(Closed) First look or wait until you walk down the aisle?

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: When will you see your FI on the wedding day?

    First look

    Walking down the aisle

  • Post # 17
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    Bee Keeper

    We’re doing a first look for several reasons:

    1. We’d prefer to do photos prior to the ceremony to save time and so we can head straight to the reception.
    2. As much as we love the idea of walking down the aisle as the first time we see each other, we know we won’t have any private time to talk/kiss/hug. I don’t want the first time we see each other to be in front of our 250 guests…it’s too special.
    3. It will calm my nerves and (hopefully) reduce crying to see him beforehand.
    4. I’ve seen others’ first look photos, and they are AMAZING! Seriously, they make my heart melt.

    I hope this helps!

    Post # 18
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    While I see the benefits of the time together before the ceremony, we’ll be waiting. Pictures of the first look always look so posed to me, and I feel like there’s an awkward “ta da! now what…” element to the first look. Maybe it’s just me that’s awkward though! Besides, he’s terribly traditional 🙂 It’s a personal decision, so just do what will make you the most comfortable!

    Post # 19
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    First look…although that decision is only between Fiance and I right now.  I have no idea how the other family members will react to that decision.  Two reasons being that we want photographs done BEFORE the reception and ceremony and both of us will be way too nervous to wait until the aisle.

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2021

    P.S. I’ve heard the original reason why the bride/groom did not see one another before the wedding was because the bride was a piece of property being given away by her father to the groom for a dowry.  And if the groom were to see the bride before the ceremony, he may decide he doesn’t like or want her, so she was kept hidden!

    Post # 21
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    Bee Keeper

    I agree completely with jisikah.

    Post # 22
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2021 - Oakland Manor

    I didn’t vote… because we waited till the aisle – but I so WISH we had done a first look! It would have been just as romantic if not more so (b/c once you’re at the top of the aisle you have to get down to business). We would have had more time for formal photos – which would have been nice considering the disappearing light of our evening wedding.

    So, if I could go back and have a do over – first look is what I would choose!

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We’ve both always dreamed of the moment of me walking down the aisle towards him, so we’re not doing the first look. Fortunately, we both agreed and our day-of logistics are conducive to it (the dreaded gap between ceremony and reception is handy for pictures!)

    Post # 24
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    He won’t see me in my dress before I walk down the aisle….but I do want to spend a little bit of time with him that day, maybe a little bit first thing in the morning or something.  I think I would need to see him and het a gauge on how he is feeling and I might need to get some confidence from him.  Just a little reminder that I am about to marry the love of my life.

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    Walking down the aisle.

    Am I the only one ok with ugly cry face? I’m more concerned with experiencing the moment than having the pictures to prove it.

    Post # 26
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    At first I was dead set against him seeing me AT ALL before I walked down the aisle. As I began to think about it (and talk with photographers) we’ve decided that the ‘first look’ would be a good idea. I can get his honest reaction that way as opposed to him holding it all in because he’s standing in front of everybody. I think it’d also make for really special ‘just us’ pictures (our last before we’re married!). Plus, all of the photographers I talked to said that it is SOOO much easier to take some photos before the wedding and then some after so we don’t have to wait so long after the ceremony to get to the reception (and our guests don’t have to wait so long for the party to start!!).

    Bella 

    Post # 27
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We’re waiting until the walk down the aisle. He is going come and get me half-way down the aisle, so we’re both excited ot see each other for the first time then.

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @Helenberrycrunch, I’m OK with the crying face too.  It’s a genuine emotion and I don’t mind at all if some of our pictures reflect that. 

    I’m not doing a first look.  We have a very small wedding party and aren’t doing that many pictures anyway, so I don’t really need it for photography reasons.  I do want his first glimpse of me to be walking towards him to become his wife…and he wants it that way too.

    Post # 29
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    Well said, Neva!

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We’re doing first look photos. It was really out of necessity. Our ceremony is at 7pm and theres no way I’m missing my entire cocktail hour. Of course I’ve never dreamed about him seeing me for the first time coming down the aisle. He had to convince me not to show him which two dresses I was torn between.

    Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We’re doing the first look. My photographer really talked to us about it and explained how she would like to capture every single moment and have the time to get all of the shots we need/want, etc. I was skeptical at first, but I’m so excited to be doing a first look now. Plus I’m hoping it’ll calm my nerves and keep me from being super emotional during the ceremony :]

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