(Closed) First look or wait until you walk down the aisle?

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: When will you see your FI on the wedding day?

    First look

    Walking down the aisle

  • Post # 32
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    457 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

    I voted walk down the aisle but only because my Fiance wants it.  I wanted a first look. =)

    Post # 33
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think Miss Scarlet and I share the same view- I’m also under the impression that first looks seem kind of staged…

    I love the look of F.L. pictures but I think that having a photoshoot before that big reveal at the end of the aisle will take away from the excitement. (I’m not really an ugly crier, more like a rediculous cheesy grinner, and I’m ok with pictures reflecting that)

    We’ll probably steal some time to see each other before we get dressed but I hope it’s more like a private moment than a professional photo shoot. 

    Post # 36
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Those pictures are way too cute!!!

    We’re going to do a first look. We want to have a private moment that is just us and this seemed like the perfect way to do it!

    Post # 37
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Honestly, I’ve never seen a first look pic that made my heart melt. I get the whole idea that it is romantic and whatnot, and I totally see how handy it could be to get all the pics taken care of beforehand. But, like another poster above me said, I don’t think I realized how traditional my guy was until we started planning this wedding! I know he is really looking forward to seeing me as I walk down the aisle, and I’m really looking forward to it too! Nobody except my mom and dad have seen my dress, so it will be a surprise to everyone. Giving up that perfect moment just for a bunch of pics that may or may not turn out well (and none that have ever made my heart sing) just isn’t worth it to us.

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I really want to stick to the traditional guns of waiting until I walk down the isle but is just seems so practical to have a first look because of time constraints and what not. So we are kind of undecided. 

    Post # 39
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Logistically, a first look would be best.  And I was kinda torn!  But Fiance absolutely insisted on the aisle (and he hasn’t *insisted* on much in this whole process) so the aisle it is.  And you know what?  I’m so happy about it!!  🙂

    Post # 40
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We are going aisle.. it’s such a special moment, and I know that yes, you get that in a first look, but when wlaking down the aisle, it is the moment of knowing that as you walk, you are taking your last steps as a single woman, and walking towards the man of your life.  I cant imagine doing it any other way.  And although everyone say6s you cant get time alone later.. it’s all what you want! I am a photographer, and many times, brides and grooms plan for an hour, or a drink alone before going to the reception, and it’s always perfect, and private.  Your day is what you want it to be, and people can wait for you if ou want a private minute later, go for it!!

    Post # 41
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    We didn’t do a first look.  It kinds sucked not getting to see/hear from him all day (except for a cute drunk dial at 2am after his bachelor party), but he is a stickler for tradition, and I didn’t care either way.  Everyone was good about keeping us updated and making sure we didn’t run into each other all day. 

    Our photog doesn’t typically do first looks unless requested- we still had tons of time for pictures and had almost 1/2 of cocktail hour with the guests like we wanted! 

    And it was the most amazing moment to see him all teared up when I walked down the aisle!

    Post # 42
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    This thread is melting my heart!!  I am SO conflicted over the first look/walk down the aisle.  My whole heart wants it to be when we go down the aisle (as does my FI), but because of ceremony/reception timing, it is LOOKING like we will be have a 6 pm ceremony…and a fall wedding in New England in late October is sort of all about the foliage.  So we are thinking for logistics purposes, we may do the first look and all our formals with a beautiful fall backdrop.  

    But I will feel like I’m missing out on seeing him as I first walk in!  I would love to hear more from people who have already chosen one way or the other!!  Either that or a really good way to replicate that moment.  Although I do love many first look photos, I don’t like creeping up from behind.  I think part of the moment up the aisle is so breathtaking is because he gets to see the whole package!!

    Post # 43
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    We definitely want to save our first look for my walk down the aisle. I love Fiance so much and I cannot wait to see his face when he first sees me, with all the love and support of our friends and family around us. I really love how Mrs. Tiramisu described it as an irreplacable memory of the day. I think that missing the cocktail hour for pictures will be well worth it when I get butterflies from seeing my groom standing at the alter, in front of our loved ones, waiting for me. I don’t think I’d get the same feelings if we were busy taking pictures all morning. Plus, even though we’re not really traditional, I feel like this is one tradition that we wanted to follow. To me this tradition will help me feel “bride-ish” or “wedding-ish” haha. I’m definitely going to cry, but I’m a crier so this won’t surprise me haha, I’d be crying either way ( :

    Post # 44
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    we are seeing each other as i walk down the aisle. while the first look photos are all SUPER cute, i just cant give up that moment when the doors open, and i see him staring back at me from the altar. its one of the things i have dreamed about so this was non-negotiable.

    it also helps that we have a ton of time between the ceremony and the cocktailhour/reception (230 ceremony, 5pm cocktail hour) it was venue and chapel rules so really couldnt be helped. so we will be taking pictures during the gap and STILL not miss the cocktail hour 🙂

    Post # 45
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @LGenz: I agree I really wanted to show Fiance my dress too just to get some imput 🙂

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