(Closed) First Look Poll: Before the ceremony or wait until the ceremony?

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: First Look: Before the ceremony or wait until the ceremony?

    Do it before the wedding- just the bride, groom and photographer

    Wait until the ceremony

  • Post # 17
    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m another who was happy we did a first look.  Logistically it made everything SO much easier.  It was also really nice to have a few minutes sort-of alone together before everything really got started.  Walking down the “aisle” (it was outside) with my dad was still really special.  He was still emotional and so was I. 

    It’s like – a guy in a tux isn’t your groom until he’s standing up there with his best man and a pastor.  You aren’t really his bride until you come walking towards him on your father’s arm (or alone, or whatever).  That’s when it’s all real – you’re going to get married.  RIGHT NOW. 

    Post # 18
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I want to do a first look to allow us to have fun at cocktail hour (I want to play lawn games!), but my Fiance wants our first look (while we’re all fancied up) to be at the ceremony…sigh…he’s made so few requests about this wedding that I’m not going to consider pushing it. No formal first look for us. 

    At the very least he agreed not to be worried about us seeing each other the day of. We have some decorations we want to put up together and I’m hoping the photographers will be able to catch some of that. I think it’s romantic to have us in casual clothes setting up together.

    Post # 19
    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We did a first look and I totally recommend it!! We had a 7:00 ceremony and a cocktail reception so it made more sense but I also love the whole idea.  It was the most emotional and special part of the day that was only shared with a few family members who were near us.  The photos turned out amazing and it took a lot of pressure off us.  I felt far less nervous about walking down the aisle, although I was still emotional seeing him at the end of the aisle.  

    ETA: Oh and we got to spend our entire wedding day together!! I didn’t want to spend that day apart from him!

    Post # 20
    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I tell every engaged couple I know to GO FOR THE FIRST LOOK! It will be magical, I guarantee it.

    My husband was hesitant about the first look at first also. But it is wonderful for so many reasons:

    – The first moment is between the both of you, no audience. So your emotions will probably be more authentic. I know I would have been so embarassed to cry in front of everyone!

    – That being said, you will also be more comfortable during the ceremony.

    – You look the most beautiful at the beginning with your hair and makeup the freshest.

    – Great photos!

    Best of luck choosing!

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    Post # 21
    7941 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @lilbluebird:  Honestly, our first look pictures are SO cute and emotional that I recommend everyone to do them. It’s nice to get the first look pictures without other people being caught in the background

    Agreed. It was such a special and one on one moment that I cherish dearly. To have not had that moment and those conversations alone with my soon to be husband would not have been the same. My photographer and videographer captured some awesome things and we are both so glad we did it. Also it saved us a great deal in time later on for photos and we were able to join our guests much sooner than anticipated.

    Truth, it did NOT make walking down the aisle to my DH any less special. Frankly he still got emotional, I still got emotional and he even said “wow” outloud (yes, it was captured).

    Post # 22
    178 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    we both decided to just wait until the ceremony.  But I did kick the idea around to do a first look, but ultimately, the old tradition of seeing each other for the first time when my parents walk me down the aisle won

    Post # 23
    634 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I cannot wait to do first look photos with my fiance! Just trying to find the best place at our ceremony location for the best pics. I will probally be emotional so i would rather not be crying in front of all of our families!

    Post # 24
    3997 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We’re waiting until the ceremony because I’ve always been really excited about seeing his reaction as he sees me all bridal for the first time coming down the aisle (: We might do a “first look” type thing quickly before the ceremony where we hold hands around a corner or something.

    Post # 25
    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I really want to interact with FH before the ceremony to calm our nerves, but I don’t want a first look. I’m thinking about staying on opposite sides of a door, or blindfolds or something like that.

    Post # 26
    2 posts
    • Wedding: October 2006

    As a wedding photographer I’ve shot this moment both ways and they are equally romantic and special, its just a matter of what makes you feel most comfortable. Some couples prefer the intimacy of seeing each other alone (I make myself as scarce as possible while still capturing the image- see above!) and having a private moment, others really relish the excitement of the entrance and the wonderful sense of community it can lend to that moment. Whichever way you choose will be exactly the way it should be. 🙂


    Post # 27
    2973 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @jeanniemarieaz:  we are really traditional so we will not sleep together the night before the ceremony and he will have to wait until the ceremony to see me. we will take photos right after the ceremony while our guests are enjoying cocktail hour.

    Post # 28
    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It wasn’t until we talk with our photographer that we decided to do a first look. I was adament about waiting, and didn’t think walking down to him would have the same affect. My Fiance thought it would be different and more emotional to do the first look, and we wouldn’t be there for hours after the wedding.

    Post # 29
    68 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We did it before the ceremony and it was the best decision of the day. For the non-romantic reasons, it really is AWESOME to have all of the pictures done and you can thoroughly enjoy your cocktail hour and/or reception. We had a 5 hour reception and it felt like 5 minutes, so I couldn’t have imagined taking time away from that.

    In addition to logic, it was so amazing. Our photographers were in the background taking pictures, but it was just me and him. His reaction was amazing, we got to talk, we were able to see where the other one was emotionally for the day. I’m so glad we had this one on one time because I honestly barely remember walking down the aisle. It was so intense and there were so many people, I was having ADD all over the place. lol.

    Before the ceremony, we both said that if we didn’t do a first look, we would have seriously regretted it. I felt like I had 3 extra hours of wedding fun since the pictures weren’t rushed and I could hang out with family, siblings and the groomsmen…which some were mutual friends. I didn’t like the idea of ‘hiding’ up until the ceremony. My nerves would have been shot!


    Post # 30
    68 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Also wanted to say that it really depends on you! For me, I needed to see him first. For some people, it might take away something special.

    Post # 31
    275 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We plan to do a first look as well.

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