100% focused on his face the whole time. I’m glad I took a moment to see all the smiling faces of my loved ones too. Now that didn’t stop us from having huge smiles as we saw each other at the end of the aisle!

Post # 15
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This is the one thing I wish I could change about my wedding. I really wished I had done a first look.   While I loved that my Darling Husband saw me for the first time while I was walking down the aisle, we were so rushed after the ceremony to get all those pics that we really didn’t enjoy it and I think missed out on some pics as well. I think that time would have been better if he and I had had a “private” moment after the ceremony to celebrate instead of having to run around and get pics. I’m now pro first look!  Good luck!

Post # 16
4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We did one and I’m so glad! It was nice to get all those pictures out of the way before the ceremony, because let me tell you how much I was NOT interested in doing it afterwards! Plus, then all the best photo locations were full of guests enjoying cocktail hour! And I must admit that as I was walking down the aisle, I was so completely flustered and overwhelmed by things — cameras going off, people I hadn’t seen in forever all dressed up and grinning at me, trying not to trip — that I actually FORGOT to look at Darling Husband until I was nearly all the way up to the front! Whereas during the first look, we got to stare lovingly into each other’s eyes for a reallllly long time (because the photographer wanted to get a million shots of us with different lighting, lenses, etc. in the same location and position).

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