Post # 1
I was previously on another thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/just-curious-what-your-doing-to-make-your-wedding-easier-on-your-guests and I’m seeing quite a few people that did a “first look” and preferred that more.
We had originally (and at this point still are) planning to do the first look – as I walk down the aisle. However, now I’m concerned about the 3-45 minute interval between ceremony and reception with the photos.
Has anyone done a First Look and regretted it? Or Vice Versa? I’m looking into pros and cons at this point, to see if maybe a First Look and pictures before is something we should look into???
Post # 3
This was a thread a few days ago and I think you will get a lot of good feedback on both these threads
My response was
It was the best idea!
1) We had a moment to talk! and we still got the first look moment. It didnt change because we did in in private in a room vs down an aisle
2) Pictures were not rushed
3) We got to enjoy more of our wedding!
4) I still cried like a baby walking down the aisle. In no way does it take away from the walk. When I saw him, it was only the first time that day and the first time he saw me in my dress. When I walked down the aisle it was for the purpose of getting married. It is still very emotional to think “He is waiting there to marry me.” And besides, everyone else is watching you walk and seeing you for the first time all done up.
Post # 4
@Summy00: hey the first thread that lefeymw mentioned was mine and I got alot of great feed back from all the ladies. Unfortunately, my Fiance doesn’t wanna budge and he does not want to do the First Look, he’s very traditional hihi. Hopefully the thread will help you out.
Post # 5
We did a first look and I’ve never regretted it. Pros: shorter gap between ceremony and reception (you can even join your cocktail hour if you want), hair/makeup is fresh, an you get to spend a few minutes of (semi) alone time together before everything gets underway.
Cons… none, really. I know lots of people have this romantic idea about wanting their husband to see them in all their bridal glory for the first time as they walk down the aisle. But in my case, we got married outdoors and due to the glare of the sun and people standing up, I didn’t get a good view of my husband until I was halfway down the aisle. So I would have missed the look on his face (incidentally, my photographers took pictures of him tearing up as I made my entrance, so seeing each other before definitely didn’t detract from the moment.
Post # 6
Great! Thank ya’ll so much! I guess I should have looked before I started another one!
I’m going to look at those, and I definitely think it’s worth talking to FH about. In a way, it seems more sincere. Getting the first look — just the two of you, in private. It would be a moment you would share forever.
Sometimes I think I’m too impressionable! Bahahah. It’s definitely something we’ll both have to agree on. I’m taking a look now!
Post # 7
We loved the first look, for all the reasons that mentioned @lefeymw above :-). Also I have a super large family and those photos took up a lot of the cocktail hour time already! We liked it because it gave us a chance to have a quiet moment together and we really enjoyed spending some extra time taking fun pictures with the wedding party.
Post # 8
we are doing a first look… partly because there is no way to avoid seeing each other before the ceremony and partly because it’s the best way to guarantee that we get the looks captured on camera.
i have seen so many first look photos that are so sweet and touching. i love them.
this is my favorite one:
Post # 9
To me, there are no cons to doing a first look. We did it, loved it, and in no way did it take away from walking down the aisle!!!! We also got most of our pics out of the way then, which was great since everything was in one place and we didn’t have a cocktail hour
Post # 10
I would do it! We didnt do one because my husband had it in his head that he couldnt see me before the ceremony. Then a few months after our wedding told me he really wished we had done it because we didnt get to eat any of our cocktail hour food!
Post # 11
@MrsSl82be: How did your guests handle not having a cocktail hour?
It’s definitely something that is going to be discussed with FH and photographer/close friend tonight! I’m actually really excited about it! I loved reading everyone’s comments!
Post # 12
I originally was VERY against doing the first look because I wanted to capture his face walking down the aisle. But then the photographer put into perspective for me that I won;t get many pictures in our one hour cocoktail hour and he was right. We did the first look and I am SO happy we did. Not only did we have more time to do photos, we felt much more comfortable at the wedding when we did got married. And my husband still cried during the entire ceremony even though he had just seen me 10 minutes prior. I asked him about it and he said it’s different seeing you walk down the aisle to become his wife with all the music and everything. Plus, I LOVE that we got this picture!!!!
Post # 13
@Tswife4ever: That is BEAUTIFUL.
I love that! I haven’t even seen all of your pictures, but I would think that is the best one. I have goosebumps!
Post # 14
@Summy00: Thanks so much!
Post # 15
FH is on board:) 🙂 🙂 He says he think’s it be a great idea. So — I’m going to talk with my photog, and I think this will be our plan. I’m pretty excited! <3
Post # 16
I was so glad we did one. We had plenty of time to do family portraits, and bridal party shots… plus we were able to enjoy much more of our cocktail hour than we would have otherwise. I’m so glad we didn’t spend a bunch of time having a photoshoot after the cermeony, I really wanted to get to the party and socialize with my guests!