(Closed) first look or wait

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Did/Would you do a first look? Why or Why not?

    Yes! because...

    No, because...

  • Post # 32
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    No because …. hubby said so.  lol  He wants that special moment of seeing me walk down the isle for the first time.  HE wont even look at wedding dresses because he doesn’t want a prenotion thought or mental picture. 

    I think its cute – I did want the pictures before, but I can definitely appreciate his feelings on this one.  Have you talked to him about how he feels?

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Strike that, reread post … i see what he said.  Hence the poll.  : giggles:  lol 

    Post # 34
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Ya I want for my favorite pics for us to be as husband and wife. Pictures with my fiance were my engagement pics. Now with that said…

    We debated for months about it, but eventually decided that convenience shouldn’t play a part on our wedding day.

    Post # 35
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We did not do a first look and it was beautiful. We had not seen each other since the rehearsal, the night before, so we were antsy to see ecah other the whole day. We did, in fact text and talk on the phone, throughout the night and day of the wedding. When I walked down the aisle and saw him for the first time I cried (as soon as I made it to him). He began to cry too. It was so sentimental and I wouldn’t change it for anything.

    Post # 36
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I want the first time I see him on our wedding day to be at the end of the aisle waiting for me. I just think it will be more emotional.

    Post # 37
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Convienence all the way. Going to have the first look before the ceremony.

    Post # 38
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    299 posts
    Helper bee

    I love the idea of a first look, but I really want that moment of seeing SO at the end of the aisle.

    Post # 39
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    We had no choice.  We got married 10 yrs. (and 3 kids) after DH proposed and, since he randomly said “We’re doing this now”, and hauled us off to the JoP, he totally saw what I was wearing.  Didn’t matter … he had seen me wear the outfit a few times before!  I wore my favorite top and skirt that were in my closet! 

    Post # 41
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Yes because we both want to have that special moment together and the photos/video we get will let us remember that memory and moment forever!

    Post # 42
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I still need to talk to my fiance about this to get his thoughts. But my initial impression is that the “first look” photos are just a bunch of photos for the sake of getting in as many as you can. For goodness sake girls, you are not even married yet and you are taking these shots as if the ceremony has already occurred. I don’t know, call me traditional, but there is something special about walking down that aisle and having everyone (including your fiance) holding their breath in anticipation.

    Post # 43
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Fiance and I actually had this discussion earlier today. He basically said that he would be willing to either a) do a first look, pictures of us, then ceremony and pictures with the bridal party after, or b) do pictures of just girls and just guys before, the ceremony, then pictures of us and everyone else after

    He basically said that he didn’t want to do a first look, then get pictures of us, then get pictures with the whole bridal party, then the ceremony, because by the time we got to the ceremony I would be “old hat” HAHA

    Really, it would be nice to have pictures of us before the ceremony, but if we are ONLY doing us and none with anybody else, then it won’t actually save us any time…. so I think I’m going to give up on this one and go with tradition. 

    Post # 44
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    oh wow, this is split 50/50. I voted no. 

    I used to be a total yes to the idea of a first look. My photographer made me think of it as a possibility because of the time issue between the wedding and the reception, and the special moment we’d have together, just the two of us.

    But, I ended up changing my mind. My fiance’s only real serious wish on the wedding day is to have the first time he sees me be when I walk down the aisle. One of the bees did a post about this and it made me think about it a lot more. There are so few “wow” moments in our lives, and I want that to be one of them. I get really emotional just thinking about it. It’s like closing the gap for the last time between a man and a woman. 

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing bee

    Speaking from a guest’s perspective, I am all about the first look. The reason being is that the couple doesn’t spend time away from their guests.

    I have heard from many brides who have said they chose a first look and did not regret it at all since they still found the ceremony to be just as special and were able to get all emotions out of the way beforehand and able to enjoy their reception instead of showing up late, the latter of which many guests find to be rude.

    Post # 46
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I just saw that you made your decision, but I’m going to throw in my experience anyway. 🙂

    We did one, at the photographer’s urging. I still haven’t decided how I feel about it–there were pros and cons.

     

    Pros: 

    -It calmed me down a lot to see Fiance before walking down the aisle.

     

    Cons:

    -Despite being calmed down, I was STILL pretty nervous, and I look stiff and awkward in most of the “first look” photos

    -It was not really a “private moment” for us, as the photographer and several friends were watching

    -It meant getting ready about an hour earlier than I would have had to otherwise, which cut into the time I could have spent hanging out with family and friends. 

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