Post # 1
I’ve been debating the first look idea. I saw the thread with the gorgeous pictures and everything but my husband really wants to wait to see me until I walk down the aisle. My fear is I have heard horror stories of photographers that can get in your way while walking and block the eye line to the groom. I heard once a photographer knocked over a topiary. I’m also afraid that if I did the first look my husband doesn’t show emotion too much so it might kind of fall flat. I absolutely hated my engagement pictures so now I’m trying to make up for them with my wedding pictures which is why I weighing this so heavily. I think I really messed up on choosing photographers, I let my mom decide and now I regret it.
By the way I am putting together a book of photo must haves to make sure I don’t hate my wedding pictures. If anyone has any suggestions of cute or romantic poses post them!!
Post # 3
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if you hated your epics, neither a first look or a must have list is going to ensure you don’t hate your wedding pics. I’d do whatever I had to do to switch to a new photographer. A must have list is something you give the photographer to let them know what shots you want-if the photographer sucks it won’t make the shots any prettier.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
I have to agree; if you didn’t like your epics, do everything you can to find a new photographer that you DO like.
Post # 5
@shootznladrz89: I’m gonna regret asking but what did you hate about your engagement photos?
ive never heard of a photag getting in the way of a first look. I can only add that mine went great.
Post # 6
We did a first ‘not look’ since I wanted to grab a few pics before the ceremony but MrDane is quite traditional and didn’t want to see me at all. I also agree that if you hated your engagement pics, it is probably best to find a new photographer.
Oh, here’s my ‘not looking’ pic so you see what I am talking about… it was one of my favorite moments of the day!
We passed a note to each other around a screen so we couldn’t see each other.
Post # 7
I love this. My man thinks first looks are “insane” and I kinda like the tradition of waiting til you’re walking down the aisle… but I know we’ll both be nervous and no one calms us down as well as each other.
Post # 8
Is it at all possible to get a new photographer? If so I would consider it. Even being out a deposit (depending on how much) might be worth it for pictures you like.
Post # 9
I think that’s the cutest idea ever!
Post # 10
Agreed with the rest of the girls.. If you hate your photographer, you should def find a new one because the last thing you want to do is look back at your wedding photos regeneration upset or angry If moments weren’t captured.
as far as the first look goes, I am ALLL for it!! It’s a time where my future husband and I can have a few moments together before all e craziness.. I also didn’t like the fact that when I walk down the aisle and go thru the ceremony, we wouldn’t be able to talk to each other and share I the excitement. Plus I want to enjoy our cocktail hour with family and friends!
check out this website I found on Pinterest “7 reasons to see the bride before the ceremony” http://thethingswewouldblog.blogspot.com/search?q=7+reasons+to+see+the+bride
Post # 11
It sounds like the first look and the hating the photog are two separate issues. If the issue of your e-pics is fixable, talk to your photographer about what didn’t work for you – a professional should be able to work with you. If it’s something that can’t be fixed maybe book another photographer.
A pro should be able to do a first look without getting in the way. There would be nothing wrong with talking to your photographer about wanting to make sure they’re unobtrusive if you have a first look. We’re doing a first look, talked about it with our photographer, and they were totally on board and talked about how to do it and were supportive.
Post # 12
What I hated about the pictures was I just felt like they weren’t creative or engagementy (if that makes sense). Like there should be a slight difference between engagement pictures and any other pictures, there weren’t any of us kissing or anything or any of my ring, which i feel like are engagement staples.
I didn’t know enough to specify what I wanted which is my fault and why I am adamant to make sure I know what I want for the wedding. I just felt like the photographer would do kissing or ring pictures without me having to instruction her. It just didn’t encompass what I wanted to capture. The day was kind of dreary and sucky too but we had already rescheduled twice due to weather that we were just like ok lets get it over with.
I could just be getting all worked up and crazy over something that really isn’t their fault. Or I could just be crazy and letting my meddling mother get to me, she wasn’t thrilled with them either.
theres the link to the pictures let me know what you think
Post # 13
Need login info to view that site FYI
Post # 14
Yep, totally stealing the idea
Post # 15
oh duh that’s dumb of me….I can’t download the pictures let me see if I can figure a way to post a few
Post # 16
The username is emilyandzac and the password is 46725