(Closed) First look – to do or not to do??

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
42 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

We thought about a first look, all the rational is there, it makes the most sense to do but I just can’t bring myself to do it. I want the “classic” first seeing each other walking down the aisle. That being said, I’ve never heard someone say they regret there first look. I think its just a personal decision.

Post # 4
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We are doing it. We aren’t traditional. We aren’t getting married in a church so there is no coming through the double doors. I don’t see how his first look will be any different before or during the ceremony. It should be the same look right? Probably not for my Fiance. I doubt he will get emotional in front of all of his manly Irish cousins. I’m sure he will react way differently in private. ^_^ Plus, it will give us time to get lots of great shots before the ceremony and then we don’t have to make our guests wait an hour or so while we are off getting photos done. 

Post # 5
1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We did a first look for the same reason…wanted to get all the family portraits and stuff out of the way before the ceremony.

It was such an emotional moment…my husband started crying and couldn’t catch his breath for like 15 minutes…I’m glad it was private, between the two of us.  It would have been too overwhelming to experience that in front of a roomful of people.

That moment between the two of us is my favorite memory of the day.

Post # 6
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We’re doing it for the same reasons listed in the posts above. BUT, if you’re totally against it, then why do it? I don’t feel like it takes away from the feeling at all, though. I think it makes it more intimate and special because it’s just the two of you – which is the point of the whole day. He’ll still have a reaction during the ceremony of course. Different contexts. I don’t know anyone that has regretted doing it – I do know of a few people that wish they had so they didn’t spend so much time taking pictures.

Post # 7
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My experience was that the first look was my favorite part of the day!  I really enjoyed seeing my husband before the ceremony.  I was really nervous before seeing him, but afterwards, I was calm and felt prepared to get married. We also had our ceremony and reception at the same location.  The practicality of taking pictures before the wedding ceremony was really what pushed us to make the decision to do a first look, but I’m so glad we did!

Post # 8
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We did a first look. The first time you see each other is special no matter where you are. It really helped to take away some of the nerves, plus it was great to have it as a really special moment of just the two of us (plus a team of photographers and cinematographers, LOL!) rather than us plus 150 guests staring at us. I wouldn’t have traded that hour or so alone for anything, it was amazing.

Post # 11
3613 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s not a silly dilemma at all! There have actually been several threads about it. Maybe you can search the boards for “first look” and browse some of them. Bees have brought up several pros and cons and have shared their own experiences and shared their first look photos. You can take a look at these and decide if it’s right for you:






Post # 13
16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@Ree723: It’s the photos on Weddingbee that got me REALLY excited about our first look, too! 🙂

Post # 14
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

As a wedding photographer I can tell you that my clients who chose to do a first look LOVE the images from that part of the day. It is private, just between the couple, and very intimate and beautiful. Plus, when you walk down the isle you don’t lose the excitement, it just transforms to a different sort of excitement. I don’t know any couple who has regretted the decision to do a first look. I would say go for it! Talk is over with your fiancee and and do what makes the both of you most comfortable.

Post # 15
3364 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Im anticipating the First Look! I need it before going down that aisle to meet him! 

Post # 16
1056 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

For me…I want to wait until I walk down that isle.  That’s how I’ve always thought of it in my head.  I think my man is a little less traditional but oh well.  Go with your gut and your heart.  Can you take pictures of each other afterwards?  You can take pics of youself in the cool spots and the same for him at different times.  I don’t think they should pressure you at all…go w/your guts and still go for the great photos.  If you miss 15 min’s of time w/people so what you have the time at dinner to mingle!   Good luck!

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