(Closed) first look or wait

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Did/Would you do a first look? Why or Why not?

    Yes! because...

    No, because...

  • Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We’re not doing the first look.  I guess I might be superstitious about this, but I just believe it’s bad luck. Lol, I know it’s ridiculous, but I don’t want to chance it, and believe me when I say that there are times when the oddest things just happen to happen to me. 

    We have an 1 1/2hr cushion for pictures during the cocktail hour, so I’m not really worried about missing pictures, and I hate being in front of the camera much longer anyway. 

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I don’t want them because that’s not your husband in your first look photos, it’s still your fiance! Call me anal, but that’s pretty much it for me. Lol.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think we’re going to do one. Our wedding starts pretty late (ceremony at 8pm), so there’s no way I want to break for photos after the thing gets started.

    Post # 20
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    NO because…

    My fiance doesn’t want to. It is important to him, and that makes it important to me. 

    Post # 21
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

    Yes, because it is only going to be the two of us anyway. So this will make it easier for the photographer to get a picture of his reaction, and of me walking down the aisle.

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I am personally excited to do a first look, but I have yet to ask the Fiance what he thinks. As an only child, he’s not big on wedding things (no sisters or close female fam), so it should be interesting to see what he thinks. My reasons would be the extra time with family we’ll get after the ceremony, the excitement on his face and the emotion he’ll show when it’s just him and I instead of him, me, and 275 friends and fam, and just a little bit of alone time to get those hugs and kisses greener11 mentioned. Now wait, he’ll come back all traditional on me Tongue out

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @greener11: We’ve decided to do a first look. Initially, Fiance wanted to be completely surprised at the ceremony, but we decided that we’ll have more time to absorb/savor the moment of seeing eachother for the first time on our wedding day if we do the first look. The special moment will be just as special and caught on camera, but with less of an audience and more time to be excited and talk to eachother. He’ll still be super excited as I’m walking down the aisle, but we’ll have let some of our nervous butterflies out and taken some photos beforehand. We’ll also have more time to spend with our guests since we’ll have taken a good portion of the photos already 🙂

    Post # 24
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We also decided on doing a first look. I just want to have a moment alone with him and just take it all in. Were also having an evening wedding so we want to get some shots while its still light out.

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    @littlemissmango:  I agree totally.  I want all of my pictures of us on our wedding day to be us married. Also, he never really comments on how I look (unless I say “hey jerkface, I just got my hair did! Tell me how pretty I am, dammit!”) so I’d be a little afraid of a disappointing “first look.”  I’d like the first time he sees me to be with all the drama of me walking down the aisle (we’re having an almost candlelight ceremony) when he can’t help but be overwhelmed by emotion. 

    I totally get why people do it though.  The pics I’ve seen have been awesome. 

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    It’s special either way. It’s just as great to save the moment as it is to have a first look–you’ll like the one you choose the most! It’s not always convenient scheduling-wise to do a first look, you can have alone time with your groom right after the ceremony to bliss out, I’ve seen tons of great photos of groom’s faces as they see their brides for the first time walking down the aisle, you’ll be 100% focused on your groom during the ceremony, etc. etc. All things considered, it’s a personal call, one that boils down to when and how long you’d like to take photos!

    Post # 27
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I was set on doing a first look because of the picture issue and I thought my Fiance was on board with it, but I asked him again the other day and he said he wants to see me for the first time walking down the aisle, then I must have made a face and he changed his mind; he just wants to make me happy. I think we are going to do it his way, since I am mostly getting my way for everything else.

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    DH was with me when I bought me dress, and saw me in it less than a week before the wedding (with the jewelry and shoes and veil) when I was modeling it for my mother (that’s what he gets for not knocking). So there wasn’t going to be a big reveal anyway. But that’s just how we roll.

    Part of me is sad, though, because I feel like I might have taken away that “take his breath away” moment. That said, he tells me it was still very special for him to see me come down the aisle, because for all the times he had already seen me in my dress, that time he knew I walking to him to become his wife. He says he was seeing me for the first time. 

     

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I LOVED our first look! We did it b/c it’s traditional for Jews to see eachother before the ceremony so we can sign the Ketubah, but I would do it all over again even if I wasn’t Jewish. It was such a special moment to have him all to myself the first time I saw him on wedding day, and to be able to talk to him, kiss him, hug him, without a huge crowd watching. Plus we were able to have more time for pictures! It also didn’t make the walking down the aisle any less special, I was walking down the aisle to be married, of course that was still a big thing!

    Post # 30
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I thought about it, but I just CAN’T get over that moment where the doors open and we see each other for the first time as I walk in.  It’s that one moment I’ve been thinking of since we started planning our wedding & it just won’t be as “magical” for me if we see each other before that moment. 

    I do think that the first look photos come out really nice though. 🙂

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    WE did a first look and it was one of my favorite moments as well. Unlike the seeing hihm for the first time at the aisle i was able to run up and snuggle and kiss and hug him (and got to whisper how cute he is *hee hee*) It was just a magical moment you can have but be more interactive with it.!!

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