(Closed) First Look or not?

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    First look

    Traditional Walk Down the Asile

  • Post # 2
    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    We did a first look and having all the majority of the photos done was a huge relief! I feel like it also took the pressure off of walking down the aisle too .. I dont know if that makes any sense.

    Post # 3
    1127 posts
    Bumble bee

    I had this dilemma. I really didn’t want to do a first look but it honestly saved us so much time and money.  I’d rather have the photos.

    Post # 4
    1021 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    We’re waiting. We both want that moment of seeing each other when I walk down the aisle. He is going to take pictures with the guys beforehand, and I’m going to take pictures with the girls and my bridal portraits before the ceremony as well. Then we will do family portraits, a few bridal party shots, and photos of Fiance and I during cocktail hour. 

    Post # 5
    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    There’s no way I would’ve wanted my husband to see me before walking down the aisle!! I loved seeing that look on his face when he first saw me!! 🙂  That’s just me though and what I prefered.  I would imagine you’ll also be really busy getting ready during the hours leading up to the wedding, so you might find taking pics before might be a hassle.

    Post # 7
    829 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Im so glad we did a first look. Logistically had we not, we would not have gotten pictures outside at all because it down poured the moment all of our guests were inside for cocktail hour. I also don’t think we would have gotten half the pictures we did because that hour goes by FAST! And we still didn’t get all the pictures I wanted in before so we had to use some of the cocktail hour anyway. It just overall worked out so well for us and it didn’t take away from anything. DH still cried like a baby 😉 (I actually think had we waited for our ceremony to first see each other he would have tried to hold back the tears, so I got a more genuine reaction when it was just us and I preferred that)

    Post # 8
    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

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    somandasaid :  Did you ask your Fiance what he wanted? I was considering having a first look for the same reasons as Most (time efficiency and Number of Photos) but My Fiance was dead set against it… he didn’t want to feel the rush of emotions twice… and as most will tell you the emotions are just as strong even after a first look. We are getting married at 6 PM and doing the groom and his groommen in the afternoon and me and my bridesmaids after that giving us a bit more time to prepare… then after the ceremony and with better lighting we will do the wedding party and family pictures…

    Post # 9
    1066 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I did not want to do a first look at all. However, after we got our timeline we decided to do it. It enables us to take all of the pics with the family and bridal party before the wedding. After the ceremony our bridal party and family can relax and enjoy cocktail hour while we take our couples photos. We want to maximize our dance time. We were told it could shave a whole 45 min off the reception if we wait until after the ceremony to take all of our pics. 

    Post # 10
    3437 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

    Fiance was completely against it and I didn’t have strong feelings either way but now I’m kind of glad we won’t be doing a first look. Planning to get a couple photos with bridesmaids, parents and my son before the ceremony. 

    Post # 11
    343 posts
    Helper bee

    Although first looks can produce lovely photos, in the end they are an artifically staged photo-op. If you want the first time you see each other to be natural, authentic, and spontaenous – that is much harder to experience with an event that is staged.

    If your photographer is very skilled at staging, and you and Fiance are comfortable in front of a camera this may not be as large a concern.  Or, if your taste is more towards “produced” or “staged” pictures vs a photojournalistic style.

    Also, consider your philosophical approach to photographs and the role you think they should play in life overall.  I personally did not see the point of having a lot of pictures of us unmarried in our wedding finery – basically becoming a prop ourselves as we stage being married for the camera. Also – for me, it was more important to experience that moment with Fiance in all its “realness” even if that meant it wasn’t ultimately captured in a photo.  If getting a photo of the moment is absolutely vital – even if it is a “produced” less natural moment – you will want the first look. No matter what a photog promises, capturing what’s real means real life might get in the way of a shot.

    What clinched me not doing a first look is watching a video of one go terribly wrong. if you google “huffington post first look 3 reasons” it will bring up an article wherein the author explains why she does not like first looks. There is a video in the body of the article showing how bad first looks can be when they go wrong. I’m not linking it here because it’s unkind to the couple, who are real people probably with an awesome marriage. So if you want to watch you’ll have to do the work of googling it; but I do  recommend you do before deciding if a first look is or you.


    Post # 12
    1900 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

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    somandasaid :  We did a first look and highly recommend it! You get to have this moment more intamate. Just the two of you and the photographers to catch the moment. Have two photographers – one catches your look, the other your husbands. You’ll be more relaxed after, you can get all the other photos out of the way – which mean less stress for you and no wait time for your guest – huge bonus.  

    Post # 13
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I’m not doing a first look for similar reasons as you gave, but I think in your situation it makes the most sense to do a first look since then you can have your pictures out of the way and make a seamless transition from ceremony to reception. Also, since your ceremony is so late, depending on how long it is, you might not have that much daylight left to get good pictures outside.

    Post # 14
    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I am doing a first look, the logistics just make sense. My fiance and I rather enjoy the cocktail hour with family/friends instead of wasting that hour taking too many pictures. also we dont want to have to beat the sunset to get decent pictures. We are spending way too much money to not enjoy ourselves and miss out on our own party lol. everyone is different however, im not traditional or old school. we have been together way too long to care about having that “magical” moment down the aisle. 

    Post # 15
    10275 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    The whole walk down the aisle is every bit as staged as a first look would be. The first time your husband sees you is the first time he sees you whether it’s for a first look or walking down the aisle. It’s still your wedding day, there’s still a lot of emotion, and it’s ALL a photo-op.

    We did a first look and I’m so glad we did. It just makes so much more sense logistically. Plus, I think it makes seeing each other for the first time that day a little more initimate than walking down the aisle with a ton of people staring at you and then just jumping right into the ceremony. With a first look you get time to process you emotions, talk with your partner. and you get awesome pictures.

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